A man who says he wants to committ signals low value and anxiousness to women.

A man should never convey he wants to committ in the dating process. He should only show the woman a good time, be interesting, excite her, have good sex, and then let her decide if she wants to take things further to the next level. The man should just go along with it. That's how relationships should form.

The men who lead with offer/intention to committ are signalling low value and anxiousness to women, and will only attract women seeking security and stability, not desire, lust, chemistry. It is not a man's job to offer commitment. The man's job is to show the woman a good time and let her decide if she wants to commit or not, otherwise the relationship will be on weak foundations and remain imbalanced.

Let's consider this from the perspective of dating apps: Men mentioning "seeking long term / something serious" has almost become synonymous with low sex appeal and inability to appeal to women naturally. It comes off as a desperate attempt to compensate by offering emotional investment and courting upfront. It only serves to repel women and rarely leads to more matches, except for desperate women looking for a retirement plan. Counterintuitively, even women specifically seeking commitment prefer to swipe on men who are "not sure" and in "seeking hookups but open to long term" mode.