One of the biggest frustrations I've had talking to an incel was the misbelief that men have to look a certain way to create attraction. And that most men are not 'good looking' enough from birth and thus are born to fail in the dating world. It's a narrow perspective and I'll explain why

If you think your physical looks have anything to do with it, that women look at us the way we will see a female walk down the street in a tight dress, it's completely false. Physical looks mean nothing to a girl unless they help display strides of confidence (built body) and only because of the confidence it portrays. That means your face? means nothing in terms of look, provided it's clean and there are no massive deformities. 99.9% of you have the POTENTIAL to attract any girl you want. The cards you are dealt don't fucking matter, it's how you play them.

If you are a guy who thinks his looks are unattractive, it's not your looks, it's your self esteem. A low confidence man is about as good as an overweight girl in a bikini - nobody wants to see that shit. You especially. Give yourself some damn confidence or at least fake it til you make it. Both paths will lead to the same result: True self esteem that no person or no thing can break. A man with skyrocket confidence holds and builds frame in every interaction he has, whether it's at the family table on Thanksgiving or the checkout line with the hottest cashier. You can say, do and think anything. And believe me when I say that it's attractive.

That's why when a woman pretends she's hot shit, and she's not, she is using what she thinks we are attracted to (personality, confidence) by reflecting on what SHE is attracted to. It's a very narrow minded perspective to assume the genders are attracted to equal things. They're not. And those women are lying to themselves. Don't fall to the same illogical thinking in reverse - the bad results are the same. You might not have amazing confidence and that's ok - the steps are there to take you on the right path but recognizing the cognitive dissonance is the first one. I wish I could be the life of the party every time but I'm not perfect in what I preach. It's what I strive for though

There are only 2 instances where looks matter and they are both fully in your control. One is hygiene and the other is how you take care of your body. This is in full contrast to the female - for all the advantages they have in life their attraction is largely genetic, and do not last for most of their life. Females peak at 18, men peak whenever the fuck they decide to man up and take control of their life. And that peak usually lasts

Hit the gym extra hard this week and give yourself that edge you need