Friends with benefits left me confused

redpillschool · 2022-10-06T18:34:05+00:00

Say "That's cool. Netflix tonight?" and then bang. Not a hard question to answer.

Also, what the fuck is up with kids making lateral movements with chicks. You are friends on instagram. You're chatting on instagram. You then ask to get onto her snapchat. What's next, you want her dating profile?

BlackjointnerD · 2022-10-06T15:49:51+00:00

She belongs to streets. Someone else came along and is in her guts. No big deal. Go get another girl. Dont bother trying to save a situation like this. You let it go.

Going from fucking consistently to no more fucking so we can "build a deeper relationship" is bullshit. Consistent sex is a part of building. If she wanted you she would make time. She gave you all that nonsense about she didnt have it but wants you to be around for emotional support.

Don't ever contact her again. Honestly rude for her to treat you like tard with that explanation.

MastleMash · 2022-10-06T15:51:53+00:00

You already know the answer.

She’s not that into you. As one poster already said, short answer: Next.

The long answer is: could be a million reasons. Maybe her best friend died and she has no capacity to deal with people she met 3 months ago. Maybe you suck in bed. Maybe she was excited about the unknown (you naked/in bed) and now that the unknown is known, she’s bored. Maybe she’s depressed because she hooks up with randos on the internet and feels guilty about it. Maybe she’s got another dude she’s banging who’s better than you and demands more attention. Maybe you smell weird. Who the fuck knows?

The fact that you’re asking the question means that you need better self awareness. Also, the fact that you care about some thot that sent you nudes within hours should tell you something about yourself. This girl obviously doesn’t place a lot of value on herself if she’s sending nudes to basically any dude, so why should you place any importance on this “relationship”. You got your dick wet, now move on. Next.

videogames_ · 2022-10-06T16:25:35+00:00

It was only your turn. For 2 months it was your turn. Now it’s someone else’s turn. She is saying the friendship stuff to try to keep you around as a a backup or worse an orbiter but just move on to another girl.

MASSIVE_BRAIN_DAMAGE · 2022-10-06T15:40:26+00:00

I would advise you to read your own post as if it were written by your best friend and ask yourself how hard you'd smack him.

turbospeedsc · 2022-10-06T15:40:47+00:00

Short answer next.

Long answer next.

throwitdownman · 2022-10-06T16:56:30+00:00

Commentators are soft as fuck, this can’t really the main sub? People are hamstering for her behalf. This is ridiculous. She’s not Cinderella, she’s not naive, she’s not confused. She’s a pro you dipshits and living a fast paced lifestyle contrary to some of you armchair philosophers. She, and many, many other women, have a SYSTEM or GAMEPLAN of how to get a man’s D.

What in OP’s passage made you feel he did anything? The girl initiated, set a trap with nudes, escalated by arranging a meetup, and got what she want. Therefore, using the rational side of your brain, similarly nothing OP did caused this fling to be over. She started it whenever she wants to, and ended it whenever she wants to.

The reason why I, in caps, use the words SYSTEM and GAMEPLAN is because it’s not specifically created FOR op - it’s a copy paste approach. Why? Because she’s a pro and not living in scarcity. She’s doing this repeatedly, for validation or a thrill or an ego boost, and I’m willing to bet she didn’t spare more than a couple of seconds before ‘ending’ it. Hypothetically if you were also abundant and had a buffet of women you knew you can have sex with, using your own system, will you feel anything about ending a fling?

The male equivalent would be going to a club. Nobody will advise you to go clubbing with the aim of getting ONE number. Similarly, OP’s chick was not DM-ing dudes with the sole intention of getting ONE reply.

Personally I talk to every women I want to bang in basically the same fashion (opener, exchange contacts, kino on dates, etc). Once you get to a certain N-count, you’re just doing the same things over and over again and the emotion dulls (hence the ‘thousand cock stare or CC riders not being able to pair bond’). She’s not feeling anything towards OP, it’s simply time to move on.

Anecdotally, I’ve broken many perfectly good plates, because I’ve already gotten what I want (sex and an ego boost), and coincidentally another chick is inviting me out. The old plate can give me sex, but can’t give me the thrill. So ‘thank you, next’.

Aubrey_D_Graham · 2022-10-06T17:05:42+00:00

Her: Lets just be friends.

You: Thank you. Let me know when you change your mind.

Women are the gate keepers of sex. Men are the gatekeepers of attention and commitment.

lifeintraining · 2022-10-06T15:58:11+00:00

Are you okay with being just friends with her? If not then just tell her that doesn’t work for you.

Whatever you do DO NOT continue being friends with her in the hopes that she does change her mind and decide to fuck you. This will guarantee no sex.

You could also say something super ballsy like “I’m good with that, what about your friends?”

Icecoldruski · 2022-10-06T16:28:37+00:00

Sometimes they’ll wake up one day and feel insecure they don’t have a committed boyfriend, or maybe they are into someone else, or who even knows. You’ll see that women can change their minds and attitudes at the drop of a hat so just try and go with the flow and move on.

Ivabighairy1 · 2022-10-06T17:44:14+00:00

Your turn is over. Remember, abundance.

NEXT!!!

Illustrious-Taste196 · 2022-10-06T20:32:12+00:00

Keep your frame and spin plates. Never let a girl control the interaction. Whether they show interest or not, stay aloof. Avoid oneitis.

BlowDryerrr · 2022-10-06T16:00:41+00:00

Plausible deniability. She got bored and doesn't want to feel like the dirty hoe that she is. Solution? Blame you, feel better about it, then onto another cock she hops.

4everrekt · 2022-10-06T16:23:29+00:00

Something else has taken priority for her, leave it be

VasiliyZaitzev · 2022-10-07T06:39:21+00:00

She's riding other cock. They do that. Even the 'good girls'.

The "LGBF" BS is a test of your frame - she's asking you to be a beta chump/nice guy so she can enjoy your validation without anything in return.

You have nailed her enough times to be "N+0" for her, so proceed as /u/redpillschool outlined.

If she keeps withholding the pussy, well, your turn is over.

KagedRageius · 2022-10-06T20:19:10+00:00

My friend and I use to go bowling all the time. We had a lot of fun together, and I thought he enjoyed bowling with me as much as I enjoyed bowling with him. The past few times I asked him to go bowling, he comes up with an excuse not to go. Does he not like bowling anymore? Is it me? Does he want to bowl with someone else? Can I convince him to go bowling with me again?

Does it matter? If you want to go bowling and your one friend doesn’t, maybe you should have other friends that you can call.

OriginalSkill · 2022-10-06T18:28:32+00:00

Meh so many girls pulled that shit on me. I usually just ignore their rant and still can rail them a few more times. Sometimes it’s just she realizes she’s been in the carousel too long. Or she’s just branch swinging. Who knows ? Certainly not us.

Now if she’s does flat out refuse to hang out. Time to move on.

Encrypted587 · 2022-10-06T21:58:29+00:00

So roughly translated she send you pics to get you on the hook while banging a chad but she is uncertain how it’s going, so she strings you along while, basically you are a short term back up if needed.

Kooky_Performance116 · 2022-10-06T18:42:42+00:00

Other comments are prob correct. She’s fucking someone else. But on the same hand she’s only 18. She might have tried being all grown up and thought she was a bad bitch and was okay with fucking around with you so heavily and forward. Only to find out maybe she didn’t like that shit so much. Only you can judge that since you know her. But If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck it’s prob a duck.

RedGille · 2022-10-06T19:14:52+00:00

just a thought here: shit test?

I mean, what ever happened to "don't listen to a girl's words, look at her actions"? and "always keep your cool/frame"? sure, you could next her, but if we nexted girls for every fucked-up behavior, we'd be left with precious few girls to spin.

I would just pretent I didn't read that message, and go on and try to meet her, albeit without showing any special interest, as if life is beautiful, you have many options for sex, but still would like to hang out with her.

which, BTW, should be your attitude always. and of course, having other options is always a good idea. she's just one more option, don't let her crawl into your brain man.

SurpriseMo__erFu__er · 2022-10-06T19:08:41+00:00

Bruh, i mean she sent you nudes right away, you were smashing without having to commit to her and hanging out when you wanted to... why do you care what she thinks? What have you done in the past two months to actually better your life? Have you been working towards any goals? I mean it either sounds like she wants to remain casual or is banging someone else and wants to keep you in the background. Either way you should focus on yourself first and hang out with her when its convenient to you. Do not however catch "feelings" or whatever for this type of chick. Their are casual fun chicks and relationship/potential wife type chicks, she is the casual fun type.

Avid_Hiker98 · 2022-10-06T18:24:55+00:00

This sub used to have actual, worthwhile, life-altering advice.

Now we get posts like, “this girl doesn’t want to hook up with me anymore,” and people praise this shit.

Mods, as usual, wtf have you let this sub come to?

TimeXo9 · 2022-10-06T22:59:46+00:00

you are so beta im surprised at the reality of this sub

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c4rdc0llector11 · 2022-10-06T20:13:27+00:00

On to the next girl bro. enjoy that you smashed a few times and experienced this FWB. find a new one to do the same and repeat.

tumbleweed_DO · 2022-10-06T23:54:21+00:00

Wasn't yours, just your turn. Next.

arseitz · 2022-10-07T05:22:23+00:00

'long detailed messages'...she lost interest because you over-invested. Limit your text-game to logistics, and move on from this one.

Seneca_13 · 2022-10-07T09:11:25+00:00

There is someone else. She wants to put you into her orbit and keep you for your utility and as a back up plan. Wish her luck and move on, don't say any more than that. Pursue other ventures and other women, that will easily get you mind off her.

Cutting women off so abruptly is difficult for guys to do since women will strategically wait until they know a guy is emotionally invested to test them this way. Either they guy will beg and plead with her and feed her need for validation, or he will simp out and agree to be friends validating her, or he will decline and cut her out which will increase her respect for him. It is however very hard for the man to cut her out so abruptly since he is invested emotionally, and she knows this.

Lastly, don't engage in long descriptive chats over text or phone call. Phone calls and texts are meant for logistics and short to the point communications. Any long conversations will be in person. Let them know thats the way you operate..

Rjw12141214 · 2022-10-07T10:31:52+00:00

“Long detailed messages” you treated a fwb like a gf. Why are you texting long detailed messages to a fwb? You probably opened up too much in those long detailed messages. And gave her too much attention/were too available. The last two sentences turn off any woman, not just a fwb. Go next and maybe in the future you can fuck her again.

Title	Friends with benefits left me confused
Author	Shmorgasbordhorder
Upvotes	51
Comments	72
Date	October 6, 2022 3:36 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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