Intro

I was browsing through Married Red Pill when I stumbled upon a conversation that provoked my doubt. The topic these gentlemen were discussing was whether or not a young man in his late-teens to early twenties should waste spend any time approaching women.

Those in favor of playing the waiting game (who I will now refer to as can-kickers) argued that because the average young man's SMV is so low during those formative years, his time would be better invested on developing himself into a true catch, rather than playing a huge numbers game whilst trying to get lucky.

The second argument from the Can-Kicker's is that women are the ones to approach you if you are the prize. Their evidence for this argument comes from celebrity DMs. If you open up the private messages of any hawt movie star or musical artist, you will find endless droves of women begging to be filled with this super-star's seed. A less extreme version of this example is when a body-builder walks down the street and gets swolested by woman who run up to him and cup his biceps and ball-sack.

The opposition claimed that by waiting until you reach a certain age or benchmark to approach women, you are robbing yourself of positive romantic and sexual experiences. Their reasoning comes in the form of modern-day examples. Take a look at any young man getting laid. The average 18-24 year old who is having sex with women in his age bracket is NOT some famous hip-hop artist. Instead, he is somebody who has a good sense of fashion, some charisma, and looks like he lifts.

In my day to day life, I do see young men finding sexual success with young women, partially due to the reasons I listed above, but also due to the fact that there is no competition. By going out and approaching, you are already in the top 5% of men in her mind, however how your approach pans out will be based upon how you look and your social skills, which can easily thrust you into the top 1% of men she has access to, or the bottom 99% if you're a completely uncalibrated, mouth-breathing autist.

Shooting Ourselves In the Foot

I personally never experienced the problem of having to be "good enough" before I started approaching. (My over-coming came in the form of having peers and mentors to hold me accountable.) Regardless, there are some men out there who always have to wait until the next benchmark, and then the next benchmark, before they are finally "good enough," to approach women they find attractive, in order to seduce them to their bedrooms.

Listen, guy, there is a man out there shorter, balder, uglier, fatter, and poorer than you, who is fucking a woman you could have fucked if you approached.

By waiting for the "perfect time / perfect moment" you are ensuring you never have to carry out the action at all. This type of thinking is actually a cope — avoidance of failure.

The Perfect Explaination

/u/Mr_KenSpeckle had an awesome comment that prompted this post —

The idea that men should wait until their 30's or 40's to hit on women in their 20's is idiotic. It's an example of what Rollo calls a "buffer." It's a cope. An excuse. A way of kicking the can down the road so that you can avoid possible failure.

Although some older men do well, men's SMV does not go up magically just because they get older. To the extent it does go up, it goes up because those men have cultivated value and certain skill sets. Part of that skill set is learning how to interact with women. Of all of the components of value, this is the most important. If you avoid working on this part of your skill set until you are old, you're just going to be fucking weird with women. Start immediately at whatever age you happen to be.

Even leaving aside cultivation of value, I don't even buy that women in their 20's don't want men in their 20's. Many women in their 20's just want a good fucking. For that, they don't necessarily care about your job title or bank account. Many young women prioritize raw carnality and for that they want hot men. The beta-bux providers will always be there later. Fresh-faced good looks and just enough Game not to fuck it up will take you far in your 20's.

Although women in their 20's will welcome your high status in your 20's if you happen to have it, status is not as important of a piece of the pie at that age as it will be later. And in fact, good looks and a chiseled body is a form of status.

If you are in your 20's and can't get pussy or can't get the kind of pussy you want, don't think that you can sit on your hands for 10 years or 20 years and then wake up magically drowning in good pussy. You won't.

If you can't get laid now, you won't get later (absent purely transactional arrangements). Unless (maybe) you put in the necessary work. The sooner you start, the more chances you will have to overcome the adversities that you are certain to encounter along the way and the more time you will have to enjoy the fruits of your labors. Don't wait.

Comparing Sins (Comparisons) And Conclusion

If we were to compare women to weights of iron, we could call seducing a bombshell the same as hitting a clean 405 dead-lift. You cannot just run up to this heavy ass weight and expect to lift it clean first go around. More likely, you will throw your scrawny back out just by looking at such a weight.

Thankfully, comparisons are not exact in nature. We aren't running up to 10/10 bombshells and trying to lift them up, but rather, spit our game at them. You cannot just run up to a sexy woman and expect to hit-it-and-quit-it first go around. You will probably get slapped because of your lack of social skills. But you know what? Now you know your weak points. Maybe you're too forward. Maybe you're not sexualizing or touching her when she's responding well. Maybe you flirt in all the right ways, but go for her cell-phone number rather than an insta-date. Whatever the case may be, you will be able to reflect upon the interaction and improve next time.

But the only way you're gonna find out where to improve is by going out there and fucking up in the first place.