So a recurring problem I see over at AskTRP involve a problem with a One Special GirlTM who is ‘way specialer’ than any other girl could possibly be! It’s like she’s the Last Girl You Will Ever Talk To.

Wrong.

Here’s what’s going on. You know who she is, and you already have an in with her, maybe you’re fucking her already, or you were fucking her. Starting over is difficult. Approaching other women – women who can NEVER be ‘Specialer’ than her – is difficult. It requires starting from zero with another girl, and that requires ‘work’. Work is Difficult.1 We don’t like ‘work’…until we see it as the pathway to self-improvement and a better life.

I also get the sense that a lot of TRP guys actually have a bit of blue still in them, and they think about getting married and having a cozy little house with a patch of grass somewhere, with a picket fence around it, a tire swing and a screen door on the kitchen…an apple pie sitting on a window sill, cooling in the afternoon breeze.

Snap the fuck out of it. I get it, even I wish it was true, but that shit only happens in lemonade commercials or if you’re Mormon.2

The problem is, for men, more is better. If you commit to one woman, then you risk ONE WOMAN decide if you are having sex on any given night and ONE WOMAN can walk out the door with 100% of your pussy supply. That makes guys crazy and more willing to put up with ONE WOMAN’S crap, and leads to unhappiness and, in extreme cases, being the back half of a murder-suicide.

This is why we discuss “Plates” or multiple FWBs” or “open LTRs”. With Abundance, stress for men goes way down, and we can behave more naturally (for us). If a woman starts acting up and being a pain in the ass, with Abundance, you do what you should do and kick her to the curb. For example, once upon a time, one of my OLTRs is being a pain in the ass. So I dumped her, which she never saw coming, because, as she said, “Guys don’t dump me!” For me, it was an easy choice, because, because I had another primary who had sex with me whenever I wanted, and didn’t give me any trouble, plus a couple of other side pieces, as well. And guess who is knocked herself out, trying to fuck her way back into my good graces? Exactly. And that was fun, for a while, and when it wasn't I kicked her to the curb. Again.3

So the reality is that Abundance is good for your outlook on life and your mental health as well. No stress. And a Man With Options is a Man Who Cannot Be Fucked With. Once you master Abundance Mentality, your Approach Anxiety will vanish, and with that, Abundance become much easier, both in relation to each other.

Now go forth and Slay.

1 This is, incidentally, why so many people pass on “Opportunity”. Because when Opportunity knocks, most often it is dressed in overalls and looks like ‘Work.’

2 For the Autists and the AWALT dudes: AWALT. I’m just joking around.

3 And an Alpha Widow was born. The events I describe happened months ago. She texted me today around noon.