Hi! This is my first post here, though I've been following this sub for a while. I was wondering what kind of advice you guys can give me about paying for dates as a RPW in an established relationship. I've been seeing my boyfriend for about six months now, and he's paid for our dates 95% of the time. Sometimes I've said that I'll pay for dinner, for example, and when that happens it can go one of two ways: he might say "do you think I'll let you do that?" and pay for me or he might seem a little reluctant but grateful and let me.

I feel a little guilty -- I feel cared for when he pays for me, but I feel like it's selfish to have him paying so much of the time. I also don't make that much money and have to be careful. But although I don't know all of his financial situation, he's not super rich, either. I cook for him sometimes, and today I said I'd treat him to a movie when we see each other and he seemed happy.

If this is pertinent, if we get married, he sees himself as the breadwinner and the supporter of a theoretical family, and I would like to be a SAHM.

tl;dr Who pays in a long-term relationship?