Why splitting everything 50/50 with your partner might not be fair

HenryCGk · 2022-04-30T13:16:45+00:00

When feminist figured out the result of equal pay is equal spendings lololol

ThumpingBump · 2022-04-30T11:11:59+00:00

Go by percentage, I earn 70% of the monthly income and my fiance dies 70% of the house work.

xsplizzle · 2022-04-30T14:39:06+00:00

‘If you earn less than your partner because you have a part-time job and spend the rest of your day watching Netflix or playing Xbox, then it might be unrealistic to expect your partner to pick up the tab for everything,’ says Robert Davies, a reltaionship expert at Condoms.co.uk.

‘Equally, if you have a part-time job or even no job because you have young children with your partner, then it may be perfectly reasonable to expect your partner to pay the bills and to foot the tab for date night.’

geeee, i think someone might have a certain bias here, shocking i know.

also, they cant even spell relationship

EsraYmssik · 2022-04-30T11:00:07+00:00

tl;dr It's better to not be a dick to your partner about money if you want your relationship to last.

In other news, your dog wants steak.

springy · 2022-04-30T15:36:13+00:00

I agree with the article. You can't expect a housewife to pay half the bills, for example. So, she contributes by doing the cooking, cleaning, and keeping her husband satified with plenty of bedroom gymnastics. Same with women who choose low paying jobs: they can pay less towards the bills, and make up for it by doing more around the house. And if they don't like housework, they can pay more towards the bills. Giving women choices!

63daddy · 2022-04-30T20:11:42+00:00

Men work more and earn more than women overall (the pay gap feminists are always complaining about). Women however spend more money than men. In other words, there is a transfer of wealth from men who work more and earn more to women who dined more. Obviously, it’s not equal.

andejoh · 2022-04-30T22:14:31+00:00

What about sex equity? I suspect wanting more sex than your partner and expecting them to "split the difference" would be considered abusive.

PFfounder · 2022-04-30T14:28:23+00:00

Yeah, feminism

Drayenn · 2022-04-30T23:34:43+00:00

Tbh me and my gfjust put proportional to salary in a joint account for joint expenses. Everything else stays in my pockets for my own use. Its the fairest/lowest drama method imo. I used to put less than my gf but since i changed majors i put more and have no issues with it.

MrStone1 · 2022-05-01T03:29:24+00:00

Women should pay all of it, Every date.

I'll stretch to a big mac meal and a few bongs, But if I don't get my dick sucked you can walk home.

traveller1976 · 2022-04-30T22:46:56+00:00

Disgusting article trying to have their cake and eat it to. Soon they'll say the man pays more but it's an equal share. Better not to play the game at all, or if she wants some D she should spend. Goodness knows they're desperate enough nowadays.

nevermock · 2022-05-01T01:17:12+00:00

I can't read it. It's a bunch of fluff that says nothing significant.

xcheshirecatxx · 2022-05-01T02:31:54+00:00

Yeah my partner wasn't there to split my studies which allow me to make more money

He also fucked someone who is not trustable, and she got pregnant.

I was with a bad person too, my partner didn't pay half of what I lost

I expect to pay for what's my responsibility and he does the same

Potato-with-guns · 2022-05-01T04:57:04+00:00

It generally isn’t fair to do 50/50. If you have to be a breadwinner for the family regardless of your gender you should obviously pay, but it’s only a fair relationship then if they are unable to work in some way, which includes caring for children or otherwise taking care of home. If you make more you should generally pay more but that’s still circumstacial, based on how much work they put into both earning money and the relationship as a whole.

To summarize, 50/50 is almost never fair, you should base who pays for what on factors like who wanted it, who makes more money, who takes care of home, etc.

slaveknightgael40 · 2022-05-01T05:00:45+00:00

You can get defacto pre nups

UnconventionalXY · 2022-05-01T13:45:01+00:00

Why is it fair that someone who works harder (ie gets more income) should subsidise the other person's living "costs" (where costs includes domestic chore labour)?

If that person did not have a partner, there would be no subsidy plus 100% of the costs of living, without any overall saving from the efficiencies of 2 people sharing common overheads. Simply being together reduces costs which should be divided evenly.

It's shared living costs which need to be divided 50/50, not everything: cosmetics and other individual usages don't count. This should also mean that any form of labour needs a cost associated with it, so that tasks don't have to be divided 50/50 as long as the overall cost is.

It gets complicated if one person, for example, likes to keep a fire going 24/7 for their own comfort, but the other person doesn't use the same amount of energy or one person takes hour long showers and the other 3 minutes: it's not possible to correctly apportion costs because there is no individual measure. It can be better estimated though if effort is put into monitoring the differentials, but most people can't be bothered or feel it is splitting hairs.

In my opinion, human beings should live separately except when they need to be together and then they can switch between each dwelling 50/50. This might also work for families where children spend 50/50 in each residence and the other parent stays over if necessary. Being together is too much friction, although it does have some efficiency advantages.

No_Yak_3723 · 2022-05-01T15:34:17+00:00

I’m currently working full time (as is my husband). Once my husband is done with residency, I plan to move to part time since we want 2 kids until the kids are both in middle school. Then I will resume full time work. This is a sacrifice on my career because once you back down, you cut your current and future earning potentials.

And I say ”sacrifice” career because one of us has to do it. Otherwise, no one would be able to pick the kids up, be there for the kids emotionally (nannies are not a substitute for parenting, in both of our opinions), make it to their concerts/games, drive them around to afterschool activities, etc.

I’m curious… from this group’s prespective… if we got divorced, what would you men think would be fair? - alimony? - Compensation? - asset allocation? - Child custody? (Fyi - He already knows he wouldn’t fight for custody, he has said to me many times “if I raised the kids alone, they would just die… just die. That’s why I have you”) - Child support?

(we have talked over all of these, and we’re making a post nup, on my request, and I’m curious what your thoughts would be)

nacho-chonky · 2022-05-04T21:39:24+00:00

The only thing I disagree with in that article is how it mentioned that women do the majority of the housework and chores? Since when? I have always had to do more work in relationships than the other way around and it really grinds my gears when they say shit like that

Dickedbythedevil · 2022-04-30T16:53:12+00:00

If you make 70% you pay 70%, how is this not obvious?

2022-04-30T22:48:11+00:00

I’m a teen and my parents do this and it’s very fair for my parents because a lot of times dads don’t even get there kids

Title	Why splitting everything 50/50 with your partner might not be fair
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Date	April 30, 2022 10:50 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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