Any extroverted RPW here?

lovely_red_snow · 2017-08-12T19:05:40+00:00

You can be extroverted and still submissive.

lidlredridinghood · 2017-08-12T17:36:34+00:00

I used to identify as infj.... now im a enfj. Turns out, I just had social anxiety because I didn't know how to play the game.

I didn't play the dating game as a rpw..... my captain now introduced me. I had spent 10 years branch swinging and being incredibly confused why my relationships never worked out.

Of note, ive always been submissive; it was something I fundamentally needed and craved. Unfortunately, I kept trying to not be, because when I let myself be submissive, those breakups hurt far worse.

cerahhh · 2017-08-12T19:47:38+00:00

I'm a mix of an introvert and an extrovert. I'm also naturally submissive and my previous relationship was with a very dominant man who was introverted. Introvert doesn't equate to 'shy and quiet' just as extrovert doesn't mean 'loud and obnoxious', it just means introverts find over-socialisation draining whilst extroverts find their energy depleted after spending too much time by theirselves. There are outgoing introverts and shy extroverts.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2017-08-12T22:26:16+00:00

I'm also an ENFP! My dating decisions were pretty awful, but I got lucky and met an awesome guy

blacktulip00 · 2017-08-12T23:06:44+00:00

I'm a reclusive INTJ and my best friend is a hell bent rainbow vomiting ENFP and I love her

We share many similarities regarding our dating values. So far I know she's been using online dating and going on dates.

She's good at establishing boundaries and knowing when to walk away from a dud.

PumpkinSub · 2017-08-15T20:59:19+00:00

I'm an ENFP as well. I love being social and helping conversation along but that doesn't mean I want to dominate the conversation and I tend to flutter around at parties anyway. Which means I socialize with almost everyone at a party. I've always had an easy time dating as I've found people are drawn to the happy go lucky vibe I put out which can be fun because that means I have choices but it can be harder to weed out the losers. A high value man will see the things you bring to the table as positives and not be put off by your extroverted tendencies. He will make himself known to you as he will have to work a little harder for your attention because ENFPs are generally social scatterbrains. That's okay IMO because you would ideally compliment him and his quarks. If you really like the personality categories, I've read that INTJs are good matches for ENFPs.

carefreevermillion · 2017-08-13T04:47:17+00:00

I'm an ENFP as well, but I'm more introverted than extroverted socially. I found the child-like v childish post here on RPW to be exactly the right tone for an Ne Dom woman to strike with her partner (that's the main function us ENFPs use), as we're naturally playful and endearing, but take it too far and it becomes petulant and needy.

jack_hammarred · 2017-08-16T01:27:40+00:00

Hi! Me!!! I'm here!

I was single, found my boyfriend, then discovered RPW.

I was pretty bold. Still am. We met on EHarmony... I was on the free account just to learn about myself and ended up really liking him from the controlled conversations the app guides you through. There was a "free communication" weekend, so I just went for it. "I think you're great. If you'd like to tell me more about how great you are, my number is ###.###.####. Xo, Jack_Hammarred."

The thing that was nice there? I knew he wasn't on Eharmony to make friends. Although I wasn't looking to find the love of my life, I wasn't NOT open looking for romance.

I'm not an expert, I'm not in the dating pool, but I think it's a matter of being honest about who you are, not being pushy or controlling or demanding, and using your extroversion for good not evil.

I'd love to talk more if you would like :) my boyfriend is introverted. I'm in over my head but then I like it like that.

Edit to add: SO MANY ENFP's! We did it, guys!

1337bun · 2017-08-18T01:17:29+00:00

Yes! I type as an ENFJ. I love being around people, listening to them, helping them. It's the people who get to know about me that I'm selective with :)

Calliope101 · 2017-08-18T14:54:01+00:00

ENTJ. Dating mystifies me. It's just not something I truly understand or do well with. I also have a tendency to say what's on my mind, which probably doesn't help. I've either been in a LTR or I haven't.

I am in an LTR now with a wonderful gent so hopefully my dating days are over.

nattie3789 · 2017-08-18T23:51:29+00:00

ENTJ here, happily married. I found that extroversion made dating easier, not harder, so I'm bit confused by the question...happy to answer any specifics!

whoslana · 2017-08-24T22:10:25+00:00

Im an ENFP!!! And yes I find that my charismatic personality is perceived by many as flirty. Its just me being playful and trying to get people to laugh tho. Dating for me is REALLY easy because people naturally like to be around me. But its hard to find a guy that can make me laugh or really impress me more than I can to him if that makes any sense at all???

glitterchild · 2017-08-13T02:53:39+00:00

Fellow ENFP!!!

ThatStepfordGal · 2017-08-13T12:49:40+00:00

I'm an ENTJ and my captain is an ESTJ. It works very well because though I judge highly and can be controlling, he has proven himself to me to be intelligent and very capable so I submit myself to him to an extent, though I still offer my views and he asks for them. Full submission would be for marriage.

rivertorain · 2017-08-13T09:17:27+00:00

I'm ENTJ which is super masculine :(

IlsaLaszlo · 2017-08-13T13:50:40+00:00

I find it's harder for extroverted ladies to be submissive in the eyes of men. Social butterflies are deemed flirty sooner or later.I had my ex boyfriend constantly joking how I'm flirting with his dad or brother,just because I would really be invested into conversations.He wasn't jealous really,just observing. I noticed my extroverted nature,and true enjoyment I get from connecting with others,turns out almost always to raise suspicion after a while.Could be I'm going about it wrong,but it seems to me that reserved ladies who avoid overly social situations look much more poised,and feminine.

Title	Any extroverted RPW here?
Author	causeimnext
Upvotes	19
Comments	27
Date	August 12, 2017 3:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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