Q4BP: What is the difference between being confident and being alpha?

BleuBird18 · 2018-12-05T20:44:29+00:00

I would never describe anyone as 'alpha' unless it was to troll them. The only things that come to mind when I hear people describe 'chad' or 'alphas' says more to me about the person providing the description, than it does about what those words are supposed to embody.

The way twerps use it seems conveniently vague and adaptable. It just means "any behavior they deem to be succesful or masculine"... but it changes and shifts, similar to all their other terms.

Anyone can be confident, but having confidence doesn't mean that person will be well liked or popular.

Uncommon_Sensed_1234 · 2018-12-05T19:56:38+00:00

Any man can act with confidence but an alpha has confidence, looks, social status and financial status.

chloapsoap · 2018-12-05T20:05:38+00:00

Alpha implies a certain degree of machismo. It implies competitiveness mostly. You can be confident without acting macho/competitive.

SpaceWhiskey · 2018-12-05T20:56:20+00:00

The word alpha has so much baggage at this point that I can't take it seriously. All I can hear is Sebastian Gorka's weird voice saying "the alpha males are back" and it makes me snerk. Before it was completely ruined by the internet, I'd say the difference is that a "non-alpha" person can still be confident about things. An otherwise soft-spoken stay at home mom might speak with confidence about a subject she knows a lot about. I suppose confidence is about surety, while alpha is more about an outward projection of control. Under the right circumstances, you could be both confident and not alpha as well as alpha but not confident.

agloelita · 2018-12-05T22:07:42+00:00

From what i can understand being confident is about you in that you know your capabilities and might even take pride i them. You believe in your triumphs. Being alpha on the other hand i am told is about dominating others.

Unconfidence · 2018-12-05T22:53:59+00:00

Alpha is a position of hierarchy. Confidence is not.

PennnyLame · 2018-12-05T19:50:42+00:00

In my opinion, confidence is certainty of the value you bring to the situation and being accurate in your self assessment.

Alpha behaviors and traits are self assuredness, spontaneity, selfishness, lack of inhibitions, visual indicators of physical strength (height, muscles, masculine features) etc.

There is overlap.

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yasee · 2018-12-05T19:54:34+00:00

I don't really know how alpha is defined around here anymore. I guess personally if I had to pick traits that make up an alpha type dude confidence would be among them

[deleted] · 2018-12-06T05:17:10+00:00

Alphas are born. You can't become an alpha.

But you can become a high value confident man.

Alphas have an undefinable something about them that women want to fuck and men want to follow.

verticordia · 2018-12-06T08:16:41+00:00

I think they're the same thing. Any guy I see that has a girlfriend or wife or is genuinely happy being single and doesn't feel the need to talk about dating strategies or how lonely he is, that knows how to present himself, and has emotional intelligence is pretty alpha to me.

TheMedsPeds · 2018-12-06T16:30:24+00:00

When I hear the word alpha I think of a dickhead/macho douche that tries to dominate everyone and actively tries to be above women and other men. Confidence just means you don't have social anxiety nor self-esteem problems (you don't stutter over your words, try to avoid eye contact, are afraid of confrontation.)

petrichordium · 2018-12-05T20:06:33+00:00

Confidence can exist in a vacuum or in the middle of the woods.

“Alpha” requires a social framework. A man who slays with women may be “alpha” to men or women who look up to him, but he may also be a professional non entity. Similarly, the Alpha of your office may be a cheesy insufferable blight to women. Obviously the men lauded as super Alpha by redpill types will often exhibit both qualities, but in general alpha is contextual. Zen koan: if a Chad Alphas in the woods but no one is there to hear it, does he increase his SMV?

Confidence exists on its own terms.

KikiYuyu · 2018-12-05T20:59:59+00:00

Everything I've heard about an "alpha" has painted a clear picture for me: Domineering, intimidating, self-centered, over-confident, overall a force to be reckoned with.

You can be confident without being cocky, pushy, or bullyish.

Title	Q4BP: What is the difference between being confident and being alpha?
Author	firewatchersdaughter
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Comments	25
Date	December 5, 2018 7:43 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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