I woke up rested, had a nice breakfast, went to the office, hit the gym hard and after that had a meeting with a client. It was a nice day and i felt pretty good. On my way back home i decide to take a detour and buy some groceries and i see her on the opposite lane in her car.

I wave and drive away. She calls, asks if i want to chat for a minute. I tell her i'm going to the supermarket and if she wants she can meet me there. I buy my stuff and she's waiting outside for me. I signal her to follow me so i can put the groceries in my car and then smile and and give her a peck on the cheek (local custom). she gets a bit flustered we start to talk.

If you want to read the backstory you can find it in my post history. long story short we broke up after i found out she was having an affair with a married coworker (his wife told me). Lucky for me we weren't married. we broke up, i ghosted her, we haven't talked or seen each other in over 4 months.

I tried to keep the conversation as light and funny as possible, because frankly it was good day and i didn't want to get bummed out. She basically told me how everything went to shit after that, her family took my side and there was a lot of tension at home, the other guy probably dumped her and is now being divorce raped by his wife (he's also been exiled from his church group - jehova's witness)...i think she actually chuckled when she told me that...

Her bff girlfriend, who also knew about the affair, is now also getting divorced

So i'm basically trying to keep everything light and casual and polite and she just keeps dumping all this depressive shit on me. she tells me she can't live alone in the apartment we were supposed to move into, she tells me she's now seeing a psychiatrist, she goes to the gym with her new bff girlfriend (she stopped talking to the old one because she has enough problems as it is, no time for her friends divorce troubles). I tried to be as calm, confident and over it as possible, i'm quite surprised about how i didn't give a fuck most of the conversation.

This went on for about 45' (she keeps saying she doesn't want to leave because then she won't see me for another 4 months)....i know some of you guys are thinking why the fuck are you even answering her calls and giving her the time of day...i guess i was curious, i'm still in the anger phase and i had a nice pump from the gym and looked good.

Frankly i felt sorry for her at first, now i'm just angry again, i still have work to do on demolishing that pedestal she was on...time to read the sidebar again.

Just wanted to thank you guys (especially All_fixed_again who told me about TRP), it's hard to put the pieces back together after hurricane oneitis blows through your life and fucks your shit up. It gets better, day by day, just lift, read, socialize and try to have a good time and stay away from BPD women!!!!!!!

TL/DR ran into the ex, she started venting and i mostly dgaf

EDIT1: forgot to mention in the last paragraph: i started lifting and eating healthy (lost 6-7kg), quit smoking, started going out with my old friends again and made new ones, had sex with a new girl after almost 5 years, started a new business (still to early to tell if it will work but i oh so hope it does). I'm still angry but i try to use that anger as fuel for becoming a better man.

EDIT2: i find that i am still very angry after the encounter. finding out that some form of justice has been served has had only a short term effect. On the upside the new wave of rage has made me a beast at the gym. Bench pressed ~1.2 x BW. Also started shooting hoops again.