Women's power over me

regents · 2014-12-25T11:32:08+00:00

If she was actually falsely accusing you that would be one thing, but you're just speculating that she will. Go and take her to small claims court.

lordslag1 · 2014-12-25T12:58:10+00:00

Proceed as you normally would, and Always Be Recording.

mjociv · 2014-12-25T12:02:51+00:00

If you haven't engaged in sexual intercourse then she doesn't have anything. Besides, the civil small claims court would see right through what she's doing without a police report backing up any of what she said. .

As far as I can tell this is a completely irrational fear. You'd be going to a real court not some halfass campus hearing. Courts are expensive to run, take themselves fairly seriously, and hate feeling like their time is being wasted.

Why are you only afraid of being accused of rape? Accusing you of being late on rent, or eating her food or some other smaller thing would help justify wanting to abruptly leave without necessarily requiring police action to seem credible in court.

atheist4thecause · 2014-12-25T12:40:45+00:00

It really comes down to risk/reward. Personally, though, I think this is a slippery slope. If you start thinking this way you open yourself up to all kinds of unfavorable decisions, especially when it comes to dating.

I would suggest not making a big deal about it to her. Just let her go and then file the claim in court. That way if she tries to claim you raped her after that you have the protection of showing that it's vengeance for taking her to court. Try to have people around when dealing with her if you think it's a real issue.

You likely pay close attention to men's rights since you are here. You have probably heard a lot about false rape accusations. This makes it seem like false accusations are constantly happening, but in reality, there are still a relatively low number of rape accusations.

morrispated2 · 2014-12-25T15:47:55+00:00

You are just as bad as all the radical feminists that treat all men as though they are rapists. Not all women are false accusers and it doesn't sound like she has given you any reason to believe that she would do that. You're giving us all a bad name and pulling the exact same shit the radical feminists pull. Just fucking stop!

plumranger · 2014-12-25T16:15:39+00:00

This seems like a bit of irrational fear, just because she has the power to do so doesn't mean she will. Its like saying if someone got into a physical fight with another person, it makes them capable of murder. Yes they may have violent tendencies, but it doesn't mean that they will go to that extreme.

You said you're having a dispute with her about this, but then said you later found out its illegal for her to just up and leave in Louisiana. Does she know its illegal? Have a sit down with her and let her know that if she choose to leave you will pursue compensation in small claims court, as per the law. If you're truly feeling paranoid that she might try some kind of underhanded tactic, record the conversation. Although I would look into your state's laws on recording a private conversation. They vary from state to state, and can also depend on if you're recording audio or video. To be honest though, even if it is illegal to record the conversation, I would still do it and keep it under wraps unless she actual does accuse you of something. I would rather have a charge of illegally recording someone than a rape or dv charge.

But I really wouldn't expect her to do that. Just like most men don't rape and have a moral stance against it, most women don't file false accusations.

Nomenimion · 2014-12-26T09:01:47+00:00

Your concerns are valid. She can lie about you with impunity, and that makes you a second class citizen.

Tread carefully.

MRSPArchiver · 2014-12-25T11:16:02+00:00

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kmaster2520 · 2014-12-25T16:33:10+00:00

Keep recording.

richardnorth · 2014-12-25T17:25:08+00:00

Invest in quality recording equipment and always record your interactions with her.

thetruthbetold1 · 2014-12-25T23:43:19+00:00

if your good looking try to start a kickstarter just like the girl who could not pay her rent do to a uber ride home . as sad as it sounds i would donate to it . i understand your situation .

Ludus22 · 2014-12-26T08:29:32+00:00

What you guys aren't getting here is that he is highlighting the fact that a woman can ACTUALLY FUCKING DO THAT and ruin a guy's life. It's true. Steps a woman has to take to ruin a man's life:

Step 1. Point finger

Step 2. Say "He raped me"

Step 3. Man's life ruined

Step 4.??

Step 5. Profit

Steps a man has to take to ruin a woman's life

Step 1. Have a legitimate, actual case and trial

Step 2. Walk through mordor

Step 3. Crawl on his knees on 100 miles of stone

Step 4. Proceed to crawl on knees through 100 miles of lego bricks

Step 5. Give up worldly possessions

Step 6. .000000000001% chance of actually winning trial and ruining the deserving woman's life

Step 7. Oops didn't work

Step 8. Left worse off than before

Step 9. Counter-claimed and life, in turn, counter-ruined

Step 10. ??

Step 11. Prison rape

guywithaccount · 2014-12-27T18:09:19+00:00

I say go ahead and sue her if you have to.

Look, not all rape accusations lead to convictions. Most don't. She's gonna have to convince people that she was so desperate to get away from you that she can't even stick around to pay the last of her rent but wasn't willing to go to the police. That's a pretty weak argument. You can't even be sure she's gonna falsely accuse.

I happen to like the idea about sitting her down and having a conversation about how it's illegal for her not to pay her rent and how you'll sue her if she doesn't while secretly recording it, because it's the perfect opportunity for her to fuck up and make threats that will ruin her if it ends up going to court.

Alternately... it's just money, and one roommate's rent can't be that much. I hate to tell people not to stand up for themselves, but if you can easily afford to lose however many hundreds of dollars it is (and compared to lifetime earnings, this is a drop in a bucket), you could just let it go. It's not like she'll ever be your roommate again. You might have to live with the shame of cowardice for the rest of your life, but you'll have peace of mind. Sometimes the right thing is not always the best thing, and it is sure as hell not always the easy thing.

td9red · 2014-12-25T18:38:30+00:00

Sadly, many roommates cut out on each other before the lease is up. This happened to me in law school. I had two roommates. One decided she was going to try to finish 1 semester early and not pay rent. It just so happened that she had broken the mirror in the bathroom. She had a car that wouldn't start in the garage that had to be towed. She stayed until February to take the bar exam. Than paid one month and forfeited her security deposit for another month of the rent. We ended up forfeiting part of our deposit for the crap she broke and the cost of having her car removed from the garage.

As far as your false rape allegation fear... way out there dude, way out there...

JackBadass · 2014-12-25T18:55:36+00:00

This is a stupid concern, OP. Just sue her and get this resolved. She might cry rape, she might not. She also might kill you and you might be abducted by aliens. Unless you have reason to suspect she's going to cry rape, then don't be a puss.

khal534 · 2014-12-26T02:49:19+00:00

wow, dude you have some problems. you went 0-60 real quick. the world is full of assholes , yes. Not every men is a rapist, and not every women will lie about rape. thats an irrational fear, which from our pov has yet to be justified, since you have given us no evidence of such to come to that conclusion, but your own fears.

therealmasculistman · 2014-12-25T20:44:56+00:00

No wonder we don't get anywhere. The OP brings up a valid point and a lot of blue pill morons are telling him to get over it. Like fasle accusations don't happen. Were the fuck have you blue pill morons been? If he was saying that he is afraid of the joker from batman then I can understand some of the comments but what he is afraid of is very real and I don't blame him for being cautious and wanting to keep his ass out of jail.

Title	Women's power over me
Author	Blindocide
Upvotes	20
Comments	57
Date	December 25, 2014 11:15 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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