Letting go of the anger needs to happen before you can really apply TRP for your benefit. This chapter is meant for those feeling the anger and bitterness once getting into Redpill Theory. That’s not to say you won’t be angry anymore after reading this, but the topics discussed in this chapter are what you need to internalize so you can move forward in life and apply Redpill Theory to your own ends (of which I’ll get into in Chapter 3).

Your anger is the beginning stages of Grief. Grief triggers from events so significant that they’re life changing. In your case, it’s the breaking down of your old prism of understanding women and the construction of a new one. Getting to this point often takes a significant traumatic event, something to the scale of getting cheated on or blindsided by a divorce/dump. Others of you just felt invisible for unreasonably long and arrived here in your search for answers. Regardless of how you ended up here, taking on the Redpill always comes with the 5 Stages of Grief. The stages of Grief are a shared experience among all of us. The man that can read Redpill theory and just accept it easily was already largely operating under it.

You will see Stage 2 of Grief (Anger) permeate the Redpill community with men having an underlying simmering rage at women. You’ll see within comments, the tone of bitterness, hate, extremism, conspiracy and violence. It’s never ending in this community because every day there’s fresh men entering Stage 2 and other men going to Stage 3. This community receives flak because outsiders see men in Stage 2 as the most representative of the Redpill, because Stage 2 guys are our loudest and most memorable. The Stage 2 guys are something we’ll have to learn to control and keep out of the spotlight, but that’s a topic for another time. The other danger for Stage 2 guys are the grifters that prey on them. These grifters are becoming more numerous online and their business model involves content creation largely just to feed the rage. These grifters are either trying to keep your attention needed for $$$$ or they’re sneak-feeding you extremist ideologies. Use your own judgement on this, but the key is to be on guard when the content creation is largely for feeding your rage or validating your rage. This is also a topic for another time, but Redpill content that serves no purpose but feeding your anger relates to a fallacy that will only lock you into an endless cycle and stop you from getting the full productive utility from TRP.

This fallacy I’m referring to is fitting women into the masculine moral framework. It’s judging women by the wrong set of rules. The Anger Stage is when you’re still judging women through a masculine sense of morality. If you interpret female actions and thought processes through the masculine morale framework, women seem wildly devious, dishonest, Machiavellian, etc. It’s incorrect, they aren’t like this as you might assume. Some women definitely are, such as BPD, FDS and narcissistic women, but that’s not the norm. Women operate under a different moral framework which is around opportunism and when you get this you’ll understand they aren’t operating as conciously deceptfully as you might assume (normally). How they behave and act is completely within their sense of what’s right and wrong. You’ll see that women are as good as we are when you see their actions through the feminine moral framework. We should be judging them by their moral framework as they should judge us by ours.

There is a masculine moral framework and a feminine moral framework. They have different sets of rules. Our sense of what’s right vs wrong (our morals) are derived from our feelings. Our gender specific feelings are derived from our gender specific biological hardwiring. We accept our feelings as correct, by default, and we develop rationalizations to explain our feelings. The feelings are instinctual and even our rational mind trusts they’re correct. Men and women both do this. It’s far more intense for women because they generally experience emotions/feelings to far greater intensity. It gives them a far greater sense of righteousness in their feelings.

I will discuss male hardwiring first;

Men are hardwired for the primary objective of attaining sexual access as well as concern over paternity. In Chapter 1 I discussed how arousal and attraction are two different things for women. It’s not the same for men because men don’t really have an arousal (alpha) floor. If a woman is not too obese and she’s in the fertility window (ie. not too young and not too old), men will want to fuck her. Our different arousal floors mean women identify few men ‘for fucking’ but men identify all women ‘for fucking’. Women are chasing quality, men are chasing quantity.

Men are also strongly hardwired with a concern for paternity. We are wired to give a shit about whether a kid is ours or not. Our feelings on this [like all feelings] are an evolutionary development from a hundred thousand years of our male ancestors caring for who is the real father of their kids. It's why men almost universally feel repulsed with the idea of monogamous relations with a woman with a particularly slutty past. The topics of virgins and sluts hit men on an instinctual level because a woman’s loose behavior is dinging alarm bells in a man's internal wiring that she is a bad bet on paternity. Men are naturally inclined to prefer a woman who has less sexual history because it makes her a sure thing. You look at any culture in the world and it's all the same. Men feel this and it’s all happening in the lizard-brain. Men aren't consciously thinking "she is a bad bet on paternity", this is happening on a gut feeling level and our male ancestors with these feelings carried on their genes. We can also have unsettling feelings whether our woman is cheating from her changes in behavior (her cues). Our concern for paternity is also why the act of sex is the worst part of infidelity, for a man. Our loss of control on paternity sends our system apeshit to get us to take action. Our hardwiring designed how our feelings will kick in from certain cues and our feelings drive our sense of morality.

The course of evolution also provided men with a feelings-based toolset for filtering out low quality women, but it’s a tool that comes into play only once a man has achieved his primary objective, which is sexual access. This tool for filtering low quality women is commonly known as post-nut clarity. Seconds after blowing your load you will get into the mental frame of the best objective clarity you’ll ever have in regards to your perception of her. In this moment, women completely lose sexual agency over a man and he is able to see her for what she is. He can see her objectively, free from the influence of her sexuality and to see their current circumstances together for what they are. That’s an evolutionary adaption from our male ancestors dealing with the decision over whether a woman is worth hanging around for (to invest in the offspring) - or whether she’s just another pump and dump and he should spare his resources for elsewhere. Once a man has completed the primary objective of fertilization, the hardwiring switches it’s circuitry to post-nut clarity and deciding whether to invest or bail. This post-nut clarity comes into play every time you fuck a woman, giving you a status update on whether she’s still worth the resources. Women getting ghosted have been turned down by the quality filter and they don’t get this. FDS has a section in their handbook about getting ghosted, they blame the quality of the man but it's the man's quality filter that denied her. When it happens to them, the sudden change of treatment by the man is confusing. It's part of man's hardwiring. Women have their own quality filters to use on men but I’ll get into that later. The point of this is that we, as men, have feelings which are all coming from our biological hardwiring. We accept they’re correct by default and we develop rationalizations around them. It works the same with women. The feminine moral framework evolved over the same timespan from our female ancestors making mating choices. The women that weren’t like what I’m about to describe, didn’t succeed to pass on their genes.

Women are first and foremost, hardwired around serving their own comfort and security. It’s why the default woman is into scented candles, boxed wine with chocolates, hot tubs with bath salts and thousand different cliché comforts like that (each woman is different, but not so different). This hardwiring for personal comfort and security is why they have an innate aversion to male aggression and will freak out at a simple change in the tone of your voice. It’s why concepts like toxic masculinity are a thing. These are rationalizations women are making around their feelings that defined what’s right and wrong. Women are hardwired to seek their own comfort and security and it’s extremely sensitive to male aggression. Their primary hardwiring around comfort and security is why women are most hurt by the emotional betrayal of infidelity, because that’s resources going to be spent elsewhere. Female wiring around comfort and security also relates to why women won’t naturally see an issue with making Billy Beta wait for sex, but not Chad. Women don’t understand men are wired for sexual access, that sexual access is the trophy that Billy Beta was working on his Beta Game for. Women are operating under the assumption that their commitment is the grand prize for a man, because they see the man’s commitment as the grand prize (commitment of comfort and security). Even in the course of woman’s infidelity, women will often resort to excuses such as “I don’t even know the guy, I won’t ever see him again!” because they’re trying to explain there was no emotional betrayal, not understanding that’s not the part that hits men the hardest. Our gender has feelings differently because our hardwiring is different. It results in a different morale framework for man and woman.

I discussed the separation of arousal and attraction for women in the previous thread. Women don’t understand their own sexuality. They understand the part of their sexuality where comfort and security can get them in the mood. This requires Beta Game and it’s why they always talk about wanting men with Beta traits. They're being honest because that's as far as their understanding normally goes. In terms of mating strategy, women are hardwired with Hypergamy. Hypergamy is always on and it’s always doing calculations on what her best mating options are in any given context. Women chase quality, they chase the top men. You can find genetic studies of our ancestors showing breeding has never happened 1:1 between male and female and that the ratios fluctuate from anywhere between 1:3 to 1:17 male to female. Fewer men had access to reproduction than women. That’s the result of Hypergamy because Hypergamy saves wombs for the best men. The Hypergamous hardwiring is always doing calculations within the context of her environment; whether that’s within the village, at work, in a social group, in high school, on tinder etc. If she changes her environment her Hypergamy recalibrates. It recalibrates itself in the context of where she is and then generates her feelings from there. Her feelings are telling her who to pigeon hole as Alpha. It means you do not need to be one of the top 10%-20% man in the world, you just need to be the top 10%-20% in the environment you meet her. It’s why you will fail on tinder, and you will probably fail at a social group made up of male models.

The way women feel arousal (alpha) cues are not the same way men would feel it because arousal cues for men are all physical but arousal cues for women have a strong psychological element. Women will talk about their one night stands in the frame of how they were “vibing” and “hitting it off”. That’s her feelings generated from the alpha cues she picked up on. The “vibing” and “hitting it off” is completely happening on her end. Never in the history of mankind, since Grug was living in the cave, has a man ever talked about his one night stand in terms of “vibing” with a girl. Even Grug was telling the boys he met some girl-slur from the other cave and the funky caveman moves he got to do before he bailed out of there. It’s why the pump and dump surprises a woman after vibing with the guy the whole night.

Women don’t understand their own sexuality and it’s why they delve into concepts like the feminine mystique and other nonsense to explain to themselves why they steer from the sexuality they’re used to; comfort and security. They really don’t understand what’s driving the kind of ‘gina tingles that turn them sexually aggressive. Their lack of understanding is why a woman’s libido will often drop off in an LTR and she’ll rationalize it as being normal for relationships among an endless list of excuses as to why she isn’t in the mood for it that night. If you ask a woman how to bring her libido back she will make a list and it’s always related to the comfort and security side of their sexuality. Women genuinely believe this. The end result is men will listen to her and get into soul crushing levels of Beta Game to get women in the mood. Women aren’t purposefully giving men false information, they genuinely don’t understand what drives their own sexuality. It’s what I described in Chapter 1. But managing it I will get into Chapter 3.

I talked earlier about women having their own feelings-based toolset to use as a quality filter for men. Since women are chasing quality, they need toolsets that come into place before sex and protect their womb from low quality genetics, as opposed to the male toolset which comes into place afterwards. Hypergamy isn’t the toolset, it’s just the hardwiring. The actual toolset they have is commonly known as shit tests. Shit tests are designed to figure out if you’re to be pigeon holed as Alpha or not. Shit tests are as instinctual for women as they are for men sneaking a peak at some great cleavage. They can’t help it. Within relationships, shit tests are a huge trigger for arguments and are commonly over the most trivial and mundane crap, leaving men rattled and confused afterwards. The important thing to understand here is that shit tests aren’t about you vs her, shit tests are about you vs the world. She is testing how you handle bullshit thrown at you and extrapolating the results to where you fit in the world. Shit tests are a pass/fail test and your scorecard determines if you’re pigeon holed as Alpha or not. If you start failing her shit tests she instinctively turns ups the difficulty setting with even more drama. Failing these lead to deadbedrooms as her sexuality is turned off, and eventually lead to relationship breakdowns. Conversely, if you’re passing shit tests, you’ve still got infinite more ahead of you but she dials them back to easy setting with little drama. Shit tests are actually a good thing, you want them. Once you understand how to handle them they’re very easy to pass and it’s far less effort than Beta Game. I’ll deal with handling shit tests in Chapter 3.

Women have another filter for protecting her womb from low quality genetics and that’s her hardwiring to detect creeps. A guy who is ‘creeping her out’ is a guy that hasn’t been pigeon holed as Alpha but she detects his cues of ‘romantic’ interest in her. It could be from something as simple as the way the guy made eye contact or smiled, or perhaps some gesture he tried to do for her approval. She detects the guy has a romantic interest and he is in the wrong pigeon hole. She might also describe a man as ‘creepy looking’. If you’re giving her creepy vibes then you’ve come on too strong and you haven’t passed her filter yet. Men don’t really have this feeling because men are chasing quantity, every hole is a goal. There is ways to avoid this which is also part of Chapter 3.

It might seem unfair to be treated like this but this is female hardwiring and the femine moral framework. Some women act poorly even within the feminine morale framework (typically BPD, FDS, and narcissists) where a lot of this stuff is happening on a deliberate level to manipulate men. I’ll discuss how to naturally defend yourself from women like this in Chapter 3. When you get to the Acceptance stage of Grief you will just accept the actions and thought processes of women - as women being women. Guys that are passed Stage 2 have internalized this already. I'm aware there are macro-scale issues of feminine moral framework but it's a topic for another time. At this point it's about pulling men out of the Anger cycle because all it does is stagnate them. When you get that women are operating under their own rules you will recognize there is probably a lot more quality women than you considered, but you have to calibrate your judgement to whether they're behaving within their own rules and still have integrity. Chapter 3 will take me longer because I'm busy but it will be about the correct way and incorrect way to apply the TRP.