Age in a Partner

Marriedwithkidz · 2014-11-27T13:20:07+00:00

7 years is a normal gap IMO. You like her, then date her.

SrPildoraRoja · 2014-11-27T14:33:31+00:00

Not a big gap. Definitely date her.

But please, if you're going to ask for advice, you should post in /asktrp.

thredditsowaway · 2014-11-27T13:30:35+00:00

Most of the thinking that 'age gaps are bad' comes from women who are older and competing with significantly younger, hotter, cooler girls for top-tier men when they're in baby mode, which is then repeated by the men who end up settling for said women in order to rationalize their own sacrifice.

At the end of the day, when I decide to settle down, I'd rather it be with a 7 who is 20 (fuck it, why not 18?) than a 9 who is my age or even a few years younger. Not only will she keep her looks longer, there is far less pressure and expectations coming from her end, and I don't have to worry about her seeing me as beta bux quite as much. Exceptions, of course.

I'd try to bang both, of course, but if it comes to exclusivity...

paranoidsteak · 2014-11-27T15:19:45+00:00

Mine is a 8 year age gap if that helps.

Its great, she's bundles of energy compared to woman my age, once you go young you never go back

whatsazipper · 2014-11-27T15:27:06+00:00

The gap nonsense is female propaganda. It attempts to convince men to play into the feminine imperative. It's preached by women looking to secure mates around their age or older, and discourage men around their age from dating younger.

Science_isthenewcool · 2014-11-27T23:09:41+00:00

I'm 36, she just turned 20 last month. I upgraded her from FWB to LTR about 4 months ago and stopped spinning my other fwb/plate who was 25.

nopbeentheredonethat · 2014-11-27T14:55:26+00:00

This is a perfect situation if your actually hunting for the future mother of your children. Has a younger woman she will have better attachment to you than an older women who has rode the CC for the last 10 years!

cocaine_face · 2014-11-27T15:43:51+00:00

I'm 29.

I have only fucked a single girl over 25 in the past year, and that was because she was native Irish, with an accent (and had huge boobs).

I see no problem with 20 year old. Honestly, if I were looking for a LTR, 18 would be even better (but in practice, harder to deal with) because you have a better chance to mold her and make her part of your, "team" - and the power dynamics will always be in your favor, which as part of a marriage, is vitally important.

suloco · 2014-11-27T15:16:30+00:00

No it's not! In fact it's ideal! Man do I envy you. I have a great gf but she is only 1 year younger than me, which means if I want her to become a mother of my kids, I have to play by her biological clocks and that sucks! Also the maturity you possess is not in fact a head-start, she is already basically a whole woman but it will take you some couple of years to truly mature and evolve as a man.

Trust me these doubts about the age gap is leftover from female imperative being forced on you.

Enjoy!

aditas · 2014-11-27T14:20:16+00:00

My grandfather married at 28 to my grandmother of 14. They had 10 children. I was told that one night while she was resisting, he pushes back telling her "We may not have plenty to eat but I still want my dessert". She did not remarry after he died.

Manuel_S · 2014-11-27T23:18:30+00:00

From very close and personal experience:

10 years is no problem.

20 can be managed, unless you let yourself go close to 60 when the woman is still in 40s.

scamper_22 · 2014-11-28T01:33:25+00:00

27 and 20 is perfectly fine.

When people talk about older women being more mature, it really is bullshit.

By 20, your overall personality is basically there. Like interesting conversation? At 20, the girl can make interesting conversation? Whatever you look for in a girl in terms of personality, it will be there. Same with men. Those kinds of personality traits can be refined, but they're there. You see how you see good traits in your 20 year old (sweet, look after you, respectful...). That's her personality. I've never seen a woman 'mature' into being sweet, respectful, nurturing.
Women do not mature in that sense... they get bitter. Each relationship kills their ability to love. I don't know many guys who puts in less into their current relationship than they did in the past. With woman, they give their all to their first. Less to the second... and less and less. Because the lesson they learn is 'they gave and gave' and it obviously didn't work out... so give less and less. It's very emotional and each partner reduces your bonding ability. You also don't want a girl who spent her youth partying, so its not like she matures by getting it out of her system.

oldredder · 2014-11-28T01:05:53+00:00

the gap I am for is 15 to 18 years. 7 is nothing.

TekkomanKingz · 2014-11-28T04:25:05+00:00

Age ain't nothing but a number...

User-31f64a4e · 2014-11-28T10:45:01+00:00

Do whatever the fuck you want. If she's legal and you are enjoying it, that's what matters.

Why do you care what the gynocracy says? The age gap 'norm' is to confuse men into voluntarily limiting their own options, so we will go after post wall women who we should be ignoring instead. It's social engineering.

The doubt it created in you almost kept you from a good deal. See how effective it is?

By the way - you can always spot bullshit like this because there are no actual reasons given. You just get a lot of humphs and harumphs, bluster and judgement and moralizing. No actual reason will be given why a "self evident" truth is true, or evident. If you try to push back, then the character assassination will begin. That's how women "argue".

The only thing you have to be careful of with younger people is that the rate of change in who they are, what they think and value, is greater than it is for older people. The younger they are, the greater the risk they will evolve in a random direction. Betas get victimized by that; alphas turn it to their advantage.

razometer · 2014-11-27T23:49:43+00:00

I'm 30 and my top current girl is 18. Don't sweat it bro.

long-lostfriend · 2014-11-28T07:00:05+00:00

I am 43. My SO is 26. We have been together for six years, and her partner count prior to me was zero. She is a Red Pill dame who loves being gamed by me.

Don't worry about a seven year age gap.

Olipyr · 2014-11-28T00:57:34+00:00

I'm 27 and dated 20 year old preachers daughter. Virgin and all that. Beautiful girl, very intelligent, great morals and came from a great family setting.

Typical girl, though. Went to a small, private school and is now at a private university. Her head is on a swivel constantly, though. Her actions finally drove me away and she still does not take responsibility for her actions. She so badly wants to be seen as a victim because her father was strict on her.

Still got it bad for her, though.

Really opened my eyes to the "AWALT" saying. You will run into what I ran into if they are half-way decent looking. The amount of attention they get is mind boggling and they will literally chase the tingles at that age.

Yes, I'm dating other women. Got me a submissive cum whore right now.

EDIT: Younger women are light years better than dried up prunes in their late twenties and beyond for relationships.

a_nus · 2014-11-28T08:53:00+00:00

I'm in my mid twenties, and personally waiting to get to my late twenties to settle LTR style with a lower twenties girl. No rush. Spinning and having fun in the meantime.

2014-11-28T04:52:22+00:00

I'm pushing 50. My last LTR was 38. Crazy as fuck. Now was that simply because she was nutty or because she was older?

At the time I didn't know but since reading here I analyze it through the trp lens and it becomes much clearer.

I was being judged against, compared to and paying for every shitty thing a guy ever did to her in her past.

The baggage was overwhelming and it killed the relationship in the end. It's too bad. Outside of 'crazy time' she was a great girl and the sex was red hot but after constantly getting beat over the head with the hammer of her past I had to quit it.

sailorJery · 2014-11-28T17:06:47+00:00

The idea that an "age gap is creepy" is on par with the "gender based wage gap" in that it doesn't describe reality. Women are into men who are older than them. 7 years is not a large gap, at all. Anyone who tells you different hasn't thought it through or doesn't have your best interests in mind.

prodigy2throw · 2014-11-29T23:14:34+00:00

What do you do when the girl brings up the age difference or says it's weird?

yeahweewee · 2014-11-30T06:32:54+00:00

according to my Russian parents, 7 years was actually unusually small(which is their age difference)

ignore american standards

mty_green_go · 2014-11-30T19:31:34+00:00

I dated a girl for 5 years who was 3-4 years older than me. Spent the remainder of my 20's with her. She never paid for anything. Emotionally unstable and couldn't hold a job. Huge mistake.

Dating a girl now who is 4 years younger than me. She pays for half of everything.. it's great

byronshadow · 2014-11-27T23:56:37+00:00

5-10 years younger is perfect. That way, you're (hopefully) hitting your stride and starting your career with a young and beautiful partner. You also have more time to finish your bucket list and build your career before having kids... whereas a 30 year old who marries another 30 year old is really backed into a corner in that regard.

I don't approve of bigger age gaps though. It doesn't make sense to me to marry someone so young that she's going to outlive you by 20-30 years.

RP_Student · 2014-11-28T03:25:24+00:00

I'm a 21 year old college student involved with an 18 year old high school girl right now. The funny thing is those three years are probably more significant than your seven given our dramatically different stages in life.

svogliate · 2014-11-28T04:05:51+00:00

I am 42. My current plate is 23. A 19 year gap generates comments, but I would say 90% of them are positive, or at least intended to be positive. 10% are angry comments that seem mainly to be coming from the wrong side of the wall - I wouldn't know, I don't visit that side of the wall any more, ever, for any reason. The better the class of place or people I am dealing with, the fewer the comments are, of course.

I do not know how my plate feels about other people's opinions, but what she says is that I am her "daddy" and that she likes that and does not care what others think about it.

I enjoy the time with her very much and do not feel like she is in a hurry to marry me or reproduce with me. That is a huge advantage for me, those things are turn-offs.

Since I do not care about anyone else's opinions about the age of my plate, none of the comments matter to me at all. You should go there with me, 27. You will eventually find that you are living your own life, not someone else's. Even my opinion about your plate (which amounts to "nice one, bro") should not matter to you. But you should hop on board my train; it will take you wherever you want.

ShekelBanker · 2014-11-27T14:16:34+00:00

The main complaint about the age gap is that how partners are apparently matured enough (or not) mentally depending on their ages. Indeed that is true to some extent but unless the age gap is really big (something in the spectrum 5+ years) it's not a big issue.

HumbleEngineer · 2014-11-27T23:41:24+00:00

Preferably younger than you. But if (a big if here!) you find one that is worth being on the same age as you or older, I don't think it's a problem. Anyway YMMV

BhiQ · 2014-11-28T00:17:56+00:00

It's a bit awkward if she's in a significantly different situation in life right now (college girl for example) because at that point it really becomes "sugar daddy dating".

Going for a 20 years old girl as a 27 old guy? Damn, what are you waiting for?

writeonbrother · 2014-11-28T23:18:50+00:00

You want to paint on a blank canvass. Older women have not only been painted on but painted over. Get you a nice fresh one before someone else smears his oils over her.

Glenbert · 2014-11-27T14:34:20+00:00

No. If you are actually looking for a LTR, this gap matters less as you age. I am 8 years older than my GF and it's great. Look up my thread "High School Sweethearts Trope is Bad for Men" to see my more extensive thoughts on the matter.

That all said, the older guy should be more conscious of being a potential BB, not less as another poster stated. I mean, it doesn't get more BB than a guy who'd 30+ years older than his GF.

Title	Age in a Partner
Author	redditredpill
Upvotes	16
Comments	75
Date	November 27, 2014 1:13 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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