Long time lurker and skeptic. Swallowed hard after an incident with my now ex-girlfriend.

SoftHarem · 2013-10-20T00:10:24+00:00

This is typically how most everyone finally finds their balls and gets off the damn fence. Welcome.

puaSenator · 2013-10-19T23:19:45+00:00

She doesn't "know". Basically, she is thinking of another guy and wants to see if she has a chance with him, but if it doesn't work out, she'll come back to you.

watersign · 2013-10-20T00:33:34+00:00

shes already been fucking other dudes, most likely. sorry bro

through_a_ways · 2013-10-20T01:04:18+00:00

She said she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, but just not now because she wants to "grow".

Translation: She sees you as a valuable father/provider, but wants to get fucked by hot guys. Her vagina will definitely "grow", all right.

The reason so many women use new agey euphemistic retarded sounding jargon when they speak about love and sex is because they would sound like complete egotists if they didn't.

-Fony- · 2013-10-19T22:33:36+00:00

yep, that's how they are when you give them your commitment up front and don't control her. let me spell it all out.

her friends are sluts.
college is the feminist indoctrination center of the world for western women, high school and broken households are just the primers.
she wants to explore her womanly power by drinking into a stupor and fucking a hundred guys before she turns 27.
she wants to chase the jock and the asshole and the mystery man around with impunity and shit on the good guy(you).
she somehow still expects to land you or a guy like you when she sees her retirement from the cock carousel looming(around 27 or 28, this is when she makes a profile on OkCupid).

read the linked materials, pump some iron, dive into some pussy and enjoy your new life.

absntmindedprofessor · 2013-10-20T00:36:56+00:00

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Zackcid · 2013-10-20T02:02:43+00:00

This is great news, but remember not to let the bitterness or anger overcome you; it'll hurt your Game if women perceive you as being an AFC. But also don't necessarily be mad at your ex either: in TRP, we accept reality for what it is. She's young, attractive and she knows it. She just wants to spend her prime dating alpha cock and then when she hits the wall and is consumed with wrinkles, she'll expect you to be there for her and accept her for what she is.

You should also the best path available for you.

30303030303030 · 2013-10-20T03:45:43+00:00

Regular college slut. Funny how these idiot women can't spell it out. "Grow" means getting fucked by different guy every week, cause otherwise how were you blocking her "growth"? You lost nothing, good job on finding your balls and having some pride.

Me being the beta bitch said that I'd be there for here no matter what.

how sweet of you, see how she appreciates your love?

Be aware of one more thing. If she comes back, is "missing" you, it's because getting fucked by guys that don't give a fuck about her didn't live up to her expectations and she wants her sweet, validating beta back. Don't fall for it. It's over.

anotherthrowawaybiff · 2013-10-20T04:43:14+00:00

IMO - She just wants to see if she can do better. She's in college, there are lots of available guys, she might find one who is better looking, richer, etc. That's pretty much my feeling on it. BUT, she doesn't want to lose you completely, ergo "taking a break" instead of "This won't work, we need to break up permanently." That way, if she isn't able to do better, she's still got you hanging on as backup.

Do not be backup guy.

Also, do not under any circumstances get back together with her later, which she may well try to initiate if she bombs out or sees you having a good time without her. Focus on yourself and having fun and making a good life for yourself. You're at the stage in life where everything you do will have major repercussions later on for you, so put every bit of energy you have into building yourself a good life. (That's my "old dude advice" from 20 years in the future)

GayLubeOil · 2013-10-20T04:15:22+00:00

The only way to fully understand a person is to see how they behave in all manner of situations. Alot of people come here and declair their girlfriend a perfect princess compleatly different from women described on this sub. The problem is they havent seen thier girlfriend in a moderatly bad sitiation.

jakethesnake76 · 2013-10-20T01:24:54+00:00

the girl of my dreams

Enough said, also known as the girl on the pedestal right ? And Goddesses always need more worship.

shamanbard · 2013-10-20T05:22:53+00:00

"I want to spend the rest of my life with you, but just not now, I want to 'grow'".

Translation:

"You're such a nice guy and you're totally husband material, but I want to whore around with hotties during my 20s, so I'm expecting you to be waiting to put a ring on my finger when I come back to you after I'm all used up and have wasted my most beautiful, vivacious, and fertile years building my own power tower of cock".

semigod_ · 2013-10-20T08:20:15+00:00

She said, "she didn't know", so I ended everything because I know that means yes from her. She said she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, but just not now because she wants to "grow".

my first girlfriend (who i loved to death as the hardcore beta i was) randomly told me once (we were both 19 at that time):

"it's a shame we met so young"

back then, i thought this was such a strange thing to say. what the fuck did she even mean by that? wasn't she happy with me? i certainly was happy with her. but even as the hardcore beta i thought to myself: "wow, does she really think i would want to get together with her when we are 28 and she has fucked 20 other guys?"

of course i did not say this to her, but i had those thoughts.

Cthulu2013 · 2013-10-20T07:00:08+00:00

You're lucky you found TRP when you did bud. My ex took me for one hell of a fucking ride.

2013-10-20T09:06:57+00:00

she wanted a "break" assuring me it wasn't because she wanted to be with other guys

It would be so much more entertaining if they all didn't just share the same playbook.

salami_inferno · 2013-10-20T10:10:28+00:00

She said she wants to spend the rest of her life with me, but just not now because she wants to "grow".

Beta bucks, alpha fucks. She wanted to fuck a bunch of guys in college and still have a provider to pay for her children once she was done that.

WeAreAllSheep · 2013-10-20T12:43:22+00:00

She was probably already sleeping with other guys before she asked you to go on "break."

The only thing "growing" was the size of other dude's cocks in that ho.

Screw her and go out with your friends. Have fun.

VZPurp · 2013-10-20T20:49:29+00:00

I recommend spinning plates. When you have options ready to go, your position is stronger. Women are at a state like this by default, since they do not have to pursue. They also don't have hunting skills to keep sharp. When it's time for them to get a new partner they'll start while they're in a relationship and swing branches to completion when they feel relatively secure in it.

JamieValentine · 2013-10-21T09:38:37+00:00

Never talk about "our future" - tell her your future and how she fits in to it.

Women will always "upgrade" they call it hypergamy on here but upgrade is an easier description to understand - with that in mind - do what you should.

cagethepepper · 2013-10-20T03:40:00+00:00

See, this is why women aren't worth it.

liefelijk · 2013-10-20T13:16:02+00:00

You guys are young. Of course she wants to experience new things, don't you? Even when you factor in all of the tenets of the red pill, women are human beings. They seek out novelty and sometimes prioritize newness and adventure over familiarity. At 18-20, you really can't fault a person for not wanting to get married. You don't know who you are at that age.

2013-10-20T13:14:05+00:00

Yes. Valid points, and I'm very sorry that it doesn't look like it will work out. But you haven't said a single thing about YOUR future. What are you doing with your life? Most girls won't be impressed by a guy who seems to do nothing/have nothing planned for themselves, and only watch while they further their education and work towards a career. It'd be a turn off for me- it WAS a turn off for me to have a guy who wasn't doing anything to help himself- who wasn't becoming the rich and powerful source of stability women look for in life partners. Seems like you're just bitching about her and her activity is all you have to think about currently.

gmflag · 2013-10-20T17:49:41+00:00

Well, it's good you learn now. Better late than never is what I say.

Title	Long time lurker and skeptic. Swallowed hard after an incident with my now ex-girlfriend.
Author	Nigga_In_Paris
Upvotes	82
Comments	83
Date	October 19, 2013 10:18 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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