Looks, or money?

gobblegoobleoneofus · 2022-07-17T03:49:43+00:00

where are you meeting these childfree women. that's exactly what i'm looking for and have the most trouble finding

and to answer your question i look for money

purplish_possum · 2022-07-17T06:04:08+00:00

I've gotten plenty of girls before, but only when in shape

Yeah -- that's the way things work. I'm very tall and have decent features. Unfortunately, I gain weight very easily. When I'm in shape getting women is easy. When I'm not it's almost impossible.

Money's nice and certainly makes one's life easier. However, when it comes to getting dates looks are at least 90% of the battle.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2022-07-17T03:52:09+00:00

You should choose therapy

midwesternMD · 2022-07-17T03:44:34+00:00

What the fuck did I just read?

Look- if you are a man who wants kids, you’ll have to date women until you find one who wants kids with you. Or you could adopt. Or you could find a surrogate and an egg donor.

You don’t need to choose between your fitness and your finances. Stop eating like garbage, and the fat will melt away. Keep working but prioritize enough “me” time so that you can go out on dates.

But most importantly, if what you’ve written is truly reflective of how you feel, go do some therapy. There’s too many layers of toxicity and flawed logic mixed in there that just aren’t suitable for dating or parenting.

GottaPSoBad · 2022-07-17T03:50:08+00:00

I mean, there are ways to stay in shape without necessarily inhibiting your workflow. Home gym as opposed to gym membership, calisthenics versus cardio (assuming your cardio is usually outdoors), etc, etc.

That said, I'd always put money first since it's the key to personal freedom in general. But again, really think you're being shortsighted in forcing yourself to choose.

Lastly, I have a decent guess on the children thing: you're subconsciously picking the type of women who don't want kids. It's definitely not some common thing that you have 50/50 odds on hitting accidentally. Your type is in some way aligned with that preference on their part.

Valuable-Marzipan761 · 2022-07-17T07:10:36+00:00

if your goal is just to have children, get rich and find a poor woman. tell her you'll pay for childcare and everything she wants.

the relationship will be terrible but you will probably find someone that goes for it

BoogersAndSugar · 2022-07-17T10:43:56+00:00

Looks, by far, bar none, by long shot, point blank and period! Money/status without meeting that minimum looks threshold will only "attract" either gold diggers or women who merely settle for you.

abagus101 · 2022-07-17T03:56:14+00:00

Definitely seek out a woman of your own people if you want to raise children so you're coming from the same cultural framework, imo it's important for your children to have a strong sense of culture and identity.

Money really doesn't matter as much as people think it does, Kanye is a billionaire but he's still a divorced loser. You have to focus on values above all, make yourself into a great man and "walk the walk" so to speak.

2022-07-17T04:52:56+00:00

If you think it's because you're "ethnic", then go find someone of the same ethnicity as you. People do tend to wanna spread their genes among their own ethnicity. It's just a natural preference. It's incredibly rare for a woman not to wanna have a kid that looks as much as possible like her.

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MickIsBlue · 2022-07-17T04:09:47+00:00

Looks are more important for girls picking you buy for overall happiness it's money

Jimmymcgee22 · 2022-07-17T04:44:23+00:00

You don't need to spend hours everyday working out to lose weight. Just eat in a caloric deficit and you will lose weight naturally. I have a friend who lost like 60 pounds in like 6 months and didn't even work out at all.

That being said, I would rather look good and make less money than be fat and out of shape and make more. I care about my health and confidence more than how much money is in my bank account.

I feel nauseous to think of the weak, worthless men who allowed a society to come to be where the basic idea of having a family is so inaccessible. I'll curse their selfishness to my fucking grave. Insects.

The real weak, worthless men are the men who have the most kids. They have a ton of kids with different women and leave behind fatherless children creating a more degenerate society. The world is so overpopulated as it is. I think everyone should stop having kids because everyone's quality of life would improve. Why even have a kid? Just to waste 20 years and tons of money and time raising them? Why risk having kids with someone when you will probably end up divorced?

I'm ready to take any ludicrous measure necessary: stop working to focus completely on fitness; leaving the country; becoming poor (I hear they have more kids); becoming homeless (I hear they have more kids), whatever it fucking takes.

Your urge to have kids baffles me. Why do you want kids so badly? Having a kid is not something special basically everyone does it. Kids are annoying and loud and messy and tons of work.

Fat_Papaya · 2022-07-17T10:32:46+00:00

Are you so busy that you can't just put in an hour a few times per week to exercise a bit? Just changing what you eat will help a bunch too. And what's your ethnicity?

Also you're probably gonna get banned if you haven't already haha

AndrewPotato34 · 2022-07-17T10:53:08+00:00

For me it's impossible to workout at a gym properly for example because of the 8 to 5 job which in reality is a 6 to 6 job 6am to 6pm. Because i get up at 6Am and if you think about that's when the work actually starts: getting ready for work, clothes,shower,making breakfast,checking the house appliances, preparing your backpack,etc.. Then i leave between 6:30 - 6:50 i don't have a car so i have to public transport all the way to work i usually get the bus and the metro and i arrive at work at between 7:30AM - 7:40AM. Then goes the 8 to 5 routine and at 5PM i leave my job to go home and i arrive home usually at 6PM so it's REALLY A 12 HOURS A DAY JOB 6 to 6. After i come home i am mostly exausted i fix some dinner and i wash up. It's already 7PM at that point - the gyms close at 10 PM where i live so what i am supposed to do huh?? The closest gym to me is 20 minutes away so i go there and i workout from 7:30 PM until 9:30-9:40PM? usually the last minutes until 10 they clean the gym so you have to leave pack your bags and take a shower.Then i arrive home at 10:30PM and at 11PM i should be sleeping so i can rest properly until 6AM again and again... that sounds like a punishment if you ask me, especially since i've never made or met people friends at the gym what would have been cool but no....

Title	Looks, or money?
Author	cuckedalt
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Date	July 17, 2022 3:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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