Did anyone ever notice how half the PM's in /r/creepypms aren't even creepy? I'm not talking about the cockshots, or guys asking to have sex and stuff like that. Some are just private messages from guys on dating sites, who get upset when the woman doesn't seem to be interested.

Regardless, the question you need to ask is as following: Why would you make a subreddit where you post evidence of guys who seems interested in having sex with you? What's the point to that? The reason for it is actually very simple: Validation.

Women judge other women, based on how they relate to men. An older woman is judged based on whether she has children, whether she is married, and if so, to what kind of man. Young women primarily judge each other based on how wealthy their family is, and how much attention they receive from boys. Look at any high school, and you will notice that the girls group together based on how attractive they are.

Girls keep check on each other. If a girl receives attention from a boy, she rises in standing to the other girls. It's not uncommon for friends in high school to send fake text messages to each other, so that they can pretend to other girls that they got attention from a boy. Some girls will actually invite a friend over during online conversation with a boy, just so that the other girl can confirm that the boy is in fact real.

Of course, girls also need validation of their appearance. If you compare pictures of single boys and girls on Facebook, you will notice something strange on the pictures of single girls. The single girls have comments from their friends calling her pretty, generally from other girls, who are also single. This is a kind of favor that girls do to other girls, to make them feel pretty. For girls in relationships this is generally not the case, as the other girls now see it as the responsibility of her boyfriend to make her feel pretty. However, validation from other girls hardly works as well as validation from guys of course.

This brings us back to the "Creepy PM". For a single girl, or even a girl in a (lackluster) relationship, harassment from boys raises conflicting feelings. On the one hand, there is a genuine feeling of harassment. On the other hand however, there is an experience of validation. Even a guy who is not desirable to you as a partner is still valid as a measurement of your own attractiveness. If you show any sign of enjoying the attention, you reveal yourself to be on "their level", and you will also face accusations of being "easy". However, if you complain about the attention, you can elevate yourself above it.

So why do we have a subreddit, run by feminists, where young women can complain about the attention they receive from guys on the internet? The answer is obvious: This is a form of self-help therapy! Feminists are women in need of validation, and /r/creepypms is the place where you can complain about the endless hordes of fedora-wearing neckbeards who are beneath you and yet strife to be with you.

Shall I take it a step further? I will. I remember watching a Dutch documentary, where a woman concerned about growing old goes to a group of construction workers, and asks them why they no longer yell things at her when she walks past them. She needed the validation, and yet she no longer receives it.

However, it works the other way as well. To see ANOTHER woman receive validation from men, makes a woman feel unattractive, because she realizes that other women of her age receive more attention from men than she does. There is one exception to this rule, which is when a woman can tell that the man realizes that the other woman is simply a better match.

Many radical feminists actually warn men against taking any sort of initiative towards women. Why is this? Because seeing another woman receive attention from a man causes the radical feminist psychological anguish!

Some heterosexual women are actually so insecure about their looks, that they mistakenly believe themselves to be asexual. They realize that they have no desire to be in a relationship, but the reason for this is because to enter a relationship would diminish the attention they receive from men, on which they by now psychologically depend.

So, is it great when guys constantly tell you you're pretty? No. There's also the problem of addiction. If you receive continual validation from people, you eventually become dependent upon the validation. It's fine to tell a girl she's pretty if you're dating her. Don't go on random good looking people's Youtube videos and tell it to them however, because they will grow addicted to unhealthy levels of validation.