Keeping up appearances when stressed/busy

szsunshine · 2019-12-26T20:05:15+00:00

Some outfit suggestions, not every one will work for you right now, but at different times in my life I have used these and they have worked for me:

Sometimes it helps to put together outfits the night before. Then you don't have to think about what you are going to wear when you are rushed in the morning.

Throw / give away everything in your closet that doesn't look good on you or is ratty, stained, or doesn't fit right. Even though you have fewer items of clothing, it will be easier to decide what to wear because you won't be thinking about the clothes that aren't up to standards.

Have a "go to" outfit (like jeans and a black sweater that was Steve Jobs' uniform, or anything you think is cute and can wear a lot. Steve Jobs wore the same thing every day because he didn't want to be bothered thinking about what to wear...he wanted to get on with his day). If you can't think of anything to wear....go for the "go to" outfit. You can do the same with makeup...simple palette for eyes and cheeks, plus tinted lip balm and mascara.

When you are buying new clothing, think about how you will wear it / match it with what you already own. If you can't think of at least three ideas, don't buy it.

A cute scarf or piece of jewelry and a nice pair of shoes (not fancy, even just flats, just not sneakers or uggs) can upgrade a simple outfit like jeans and a t-shirt or sweater.

There was a teacher who wore the same dress for something like 100 days (school days?) in a row as an experiment and to teach about not consuming too much. Nobody noticed.

If you get a good haircut, you won't have to spend a lot of time on your hair. Ask your hairdresser for something that is "wash and go" (even if you want to spend a bit more time than that.

Also....if you exercise, you might have more energy and look and feel better. The 1/2 hour you spend per day (or couple of hours per week) will pay dividends.

LateralThinker13 · 2019-12-26T20:38:59+00:00

Go with a low-maintenance routine until the stress ends. For example:

1) Get enough sleep. Bags under the eyes are best resolved not with makeup, but with sleep.

2) Shower regularly. Clear, non-oily skin is ideal.

3) Chapstick. Keeps your lips from going worse than average.

4) Ponytail. Just brush until it's not unmanageable, pull it back, call it a day.

This will get you to a baseline of hygiene. Nobody except status-minded b**ches will get on you for just doing this.

sasquatch_pants · 2019-12-26T19:31:20+00:00

This is where I am. Working a lot to be where i want financially, trying to take classes.

I've found that just doing cute pony tails or half up hair looks nice. I haven't had the time for makeup but I take care of my skin. Eating healthy is tough. Trail mix is really easy to put together and can be an easy snack on the go. Maybe try a yoga routine before bed.

misscleanex · 2019-12-26T20:38:55+00:00

College taught me how to be the master of hair in a bun and the 5 minute makeup routine. I still to this day prefer doing my makeup in my parked car at the destination. Lol.

chessk · 2019-12-26T19:33:56+00:00

Always shower when you need to even if it’s just washing your hair and quickly washing your body. Half updos or bobby-pins are easy cute hairstyles. Use tinted sunscreen blush mascara chapstick inner eye corner highlight and eyebrow pencil for a less than 10 minute makeup routine that makes you look alive and put together. Feeling like you look put together will make you feel put together. You deserve to feel pretty so take care of yourself as part of your self care. Edit: lash extensions make washing your face harder. Having healthy looking skin makes people look better than just lashes and bad skin

gg2700 · 2019-12-26T19:43:38+00:00

Following. I’m in a demanding full time program and I have 3 little kids.

rosesonthefloor · 2019-12-26T20:54:57+00:00

For a super simple makeup routine, I always make sure to have mascara, eyebrows, powder, and blush. Lip balm/lip gloss to finish.

For second-day hair, a bit of dry shampoo or baby powder is your friend. Even if you’re throwing your hair just up in a ponytail, it helps to make it look a bit more polished. For ponytails, invest in some pretty hair ties (ones with embellishments, etc) to elevate it.

If you paint your nails with a light/neutral color, chips are harder to see so you can get away with a bit longer between doing them, too.

I also second the other user’s suggestion for having “go-to” outfits that you can rely on when you don’t have a ton of time to put things together.

lovin44 · 2019-12-27T00:32:02+00:00

Eyebrows frame the face so tinting them might be ideal if yours are sparse or light. I have dark eyebrows and still tint them every once in a while just to sharpen them up and make them look freshly done! Chapstick, like someone else suggested makes your lips look plump and hydrated. A solid skincare routine is important. If your skin is happy and healthy, makeup isn’t as necessary to make you look alive!

I rarely wear makeup and to compensate, I make sure my hair is always done. Find a style that flatters you and is easy to maintain.

Create outfits that are low effort to put together but flatter your body type. Consider a capsule wardrobe! This will save you time and money in the long run.

ikfl · 2019-12-27T07:11:54+00:00

Lash extensions are a life saver. I’ve had them for almost 8 years and probably will have them for many years to come. I also tint my eyebrows at home so they look cared for with minimal effort. I spend my time doing a proper skin care routine, and for makeup I use a cream blush that takes two seconds. Sometimes a bit of concealer under the eyes, but that’s optional. Dry shampoo and a brush through the hair and I am out the door. My hair is long, straight and a bit too thin/shiny (Scandinavian hair) l, and I’ve found a really easy to getting nice curls effortlessly. I put my hair in a ponytail at night and roll small strands spritzed with setting spray onto bendy rollers. You could do this all over your head to get traditional vintage curls, but it takes about 20 minutes and can sometimes hurt to sleep on. I roll my bangs separately. This takes about 3-5 minutes and the next day it looks like I’ve spend an hour doing my hair. Before the bendy rollers I used sponge rollers like a real grandma, but it took longer and I found that it damaged my hair a bit when the plastic rods got caught in tiny bits of hair.

One thing I would recommend is that you have a reset day. One day a week when you spend an hour or two just doing maintenance. Do your brows, take a long bath or shower and scrub off all the dead skin. Shave extremely thoroughly. If you take the time to do this general upkeep, you will feel much more in control during the week. It’s also good for your mental health to take some mandated time off worrying about life.

rosebyanyothername1 · 2019-12-26T23:43:49+00:00

lipstick is quick. can apply with your fingers for a natural/quick look. also natural perfume and blush if you can manage it.

ny-lady · 2019-12-27T01:18:36+00:00

A little mascara and some cheek color go a long way even rolled out of bed! Take the 5 minutes. haha. A bit of put together face can help with a dressed down outfit.

rust2stardust · 2019-12-27T02:33:58+00:00

One thing that really helped with my outfits was having a color palette, based on what looks good with your complexion. Everything I own is either navy, black, or jewel tones, so it all goes together. Mixing and matching is super easy. If you keep only the pieces that flatter you and go with your color palette, you will pretty much never have an "off" looking day, clothing-wise.

Lip balm is super important, as others mentioned. I would take it a step further and find a colored lip balm that really flatters you. Deep reds are a power color for me and I feel instantly put together whenever I apply.

Shaving is super time consuming, so don't worry about that too much. Wear pantyhose under skirts if necessary. Try an in-shower moisturizer if your skin is dry. Find a couple hair accessories that you can put on easily, like a ribbon for a ponytail or a simple headband. I honestly do my makeup in the car a lot, but it's super easy since it's just powder and blush. I use a color correcting powder, so I don't have to use concealer, as it corrects both dark circles and redness.

Lastly, I just wanted to say I totally get how you feel, as someone working full time and working on a master's. Try to make some time for yourself, maybe choosing a night or morning routine that makes you feel beautiful (light some candles, take a bath, develop a skincare routine, etc.) Good luck!

Raindrops1984 · 2019-12-27T03:59:23+00:00

My go-to is a cute dress and nude flats. You can line up your dresses and pull one each day.
Keep your jewelry for each outfit pinned to it or on the hanger.

For makeup, get a multi stick (NARS Orgasm is awesome) and some mascara, and dab a bit on as you head out the door.

I wash my hair at night, and let it air dry. Spend about five minutes in the morning blowing out the last moisture and spritz with Marc Jacobs Daisy.

Xena111 · 2019-12-27T15:07:27+00:00

Another tip: wear pearl studs or pearl earrings. It elevates any outfit and instantly gives elegance to any look. You can even wear it while you sleep if they are small so you don't have to put it in while in the morning rush.

dontbemiserable · 2019-12-26T22:55:37+00:00

1) Brazilian blow out. 2) lash extensions 3) laser hair removal For makeup Mascara brows and LIP STAIN. For outfits Find a dress type that works for your body and buy in different colours and patterns. These are the things I found but I am still struggling...

AnnaAerials · 2019-12-27T08:16:17+00:00

Oh my goodness! You sound so much like me. I’ll link some similar threads. I’m so sorry you are feeling this way and it’s great that you’re reaching out.

I highly recommend getting your eyelashes tinted/ lifted. This lasts months and makes a huge difference to your facial appearance. Beyond that unfortunately the only thing I’ve found helps is a bit of retail therapy- buy yourself a nice lipstick or something you can use and be happy to use. Helps relieve stress and helps you look put together. All the best

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Feel free to reach out if you’d like to vent or need any support

hisdhakini · 2019-12-30T07:25:20+00:00

A good haircut is worth every penny.

Get your skin care routine down. Good skin requires less makeup to look presentable, and less skill to look amazing.

Agreeing with the comments about having your wardrobe simple. I actually have a separate area of my closet for professional wear, so I don’t have to look past all the options. Grab what’s clean and go.

Title	Keeping up appearances when stressed/busy
Author	ironsoul99
Upvotes	37
Comments	26
Date	December 26, 2019 7:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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