Mini FR: Forgot Her Birthday

brinkleybuzz · 2016-12-13T14:02:26+00:00

I did not know what to text back so I just did not respond

Well done. When in doubt, say nothing. This applies to women and cops.

brinkleybuzz · 2016-12-13T08:29:51+00:00

Wtf?

Dread game, of course. He who cares less, who is less invested, holds the true power in relationship. It just gets unhealthy in the long run, when overused.

Auvergnat · 2016-12-13T11:23:49+00:00

"Frame" and the act of controlling it are difficult to define but clear to see in practice. Here's a perfect example. People can judge whether forgetting her birthday was good or bad and discuss at lengths whether not answering her text was good or bad, but in practice you just demonstrated to her that you own your actions and that speaks volumes directly to her 'gina, bypassing her frontal cortex.

In my experience, there's no better pussy moistener in an LTR than remaining unphased and owning your actions after a drama broke out. There's a reason why "makeup sex" is the best sex.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-12-13T12:57:57+00:00

A day after her birthday she texts me: "so you couldn't even say happy birthday huh????".

I think the only thing I would do differently is say right there: "I didn't want to remind you that you were getting older"

Beyond that, nice recovery.

mexaboy · Tue Dec 13 12:42:03 2016 UTC

ZFG is the ultimamente pussy moistener. Pull this shit constantly and she'll eventually distance herself for ego protection, but a shakeup like this every now and then is chick crack

blacwidonsfw · Wed Dec 14 1:43:30 2016 UTC

Lol I do this all the time with my girl and works beautifully.

Her: freaks out over something (could be semi legitimate too).

Me: "you know I understand why you are mad but ultimately I am not looking for drama or to argue so if this is really an issue for you maybe we should reconsider what we are doing"

Her - "that's not what I meant! I just wanted someone to vent to"

Me - "ok cool glad we are on the same page, so wanna make me some food?"

tranx19 · 2016-12-13T16:46:06+00:00

I really honestly did want to do something nice for her, but I just forgot all about it.

Who are you trying to convince? Us or yourself?

If you wanted to do something, you'd of made it a priority, you didn't.

Cerebral_Moss · 2016-12-13T18:48:05+00:00

The only experience I've had with this was when my gf would be home all day waiting for me to come back from a 12 hour shift. She'd always make a really nice dinner and 7/10 times I'd just grab something quick on the way home. She'd always act really mad but those were the times she clung to me the most. I didn't know about red pill back then, but I like to think I was doing some of it right.

HumanSockPuppet · 2016-12-13T19:07:09+00:00

That's just it. You didn't "screw up". Getting apologetic would have been a screw up.

You demonstrated that you have more important things in your life to deal with than her pettiness. And if she wants to continue benefitting from your guidance, she'd best learn to show you some respect.

Areu4realm8 · 2016-12-13T22:37:18+00:00

where do you find such low self esteem women? a similiar thing happened to my sister, and she never spoke to him again. she makes me proud.

tranx19 · 2016-12-13T19:13:15+00:00

I've tried to see how far the dread game can go. Don't go too far. You'll create a woman who will do anything for you. Know however that you need to be in good physical shape and have actual collateral eg. wealth, intelligence to pull it off.

mikazee · 2016-12-14T05:21:05+00:00

What the hell are you smoking?

A day after her birthday she texts me: "so you couldn't even say happy birthday huh????".

You had sex a couple of times, you're not her boyfriend, but she's talking to you. She's not genuinely mad, she's just finding an excuse to talk to you.

Well, to my surprise, she started apologizing and asked me if she could come over - she would cook something nice and make it up to me.

Makes sense, she just wanted your attention and didn't realize she stepped over one of your lines.

For me to screw up and then have the girl apologize and be all nice afterwards. Wtf?

That's the thing, you didn't screw up by not remembering her birthday. It's like when a guy awkwardly teases a girl and she thinks he's genuinely insulting her. She's flirting with you.

Be solid when she tries to break into your frame - not sure how solid my frame is, but it is getting there!.

This didn't even seem like a shit test. This just seemed like her idea of flirting. It wasn't about breaking frame, its about spending time with you. If this was in person, she'd probably have a smile on her face, not trying to trip you up, just flirt. Like those new rom-coms where the girl and guy just make sarcastic remarks for the whole movie. It's that kind of shit. You're overthinking this.

Either way, you got laid.

AncientScrolls · 2016-12-13T19:21:36+00:00

Hey, I'm wondering if when you told her, that she was a very whiny person by phone did you use a teasing tone or your guys were really in an argument tone?

[deleted] · 2016-12-14T11:51:46+00:00

Our sidebar has long, well-written essays about intergender relationships and evo-psychology from some truly brilliant men.

Then there is this little mini FR where a man shares an experience and makes an observation that takes TRP back to its roots.

Men shooting the shit about what works and how this is not congruent with their previous way of thinking.

Solid FR dude

kidwithambition · 2016-12-14T21:16:13+00:00

gives you shit, you brush it off pretending it didn't even happen, she begins asking for your forgiveness for a situation she created herself and wants to pay you back - it's a cycle

you've experienced the female brain at work - it doesn't make sense like it's supposed to. use it to your advantage, and get laid 24 7

tranx19 · 2016-12-15T11:48:34+00:00

Awesome job OP sounds like youre mixing your possible natural alpha instincts with stuff you've learned on here if i had to take a guess.. Fuck that ho. Quite honestly I take this approach, the most important woman in my life is my mother. The rest of these so called human female creatures aren't really worth anything to me. So fuck some bitches birthday. If a girl ever makes it abundantly clear she wants to be my wife at some point, sure shes important to. And her birthday will matter to me for the most part.

This is a bit off topic but the other day I was thinking to myself why do i like this certain blonde bimbo whore so much, and I still dont know why. However I figured the best solution is to probably for nme to probably just get a girlfriend. Because I realized that some guy could be and probably cumming on her face, and fucking her until she really hurts, possibly fucking up her muscular abomination ass. Thought about how she probably isn't a rookie and has sucked on many dicks, and may have had a few trains ran on her. Thats when I realized that `she has no value and honestly is probably a dirty dolled up 29 or 30 year old hispanic whore at best, and thats me being nice to her. Shes never done anything for me, hasn't talked o me, has never approached me, has never given me money, and doesnt seem like she would be down to be my sugar mama. Therefore she deserves no respect form me, and I should value as much as I would pig shit. Realized shes not even worth put fourth any effort at all, and I should find a girl who actually likes me more than a little bit and maybe fits me a little better and will help me.

Fuck doing anything nice for her OP. Has she done anything nice for you? If a girl legit spends money or offers to spend money on on you thats probably top notch wife now material.

DaBaulz · 2016-12-13T19:47:13+00:00

Beautiful post. This is repeatable time and time again. I've all been the guy who has planned so much for a girls bday, only to not have her show. Horrible feeling. Ive also been the guy who didn't remember and had her reach out to me afterwords. Always better to be the one who doesn't meet these expectations.

[deleted] · 2016-12-13T20:27:23+00:00

Great show on dealing with a fastball. Had you given in, another would have followed. Then another. And another. A series of petty grievances, one after another to size you up, all because you allowed the first of that series to get the better of you.

Women know this little shit doesn't matter, but will gladly act like it does, because injuring you gives them a prize, and submission gives them joy. They win either way, but for men, there is only one option.

rp-one · 2016-12-13T22:45:32+00:00

You didn't screw up, you did exactly what you should have done.

Could've even rubbed it in a bit more with a cocky "Lol, I dont have time to wish every one of my girlfriends a happy bday... that would be like 2 or more A DAY"

Unless she's asked to be your exclusive gf and proven that shes worth it, dont go out of your way to wish her a happy bday/merryxmas/valintines day and DEFINITELY don't be buying presents.

StuttBuffer · 2016-12-14T13:07:43+00:00

Baller dude. Birthdays and Christmas are for children anyway.

Title	Mini FR: Forgot Her Birthday
Author	tranx19
Upvotes	325
Comments	68
Date	December 13, 2016 7:57 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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