Doesn't using stats to shape your FULL understanding of the dating world ultimately limit you?

Dora_Bowl · 2019-12-28T16:22:33+00:00

Stats don't create limits, limits create stats.

AsclepiustheSage · 2019-12-28T20:28:49+00:00

Not all women will drop their panties asap for an attractive man, and not all men will drop their boxers asap for an attractive woman

No, men will drop their boxers for any woman - attractive or not.

reluctantly_red · 2019-12-28T16:40:14+00:00

Ultimately it is a numbers game and learning to work at your own strengths.

Which of course means that "stats" are incredibly useful.

LillthOfBabylon · 2019-12-28T18:13:12+00:00

Yes it does because love/sex is based on emotions than logic/rules. Using stats is trying to put hard strict logic and rules into it. Even then, alot of stats guys are using ARE WRONG and dont show the full story.

As for online dating, it depends on the individual to how seeiously they take. With that in mind, no one should be taking Tinder seriously. That’s no better than learning about women in strip clubs.

A guy might believe girls only care about looks because HE only cares about a girl’s looks.

AntifaSuperSwoledier · 2019-12-28T19:04:12+00:00

The rules and heuristics TRP uses may be beneficial to people who couldn't figure out dating before. Remember none of these men were successful previously - that's why they gravitated to TRP. A lot were legit NiceGuys who expected sex as a sort of reward for normal person behavior.

They can probably benefit from simplistic rules, since their normal behavior didn't work for them. They were unable to be successful through expeience or intuition.

For example, with online dating, I really doubt women are on there actively searching for their next sex partner or boyfriend all the time. It's used more as a pastime, and sometimes she's just bored and wants to conversate or get attention. Why is this taken so seriously?

So this is a good example. While some people might be able to understand this, the kind of people who need TRP don't. They're the type of people who would have invested a ton of time in chatting up a stranger online and then getting mad it didn't lead to sex or a relationship. Thus a rule like "don't double text" or "make immediate plans for the next day" could be very beneficial to them.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2019-12-28T20:05:01+00:00

TRP isn’t just stats. It’s a culmination of honest men’s experience combined with obvious knowledge current societal narratives reject.

An example would be a response to the “women are just as strong and capable as men” bullshit by showing an average man beating the fuck out of multiple female cops in Sweden.

Everyone already knows deep down women being enforcers is ridiculous by their own experience. The video just highlights the insanity of caving into narratives.

CHAD_TDK · 2019-12-28T22:50:59+00:00

Stats is data, and it's data that reflects the state of things aka: reality.

Now, some level of knowledge and understanding is necessary in order to interpret statistics and make inferences to get a grasp on life and - maybe - influence our behavior.

Therefore ~IMO~ actually it's not an opinion statistics are useful within any context.

Here's what's interesting: in most people, belief systems and emotions influence worldviews and behaviors than factual matters (e.g.: statistics) do. [source: psychology (a science)].

acron5n5 · 2019-12-29T10:33:18+00:00

I prefer stats over anecdotal evidence any day of the week, but guess most ppl use stats only when it confirms their own experience.

not all men will drop their boxers asap for an attractive woman

Well. A somewhat tricky way to point out that gays exist.

tiposk · 2019-12-28T17:09:40+00:00

Yes. Stats very often don't reflect a causal relationship between two variables. Waiting for sex, for example, won't make the relationship last longer as relationship outcomes are most likely the product of the personalities of people who wait and not the 3-month rule.

Also, most stats come from self-reporting or idealistic scenarios. Just because most men say they prefer agreeable women doesn't mean that agreeableness is high in their priorities.

Finally, even if stats show a trend, you are an individual with its own needs. It doesn't matter is most women prefer a high earning spouse. Appealing to this kind of women will do you no good if you have an allergy to be a provider.

Stats are interesting to read, but you need to be very careful when applying them to your real life.

TheJim66 · 2019-12-28T17:15:14+00:00

You aren't supposed to take them as absolutes.But completely ignoring them and thinking there is no pattern and "rules" to things is also foolish.

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Pastelitomaracucho · 2019-12-28T19:30:07+00:00

Of course.

That is how you end up with people bitching about how there aren't any good men/women left.

Transmigratory · 2019-12-28T21:16:54+00:00

No, it is used to express one's sentiments and perceptions in the dating marketplace.

Dora_Bowl · 2019-12-28T16:45:44+00:00

'average', 'leagues', 'AF/BB', '3 date rule', '3 month rule'

I do not know why people have to accept any of these concepts or rules as coherent. None of these seem to be necessarily true or laws written into the universe.

great_sco0tt · 2019-12-28T16:32:54+00:00

I found out, it doesn't matter at all. Thankfully found out about all this internet cultures long after I had sex and dated so it didn't affect my worldview, but I cannot imagine what kind of person I'd grew up into if, say, I found out about PUA or TRP at 16. I'd probably be pretty miserable and scared of any interaction with women or something.

Because in fact, it all just doesn't matter, just like in any other aspect of life. It's all about luck partly. You are lucky if you a good first job out of college, studying hard and being social might increase your chance, but it's up to chance anyway. Similarly, men are lucky to get a first gf who is not a total weirdo. Being hot, smart and social might increase their chances, but there is no guarantees.

Stats are interesting to see a trend but they shouldn't have any effect on your life or decisions whatsoever.

Title	Doesn't using stats to shape your FULL understanding of the dating world ultimately limit you?
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Date	December 28, 2019 4:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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