Every time this girl comes to the bar i walk on eggshells but i have attempted on two occasions (i was mildly inebriated and love fucking with hamsters) to ask her why she self-identifies with feminism. At first she had an air of restraint but i triggered the crazy in her, she proceeded on both occasions to launch into a diatribe about the patriarchy, "YES MEANS YES" education, "dick carousel" justification under the guise of sexual liberation and the same old dodgy rape statistics and wealth inequality bullshit. On the first occasion my friend stayed away but i could tell he knew this to all be bullshit, mostly because of prior conversations i've had with him when women weren't present and his white knight armor was at the dry cleaners. i was happy to learn that other people in our social circle also didn't approve of this train wreck of a women (mostly because of aesthetics, if spongebob squarepants and Hilary Clinton had a child she would be that child..).
Now what's most troubling is my friend actually started to defend her opinion and perspective to the point of causing strain to our relationship, i'm baited into inflammatory conversations with this women than made to look like an idiot, i'm also called out for "slut shaming" and all of my logical points are discounted because i come from male privilege. Coming from a spoiled little white girl from some 2 pony town this is beyond infuriating, i grew up in the hood, having some fucking affluent hamster hint that my life's success is only due to "male privilege" is ridiculous.
Moving forward a few weeks (they've only been "dating" for like 2 months haha), homie doesn't really seem like he has any desire to hang out with anyone who isn't this girl or his endless array of omega gamer friends. He's burning bridges and turning into an arrogant douche bag, i'm about finished with our friendship mostly for personal reasons. A) I find it almost poisonous to my career, love life and mental wellbeing to surround myself with losers. B) Why would i personally want to waste time and effort on someone who is seemingly a spineless pushover C) If this guy can't properly assess the actionable value of his friends VS some random 3/10 than fuck him. BUT i feel bad, i know this girl is going to ruin him, even if he doesn't want to admit it, people close enough to him see how fucking clouded his judgement is.
EDIT: I seriously appreciate all the level headed advice, it's not easy advice but it's the right advice. I'm just going to discontinue our relationship and if he questions my absence i'll tell him exactly what needs to be said, which will most likely result in us going our separate ways. Moral of the story, not everyone has potential, not everyone has integrity or moral virtue, surround yourself with success and proven winners.
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