How do you spin plates on a budget?

Vermillion-Rx · 2024-03-14T23:02:44+00:00

Approving post be because it is a unique, but general question

Also, mandatory reading: Be a Skittles Man

BlocknGhost · 2024-03-14T23:42:18+00:00

When I was starting off in the city on a tight budget, I would usually do the following and it worked well:

1) First date out - take them to a bar where I knew the bartender or there was a happy hour. Spend about 1-2 hours on the date making casual conversation, then say I had to wrap up something for work and drop them back off at home. The key is to be charming and fun, but this first date shows that you have stuff going on outside of them too. Low investment, good conversation to get to know them. 2) I’d usually wait for them to reach out first after the date, then when they asked to hang again I’d invite them over for a movie and wine/takeout. Then close the deal. 3) Rinse and repeat step 2 as you build the attachment. Don’t be available more than once a week and use work/other commitments to keep them at arm’s length.

TRPSenpai · 2024-03-14T23:44:26+00:00

When I was seeing several women, there were a few that wanted to push the limit of my boundaries including getting me to pay for stuff-- or ask 'What are we?'

I was told I was a good lay-- but when I was broke I couldn't really do anything with them. And pretty soon they just moved on. It's just inevitable.

The modern woman, who is half-decent looking-- are just gonna find someone else; who are gonna provide them with either money, emotion, good sex or any combination of which. If I lost a plate, the best response is to shrug-- go no contact-- and move on. If you give in to violation of your boundaries-- they won't respect you anymore; and IMO that is a death sentence for sex/relationships anyways.

The wiseman here always said-- She's not yours, it's just your turn.

ReneGusto · 2024-03-14T23:24:07+00:00

You boundary them to your suggestion. If they don’t comply with your budget, you next them. Simple. You are your mental point of origin not them.

silvasurfa89 · 2024-03-15T02:03:09+00:00

I used to take them to a stand up comedy club. Cheap to get in cheap drinks and if there’s good comics that day you only need to have half a personality to seem interesting. There used to be an outdoor food cart that did great fish and chips for afterwards.

I swear I closed more there than I ever did taking women somewhere fancy

DiskKiller2 · 2024-03-15T20:39:40+00:00

u/Blocknghost advice above is great
Make sure you frame things right - you aren’t poor, you’re building for the future (investments)
Learn to cook. Perfect for frugality, but also… she’s coming to your place and you get to be the boss and make innocent fun of her, give her tasks to complete, etc. Situational alpha, always good!

And finally… - Frugality isn’t really sexy. Like ever. Perhaps be slightly less frugal around her, if you can afford to spend a bit. It might be worth it. If she’s a gold digger, she won’t hang out with you anyway. 😀

PiperBigBell · 2024-03-14T23:54:01+00:00

Are you frugal or just broke?

newsandthings · 2024-03-15T03:33:12+00:00

I feel like I'm offering aged advice. If i was meeting up at a cafe (broke) i would show up first, order my own drink. Of course you offer to pay, but as you glance at your watch before greeting them, it paints the picture that they where late. They wont take you up on the drink offer, and even if they did who cares. With in 20 mins if things had potential, I'd suggest we go for a stroll (free and out before she suggests getting anything to eat). As others suggested, make an early exit, let them come to you. Was nice on Sundays, could work thru 3 dates in like in 5-6 hours. Then you have something to do the following week.

Another cheap date was "What food do you like, i bet your a great cook!" It doesn't matter if she can cook or what she likes. She just got invited to go grocery shopping followed by showing off those cooking skills (or lack of). Key take away is, i now have groceries (needed them anyways) and we're going back to either of our houses. Doubles as a great shit test. You want plates you can manage.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2024-03-25T03:34:49+00:00

Short term: drinks only for happy hour, coffee date, ice cream, bottle of wine with walk on beach/in a park, hiking, play tennis at public courts, etc etc.

Long term: Move abroad to a cheaper country and live there. Also, increase income.

Tarmyniatur · 2024-03-15T02:39:14+00:00

You can't implement TRP fully until you get your shit together, and that happens to imply you have enough money to entertain several women of the quality you want. Now if that's hippie chicks on a campsite near a beach or supermodels in Dubai it's a different question, but if you don't have money, get money.

_ENO__ · 2024-03-15T17:52:23+00:00

Frame, if you’re frugal as fuck, then you’re frugal as fuck, maybe you’re labeling yourself as a boyfriend than a fuck buddy, and they want all this useless expensive shit from you. If you have multiple random ppl suggesting the same stuff, then it actually might be you. There’s no tips and tricks because you might regret your decisions, but maybe treat it like shittests.

disgruntleddigger · 2024-03-15T20:16:41+00:00

The most I’ve ever fucked, was when I was a struggling apprentice, fresh out of the Army, medically retired, on crutches without a car.

Moneys not the problem. Check you fucking head mate

loosewilly45 · 2024-03-27T16:34:43+00:00

It's simple

Don't Women aren't fucking play things find a woman you connect with and see where that goes if it fails oh well worl on yourself and try again in a few months simple

If you belive this is a good idea and this is how normal men function in modern society seek a therapist

ApeMindFitness · 2024-03-15T01:28:35+00:00

my friend grew up in the phillipines, instead of phones and tablets… to have fun they played tic tac toe. so naturally he became extremely good at playing this game.

on dates, at the end he would say “let’s play tic-tac-toe, whoever wins doesn’t pay”. he’s very charming about it and makes them giggle and laugh the whole time, so naturally they always say yes. it’s a simple game, seemingly as fair as a coin toss. but he wins every single time, there’s no way to beat him.

so he never pays for dates.

Cray_Teetur · 2024-03-15T00:06:46+00:00

I like the "I'm not a gentleman" angle. Flat out ask for them to pay and make it feel like a joke or compliment to them. It's one of those things you just have to feel out case by case.

UndifferentiatedHoe · 2024-03-15T19:16:29+00:00

Am I the only one that doesn't want to spin plates? I can hardly find one woman worth any time.

ixdtechs · 2024-03-22T17:28:37+00:00

Your main selling point is going to have to be YOU. once that’s established they’ll be cool with meeting you in a parking lot at a park.

I suggest embracing the fact the first meet you may have to pay up. Just keep that shit under $100 or lower it within your budget. Then rizz her ass out from there ON THE FIRST MEET.

Or be cool with ones that are just hot to trot…

upyoars · 2024-03-15T02:57:01+00:00

You level up your money

hitlicks4aliving · 2024-03-16T05:30:36+00:00

You can’t bro that’s a rich man’s game

SeemedGood · 2024-03-15T01:59:08+00:00

Frankly, the fact that you’re even asking this question implies that you’re not really ready to consider “plate-spinning.”

Baby steps.

Title	How do you spin plates on a budget?
Author	Pretengineer_825
Upvotes	52
Comments	63
Date	March 14, 2024 10:30 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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