So, long story short, my bf (let's call him bf) and I have been together for over 1 year, he was ghosting me the day before Valentine's Day, and I was so confused, and well... he wasn't replying so I was like 'okay I'll come to see him like we agreed at 1pm' and his phone was on this time so I came around and he didn't talk or reply, I waited and eventually lost patience and knocked on the door and his father told me he had gone out. And he was off at a meeting so I was like 'oh damn' and I got super worried and now I understood why he was being avoidant but I wish he told me and I was hurt and alone for Valentine's Day.

I had made him a card too but ended up throwing it away especially cos all day he ghosted me, I called and called, and messaged and messaged and nothing then his friend told me that he can't stop hiding it and said my bf has lost love and that he doesn't want a relationship right now and wants to solve his own problems etc and that he was faking stuff for me, it hurts me so much if it's true but my bf hasn't reached out to tell me this and he said that my bf said I'm combative and don't want to break up with me because my reaction wouldn't be great and ofc l'd be sad but I'm hurting, I love my bf so much and apparently he's thinking of some past problems we had but he's always being a bad communicator and never putting in the work for our relationship. and yes that was tough but we were doing so well and getting over it but it made sense on why he was too detached from me.

I am hurting a lot but am debating is no contact right stratedgy and I'm confused bc my bf in person seems so interested when he sees me and he finds me attractive etc and he shows love to me and online he's somewhat sweet too but distant idk what's going on and plus my bf wants to take care of me financially and wants to pay my bills, l'm worrying severely about everything.

He has spoken a lot about financially helping me and being there for me but he hasn't reached out and I really want to solve things, maybe he's angry that I have reached out to his friends and family but I can't help that when he doesn't contact me. I still have feelings and want things to be resolved but I mentally cannot do this torture of being alone an' not having him talk to me.. of course I will continue to stick to no contact but what can I do? It's only his friend saying this and not him.. I'm of course angry that he ghosted me, I have mixed emotions and don’t want to lose this man because everything has been amazing up until this point, I really want to be a wife, a mother and also want this man back. Any advice can be much appreciated.