Why guys don't talk about feelings

Everything_Is_Rape · 2013-09-12T16:19:13+00:00

The worst part about this comic is that it condones rape.

Captain_Ameristralia · 2013-09-12T14:44:18+00:00

Almost this exact same thing happened to me

EdgarFrogandSam · 2013-09-12T14:41:32+00:00

Man, that hit close to home.

avantvernacular · 2013-09-12T12:50:48+00:00

That's a pretty good summation.

angryman22 · 2013-09-12T14:31:05+00:00

haha so true.

2013-09-12T16:34:22+00:00

Pretty much sums it up for me.

PlaySwitzerland · 2013-09-12T17:23:41+00:00

Have your experiences with women really been this shallow? My past boyfriends and my current husband tell me how they feel without hesitation- they always have. I love it and I've never thought less of them for doing so. It's just hard for me to wrap my mind around this being the norm. If a girl or ANYONE judges you just because you opened up to them, then fuck them. (Figuratively, of course.) Move on to a better, less vapid woman that can handle your thoughts, feelings and general humanity.

P.S. I can't imagine even being upset over someone that sucks that much.

DukeMentat · 2013-09-12T15:20:37+00:00

Going to be bit pessimistic but Ive normally been someone who normally expresses himself naturally and freely. As time has gone however Ive found three reasons why Ive been less inclinded to share what Im going through emotionally with others.

First, it can be unattractive. Sure, some women have the best of intentions and do want you to open up. Key word being "some." Some dont care. Some want you to share but when they want you to, not when you need to. Some want you to say things they will agree with or things they anticipate. Some are just waiting for their turn to speak about what theyre thinking, feeling, or going through. Some can never be told anything that might be even slightly critical of them. Its a gamble and women are human and can not give a shit and be as selfish as any man. So if theres a high risk of alienating, appearing unattractive, or starting a fight, all losing situations, well, Sun Tzu did say dont fight a battle you cant win.

Note: the previous "some" observations could most likely apply to guys as well so they apply more to "romantic interests" then just women.

Second, for folks other then girls you may be interested in, they can come off as just as indifferent but the main thing is its not their job. They mean well when they want you to share but the anticipated result is you get it done and move on, not for them to be your therapist and who can blame them. They got their own lives to live but if things dont improve for you, either in your life or emotionally, you just go from being the friend who needed to vent to being the friend who wont stop going on about their problems everytime you hang out and no one wants to be that person.

Third, and this is a big one for me, it solves nothing. Recently went through a rough patch in my life. Hell, still going through it now. However, theres only so many times I can tell people in my life the same story over and over before it stops feeling like Im venting constructively and instead am indulging in sort of emotional masterbation that accomplishes nothing when I could instead focus myself and my negative emotions to fix the problems in my life (harnessing the Dark Side of the Force if you will).

In summary, sometimes its better to just address the causes of your issues and move on, rather than brood over your feelings.

sillymod · 2013-09-12T17:33:17+00:00

This is not relevant to this subreddit.

2013-09-12T18:00:29+00:00

I've had this happen several times.

goodguyluke · 2013-09-12T16:07:07+00:00

This made me cry. Im 31 year old successful businessman in nyc. Fuck women. Who can recommend a good MRA group to join?

Dimitrisan · 2013-09-12T16:04:58+00:00

Welcome to /r/mensrights where generic stereotypes about men and women get upvoted to the top.

Can we please get this shit out of here - it makes this sub look awful.

2013-09-12T17:25:35+00:00

Yep. Though the women will no doubt downvote this, shake their heads and go, "That's not how it is at all," once again completely ignoring what the men around them have to say on the matter.

How does that old saying go? Women don't want to hear what men think. They want to hear what they think repeated to them in a deeper tone.

Title	Why guys don't talk about feelings
Author	DevilishRogue
Upvotes	113
Comments	43
Date	September 12, 2013 12:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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