Is it alright to get help for depression?

Adanac23 · 2014-11-10T03:31:56+00:00

Dude the depression didn't go away when you were with a wonderful girl it is still there just masked by chemicals in your body that are elevated when you are around people you are attracted to. People with depression end up in shitty relationships for this exact reason they become dependent on that masking of the symptoms. You need to figure out how to be happy when you are on your own or you will never be fully happy in a LTR if that is what you want.

Take this from someone who suffered through years of mental health issues and didn't think that I was manly to seak treatment. Check out the video below about Michael Landsberg who is a Canadian sport journalist who has an excellent view on drepression.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWIRGrrX9t8

u-r-silly · 2014-11-10T02:42:46+00:00

Go see a doctor. Self diagnosed depression will lead you nowhere...

Also, considering an anti-depression treatment engages you for at least 6 month, with a shitload of side effects.

redditaccount34 · 2014-11-10T05:23:13+00:00

If you have a problem it is always alright to solve it. Depression is no exemption and I'd consider it one of the most important things a person could ever fix. What is the red pill of not a way to achieve happiness?

When you seek treatment I'd strongly recommend going for therapy first. Medication doesn't help everyone, and in particular each different kind of medication can help different people. They all also take a long time to kick in. I wasted a lot of time not only not getting better but feeling worse because I never found one that worked for me.

socio_j · 2014-11-10T03:26:19+00:00

Go see a psychiatrist, TRP helps but the meds will give you that extra energy you need. People think that the meds themselves help..bullshit, its the meds plus doing shit (a lot of shit) its the only way to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck and dont waste any more time! Seek help!

raiseurT · 2014-11-10T05:48:47+00:00

I can't tell you what's "alright" to do, i can only tell you what i would do or what have done.

I've been depressed several times in my life (not lately though) i'm probably genetically predisposed to it and will never get "professional" help. I also have a family with mental health issues -like 66% of immediate family would qualify as clinically depressed- people say stuff like "lift, eat your veggies, ect." and that's all well and good, but at the end of the day, all that shit is supplementary. You have to ask yourself what you really want and go for it, take as much risk as you can, and push yourself WAY out of your comfort zone and THEN you'll beat depression, or at least, that's how i did it. Yeah,I tried the whole "lift and nofap" think and yeah, it helps, but they're just tools, not a real, long term solution. I don't think a professional psychiatrist is going to tell you that.

Oh yeah, i forgot to mention it's going to be scary as shit, and painful as fuck, and not very easy at all. But push through those barriers, set a standard for yourself and don't quit and it'll be worth it.

A lot of people don't like this guy, but his view on depression is pretty similar to what i'm tryng to convey to you:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d3sy41VOB2o

SuperSlavisWife · 2014-11-10T14:41:32+00:00

Yes. It's necessary. Depression isn't something to be ashamed of or to hide forever. It's not a little cut you can laugh away. It's like a deep wound that needs actual treatment in order to fully recover and support to prevent it from opening again. It is as much self-help to seek assistance with depression as lifting weights or reading books are.

I'm not saying you need to open up and discuss it with everyone you know, but a skilled therapist, neurologist or endocrinologist could help you find the root of your depression and work against it. Without some help, some support and some understanding you're at risk of becoming another men-with-mental-illness statistic.

kjhdjkfh · 2014-11-10T04:36:03+00:00

Seek help/medication if you do all these things and you're still depressed:

Exercise vigorously 30-60 mins daily
Meditate 30-60 mins daily
Consume 2 grams psilocybin mushrooms monthly
Reduce semen emissions to once weekly
Eat healthy, unprocessed foods
Sleep 8 hours per day beginning at 11pm or earlier
Take cold baths 3 times per week

Joosej · 2014-11-10T13:58:07+00:00

You're experiencing heartache, withdrawals from your addiction to her. These feelings will pass in due time, just like all addiction withdrawals. Try to remain positive. Go out and get some exercise (I recommend lifting weights) as these exercise-induced endorphins will only help.

Buchloe · 2014-11-10T21:06:28+00:00

By all means man, talk to somebody if you need help. Nobody is an island. We all need support. But girl is not an adequate support or a solution to depression. Even the best of us get our hearts broken from time to time if we aren't vigilant. It's an easy trap to fall into. Glad you spoke up about it, hope you find some support.

SelfishStoic · 2014-11-10T16:38:41+00:00

Really the only way to not become depressed is to stop depending on externalizes and becoming outcome independent. This goes for females, work and any endeavor in your life. You basically have to go for what you want, but not be invested in the results but rather the process. In the end, you can get a harem, but all those girls will become old and ugly eventually. You can amass a fortune, but anyone can steal it from you. In the end the only thing that matters is how you change. The sooner you can accept that everything is temporary, you will focus on process, which is what you are "doing" NOT what you have/don't have.

A good video that helped me to "Get it":http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0MzQZ_eFEY

Also the power of now by Eckhart Tolle

throwgood · 2014-11-10T18:40:45+00:00

Seek help with that. See a therapist, a priest, a shaman and the witchdoctor. You will have to consider a solid nutrition and workout. Seriously workout is a great treatment to depression because it makes your brain produce all the stuff it lacks and gives you enough of fatigue at night to sleep. Dude, I had the worst depression for the last year, workout and sports really help. And actually overcoming yourself ever and ever again will lift your self-esteem. Dude, don´t take depression lightly, your brain is missing its dope and might tell you that there´s nothing to enjoy in life. I found that you can´t trust in that particular judgement because fuck that.

chillmonkey88 · 2014-11-10T07:23:48+00:00

Go see a shrink... depression isn't something as simple as "read this and fix your problems"... no, it is serious and deadly. Especially in men... go get help friend and don't feel embarrassed to do so. You deserve it.

alreadyredschool · 2014-11-10T09:55:35+00:00

Depression by definition is something were you can't get yourself out of.

Get help, it is not just alright but needed. You are just holding yourself back when you want to tackle it alone.

Movonnow · 2014-11-10T11:02:08+00:00

Dude, I've been adviced to do something for YEARS before I took actual steps to cure my depression. Learn from me and don't waste anymore time.

Read "feeling good, the new mood therapy" by david M burns
See a shrink

yummyluckycharms · 2014-11-10T12:04:52+00:00

If you break an arm - is it alright to see a doctor?

In the same vein, if you get depressed, its perfectly fine to get professional help. Find someone that you can relate to, and someone who can speak to you in a way that you can take to heart.

AchillesOtherLeg · 2014-11-10T18:59:28+00:00

My advice to you would be to avoid treatment for mental illness at all costs.

Everyone I have ever seen engaged by the mental health services has been severely damaged by their interactions with the quacks and none have ever experienced relief let alone a cure.

The only cure for depression is a less depressing life. Do what you can to limit stress and seize opportunities for enjoyment. Do not give in to apathy.

nerdydesi · 2014-11-10T23:15:06+00:00

Why the hell would it not be alright for a man to seek help for depression!?

foldpak111 · 2014-11-10T03:18:59+00:00

Your help is TRP forums, RSD seminars/rants, weightlifting (arguably the most important), self improvement. Get it through your head that people don't give a fuck about you. No one wants to help you because no one wants to see a beta become an alpha. Guess who does care about you; Julian, Owen, and Todd. Go watch that shit

PlanB_pedofile · 2014-11-10T05:57:15+00:00

My first wife cheated on me and divorced me after i suffered from 2 years worth of depression with no help.

After having shit handed to me, divorce rape, lost 60% of my stuff, my business, my so called friends, i got help.

Starting off is medication. Take the generics in low dosage. Don't start with the heavy stuff because usually it's too powerful or can fuck with you. Generics are cheap and been around since the 80s.

Watch the side effects. Body chemistry is very different for people. My first meds made me shit for a week. Diarrhea is a major side effect and change out of that for another generic.

Once on another generic it will take 1 to 2 weeks to notice change. This is brain chemicals, it doesn't flip overnight. First signs is humor. Your humor and what you find funny comes back. Comedy becomes genuinely enjoyable. 2nd is joy. Joy is a feeling absent from depression. You'll begin to take joy in the things you used to do as well as enjoy the little things.

Don't ever rely on a woman to make you happy. Not gonna happen and you'll be in a rough ride as your relationship goes through hell with depression on top of it. A woman is no cure for depression. Casual sex is lame too. The meds may keep u hard and slow down climax but the wet hole you are fucking is seen more as a lame doll than an actual partner. Do the ladies a favor and fix u first before going for women.

Therapy helps. You'll hear good advice, good wisdom, but it only works if you actually listen and take in the wisom. Good luck on ya. It gets more tolerable. There isn't a 100% cure but you'll be able to master it better.

otiswild · 2014-11-10T07:00:43+00:00

Depending on how and where you go about it, it may affect your gun rights. However I have to say seeing a professional brain care specialist was helpful to me and even set me on the RP/MGTOW path about 15 years ago.

Diddlydangerous · 2014-11-10T15:18:45+00:00

This is how I got over depression for good. I read this book and heard that meditation increases your willpower. I figured what the heck, the book says doing things you're not used to like flossing boosts your willpower, so I'll try sitting for an hour. Turns out 95% of my depression disappeared just like that, by sitting and identifying with my body more than my head.

And you know what, there is a video on cosmic energy out there on youtube. It says that this energy is what we use to get things done, and when we are thinking constantly it blocks rejuvenation. We get cosmic energy from sleep which is forced meditation. The other way is meditation, which is waking sleep. Make sense? Anyway, it's a good way to describe a concept I don't think we have a concept for here in the west that could help with depression.

It was interesting to note that running did not beat my depression, but sitting and being present and still had a dramatic effect. Just thought you should know.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Willpower-Instinct-Self-Control-Matters/dp/1583335080

DarkCircle · 2014-11-10T12:21:24+00:00

I had better luck with older very experienced male counsellors. I just did not connect with the female counsellors I saw. I think possibly talking across genders about emotional issues causes a disconnect. If you end up seeing a woman give it a good try though because this is just my limited experience.

You have to find someone that you connect with. If you are seeing someone and after maybe 5 sessions you think they are not helping you, they probably are not. Try and find someone else.

Title	Is it alright to get help for depression?
Author	redpillacnt
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Date	November 10, 2014 2:40 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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