New Year's Resolutions Thread!

proprioceptor · 2017-12-31T17:20:54+00:00

Return to pre-baby weight
Read 20 books (I have this resolution every year)
Succesfully plant my garden and preserve/can/freeze as much as possible.
Make 4 blankets to give away (trying to channel my crochet hobby to good use)
Bake cookies once a month to give to someone (shut ins from church, elderly relatives, for example)
Write more thank you notes
Work on finding a more constructive way to deal with my jealousy and insecurity. I think this is going to involve seeing a therapist, but the way I've been trying to deal with it up until now has been frustrating for both me and my husband.
Run another half marathon (goal I have succesfully kept every year since 2014)

MxUnicorn · 2018-01-01T00:55:14+00:00

I don't usually do NYRs, but I want to start weight training soon. I started a martial art (hung gar kung fu) which is fun - and social! - but won't help me with my aesthetic goals.

I also want to keep better in touch with my family. I grew up literally next door to my great-grandparents and just down the road from my grandma and aunts, so I never had to try. Now that I'm on my own I find that I've become extremely solitary and I need to learn a new way of being family.

bunniebell · 2017-12-31T18:01:52+00:00

I vow to pick up one new hobby. Relearning playing flute or learning to knit are my top choices

SylviaToday · 2018-01-01T14:43:37+00:00

Find time for prayer or meditation at least a few times a week. Drink less coffee. Don't waste so much time on the internet. Write more. Get better at time management and organization -- but find a way to do this WITHOUT going overboard and turning into my own annoying drill sergeant. Get more one on one time with everyone in my little family.

RosePeonyWisteria · 2018-01-02T02:14:17+00:00

1) Continue focusing on health and wellness to manage my chronic illness

2) Train for and go on an epic urban hike with my SO

3) Read at least 52 books, focusing on quality/learning/content instead of just quantity (157 books this year, but no rhyme or reason to them)

4) Pull off an amazing wedding on our shoestring budget

5) Get back in touch with my carefree, hippy-dippy side in order to help manage chronic stress.

6) Visit at least two more states (trying to hit all 50)

7) Squeeze in at least four local day trips/weekend overnights with my SO both to manage stress and to squeeze the most out of our (hopefully) last year here!

Camille11325 · 2018-01-02T19:25:55+00:00

In 2018 I'll be working on:

Creating/Engaging in more memorable experiences with M, ones that allow us to be truly absorbed in the moment. More focus on enjoying the present intentionally.
Developing more mystery and adding that element into my girl game.
Being more consistent with some new routines that I've made for the house and my beauty routines. I'm trying to take things to the next level and meet our higher standards but there is definitely a transition period happening and I need to stay focused!
Reducing internet usage - something we've been scaling back for a while now but I definitely plan to make use of my library card as well as do more things in our local area. I've also decided to reintroduce singing into my life, so I will be working on my voice and joining my church's choir.

So great to see what everyone else is working on, wishing you all luck!

whitebunny87 · 2018-01-03T00:04:21+00:00

I'm on vacation for the whole of January, so I'm giving myself until then to develop my resolutions and plan for 2018, but I do have one sort of half-baked idea that I want to think about over the next few weeks.

Basically, I want to learn how to be more in tune with myself and work with that rather than against it, being kinder and more gentle towards me.

Once we got away from our normal routine, I realized that many of my goals and rules for myself were negative and restricting. "Don't eat that, you'll put on weight" "don't laze around, you're wasting time" "get better at X, you're not good enough at it now". It's important to know your weaknesses and work on them, but I think I've gone too far with that mindset and have been punishing myself.

So I want to learn how to turn that around a bit and use positive goals rather than negative ones. Eg "eat this way/work out because it's good for you and you deserve to be strong and healthy" "read this book because it's interesting and you feel good when you are engaged with interesting things" "be careful with your spending because you have a wonderful future to build" etc.

I know that's all a bit fluffy haha, but it's an idea I'll be pondering for the next little while and trying to develop into a mindset for being the best me (and the happiest me!) in 2018.

whitcris · 2018-01-03T20:55:54+00:00

I have several beauty goals I listed on r/FeminineNotFeminist, but I have some additional goals I'd like to tackle as well.

Keep using the Flylady System of Home Management.
Homeschool my preschooler. We're working our way through Hooked on Phonics and she LOVES it. I'd like to expand to include other subjects as she's interested.
Read 52 books. Like u/propriocepter and u/RosePeonyWisteria, I have this goal every year, but I'd like to be more intentional and include more non-fiction.
Improve meal planning and cook more at home. I cook at home most days of the week, but would love to expand my repertoire of recipes.

one-thousand-cranes · 2018-01-06T02:30:50+00:00

My RPW New Year's resolutions:

Developing my girl game. I want to get better at being able to attract the kind of man I want to initiate conversations and get to know me better. I've noticed that I usually attract his friend instead, which is a bit frustrating. It's happened two times in the past six months.
Re-evaluate my friendships. You know the saying, "You are the friends you keep?" I have a few SJW friends really into social drinking and hookup culture and a friend who is always surrounded by negativity, and I do not want to be associated with any of those values.
Find like-minded people in my college community. I attend a very liberal college, a fact that has driven me bonkers on multiple occasions. I'm not sure where to find other traditional ladies on campus, but I vow to try my best!

theartnomad · 2018-01-11T23:20:19+00:00

I have so many, but some of them are small and specific or are part of a larger resolution haha! (Also haven't been on reddit aside from on my phone for a while so only just posting these now!)

Personal:

Travel to 2 foreign destinations with my SO (one of them has to be a place neither of us has been). We actually already have one trip planned since I made this resolution.
Fill a sketchbook by the end of the year.
Try one advanced/fine dining recipe a month.
Read minimum 24 books by the end of 2018 - 8 for pleasure, 8 for research (but actually read them back to back rather than speed reading the way I normally read academic texts), and 8 in my native language. I've read 2 so far and I'm half way through a 3rd. If anyone else has reading as a goal, I suggest goodreads, you update it every time you've read with a page number, and it's like a step counter - it makes you wanna do a few more.

Academic:

Start writing again
- start a blog
- get an article published by the end of 2018
- go to an exhibition weekly
Read a short academic article every working day (so far so good on this, I make time for this in the morning)

Health and Fitness:

Grow my hips/butt by 1-2 inches, grow each thigh by an inch and maybe reduce my waist by half an inch.
Re-start pole dancing (already signed up to a block of classes and been to 1 and an open practice session).
Reach a 2 block box oversplit and a 3 block front split on each leg.
Reduce leisure phone time to maximum 20 minutes a day on working days and 60 on days off.

Relationship:

We both need to stop sleeping in pyjamas...
I need to get rid of my bad habit of interrupting my SO/finishing his sentences. It was only cute one time.
Support each other in our savings goals - we usually do well until one of us suggests something fun that costs a lot and then the other one caves...

This is a lot, but I have written specific check points for myself for every month, and smaller goals to work towards my big ones, so I can stay on track. This actually worked for me last year and I achieved majority of my resolutions!

LadyBugOut · 2018-01-05T14:27:47+00:00

My theme this year is mainly focus.

I need to shift my focus on to what's important.

Last year's resolution post I wrote down about a goal weight, house cleaning, and getting my ADHD in order. Welp nope. Life got in the way majorly. My IBD flared up, I started eating terrible, and I had a surgery that only half fixed a problem because my doctor wasn't skilled enough. But at least I can walk and function with minimal pain.

I have another surgery scheduled for next month. Then I have recovery. Hopefully then things will be looking up.

Till then and after then, it's focus.

• focus on what my husband needs from me. My time management skills are what's messing me up all the time. Keeping the house clean, hobbies, projects, I need to learn to balance and simplify.

• focus on my health. I need to get my IBD (Ulcerative Colitis) under control. I know the autoimmune protocol helped a lot last time, but I got lazy and messes up my diet drastically. I've started off this year with a whole30 and I might keep the principles around for longer than 30. Because I'll be going through another surgery, I need to focus on healing and getting back to my old energetic self and not get caught in a rut like I did last time. That I'm just now still crawling out of.

• Journalling. This helps my focus. Writing things down constantly, not just on my phone, keeps me focused on what I need and helps me reflect on little changes. Bullet journaling is a life saver for me and I need to continue it. I need to take time every night before bed and plan out my next day.

I'm hoping working on focus in these areas will help me reach some bigger goals I have and stop failing so much.

Title	New Year's Resolutions Thread!
Author	proprioceptor
Upvotes	9
Comments	46
Date	December 31, 2017 5:13 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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