Single moms on Tinder

MentORPHEUS · 2015-10-28T01:04:28+00:00

What are you looking for in a Tinder member, a fulltime LTR leading to marriage?

MOST of my best plates have been single Moms. If you choose carefully and set up the relationship correctly, these are the ones that will spin on cruise control the longest, with minimal out-of-bed effort.

If you're young, inexperienced, lack strong frame, are prone to oneitis, then you do NOT want to dabble in single moms.

For experienced men of abundance looking for part-time long-term plates, single moms are the most eager 90% of the pool.

ETA: Writing that you won't date single moms in your profile will probably work against you, the same way that a tall man thinks twice about dating a short woman who bluntly refuses to date short guys. Work it in to the early getting to know each other messages; a casual, "Do you have kids? I don't." This does the job without putting off prospects before first contact. In my experience, most will mention kids in their profile anyway.

Teflon_wulfie · 2015-10-28T01:06:34+00:00

Plate her, don't date her.

(I'M A POET!)

Ola_Kala · 2015-10-28T01:56:49+00:00

It's no biggie

HAH.

Well, it IS a pretty big factor... we're talking about two human beings

Good job OP (not sarcasm) calling her on her bullshit.

Yeah, I don't want to post a picture of my children on Tinder, I think it's to respect their privacy

Please. hah.

I ask for 2 bills, pay mine and when she comes back I say it's getting late and I gotta go.

Well done.

PlusGoody · 2015-10-28T03:33:05+00:00

A skinny woman on a dating app will be a single mother, it's the state of affairs in 2015, with the exception of well-educated, well-brought-up girls in big cities, where it's still at least one out four.

moodyprism · 2015-10-28T00:39:12+00:00

I mean it's okay to plate a single mom but you'd be a lunatic to commit in any way.

nzgs · 2015-10-28T09:48:29+00:00

Single mothers are usually desperate and slutty which makes them perfect for tinder. If you're using tinder to find the perfect innocent princess to marry then you are doing it wrong.

_Nymphae · 2015-10-28T12:59:11+00:00

The fact that she hides it is telling. She knows nobody wants it, so she doesn't advertise it.

Not posting pics of the kids I could understand, but not writing anything about them on the profile is as good as lying in my opinion. It's pretty standard practice to mention if you have baggage like that.

squidracer · 2015-10-28T02:31:45+00:00

Unless your dating a much younger crowd, you can plan on most online dating to have nothing but single moms.

Otherwise they would just go out

BrianW1999 · 2015-10-28T04:22:55+00:00

Good for you for avoiding single Mothers. The one you met probably either has horrible taste in men (her bad boy Ex ditched her) or she cheated on him or gave him some reason to bolt. Either way, you don't want that baggage. I like how she says she shares custody with her Ex and it's "no biggie." Oh no. It's a huge, huge deal.

I wouldn't ask every Tinder match if they're a single Mother, but always make sure to spend as little as possible on the first date and find out as soon as you can. Sounds like you did a decent job this time considering she gave you no hint.

CowardlyPetrov · 2015-10-28T11:03:24+00:00

I have responded similarly to you when I was younger. Now, I might just stop talking, get up, and leave. Literally stop wasting a single second on her as soon as I find out.

Me: Well, it IS a pretty big factor... we're talking about two human beings....

Her: (appearing slightly uneasy) Yeah, I know, that's why I'm mentioning it to you. I mean, you didn't ask about it.

Well, fuck, do you have to ask her if she has AIDS too?

You: "You have AIDS?!"

Her: "You didn't ask!"

Mangcola · 2015-10-28T14:05:55+00:00

Dude u should have at least squeezed in one pump for your troubles then delete her numbers

ransay3277 · 2015-10-28T00:36:29+00:00

I wouldn't straight out ask. Just make the assumption that 1/2 or more of the women on tinder are single moms. It's the same as adding 20 pounds to what you think they weigh, or deducting 20% off the bat from their looks on their picture. It's OK to plate them or for a ONS. Just realize they are not LTR material. Besides, single moms give the best head.

RPGeller · 2015-10-28T07:16:43+00:00

You have no idea how relevant this is to me right now. Was supposed to see a new chick off tinder (only saw her 1 hour last week for coffee), and 2 hours before meetup time she drops the bombshell "I'm a single mum".

I said I'd sit on that info for a few days and come up with a decision. I'm sitting on a 4 month dry streak (broke up with 2 year LTR. Been on dates but nothing beyond car handjob) and she is objectively a 5, so my gut is telling me to run, and my dick to stay.

To be honest I'm leaning towards the "keep lifting and let the results attract higher quality women" line of thought. I'll put myself out here and say my n-count (sex) is sitting at 1 (due to LTR), so I'm conflicted between breaking the streak and experiencing more sex vs running for the hills.

Long time lurker, thanks in advance TRP.

pirateninj4 · 2015-10-28T11:47:09+00:00

Honestly this didn't sound that bad.

I think you were making more of a meal than you needed to.

Also it's stat, not stack.

drallcom3 · 2015-10-28T09:43:51+00:00

Who cares about that on Tinder? If she's attractive to you, go for it.

It's not a Russian bride catalog.

rp_divorced · 2015-10-28T13:26:03+00:00

I've only used Tinder since my divorce and my profile gives no hint that I have children. My position is that I'm on Tinder for my short term benefit and not looking for a stepmother for my children. If they ask whether I have children I'm always honest that I do and this has cost me some dates. Depending on the girl, I might offer that info myself prior to the date and others I'll tell while on the first date. I don't see anything wrong with what she did. What matters is whether it's a deal killer for you and how you handle it once you find out. This is also why you should never plan something expensive for a first date.

I would say that if you're looking for something long term from Tinder, then yes, you should ask EVERY one of your Tinder matches that you are planning to go on a date with if they have children.

EDIT: after reading your comments that you are looking for a LTR, I'm going to say that her lack of disclosure about her kids is no different than your lack of disclosure that you want a LTR. If she just wants a fuck buddy, then she might not have ever wanted a date with you because you're looking for something long term.

This is the reason you go on dates, to find out about each other. You each have something that might be important to you but not the other person. It sounds like you're quick to start thinking about a future with someone before you ever meet them. I would say that you still have some work to do on yourself if her disclosure affected you as much as it seems that it did.

doubleplustwo · 2015-10-28T00:32:02+00:00

Well, apparently it's your job to ask. She said so. /snark (look up "trickle truths" on TRP)

Inelukie · 2015-10-28T12:46:10+00:00

Once had a match with a 21 year old girl. Who happened to be a single mom of a 5 year old girl. Well, I did react surprised and she got really mad about that. Yeah girl, totally normal for a 21 year old girl to be a teenage mom...

Another time it was a 32 year old single mom, who outright told she was looking for a nice guy, since her last LTRs were abusive and one guy even violent. Yeah, totally gonna LTR such a women, who didn't even try to be polite or interesting.

Women sometimes are incredible.

valuemealmark · 2015-10-28T13:32:45+00:00

I once met a woman at a Halloween party. We talked for probably 2 hours at the party. I got her number. we talked on the phone multiple times before we met for a date. She waited until the food hit the table to say to me, "By the way, did I mention I have a 9 year old son?". I quickly did the math and that meant that she was 17 when she had him. Women will do, or say, or withhold anything for a free meal.

Sir_Distic · 2015-10-28T13:44:43+00:00

Wow! I'm surprised because usually they toss out that vomit of motherhood: "My child/children/son(s)/daughter(s) are my life/world/universe!" etc ad nauseum.

monsieurhire2 · 2015-10-28T16:32:48+00:00

She would totally mention it, but then that would mean less free dinners, drinks, rides, swag, gifts, attention, and dick.

maadkekz · 2015-10-28T13:53:21+00:00

Classic. You could make a David Attenborough wildlife documentary on this shit:

"Here we see the Alpha widow / single mother looking for a LTR Beta to raise the children she had with Chad Thundercock. The superior genetics of her offspring already secured through her previous Alpha partner, she now seeks a meek male to raise and support her offspring in exchange for feigned sexual interest in the Beta"

Davidkpa · 2015-10-28T01:59:12+00:00

Dude it's Tinder. Fuck and throwaway till you find one worth keeping if you ever do.

smper · 2015-10-28T08:04:23+00:00

I think you are like me, OP. Single moms are for one night stands only, at least for me. LTR with one is out of the question. I really can't plate single moms either, don't bother.

And since ONS are hardly worth the effort you put in them, single moms are out of the picture. Unless they are extraordinarily hot, like 1 out of 100, then I make an effort for a dip and ditch. Other than that, nah. Don't want single mother drama.

Recon_by_Fire · 2015-10-28T13:40:14+00:00

"upfront" (sic) after the date.

ILoveSunflowers · 2015-10-28T14:41:31+00:00

it's stat, not stack for when you're expressing a sense of urgency

Sdom1 · 2015-10-28T21:09:28+00:00

By the way, it's prudent for her not to put in the profile that she has kids. Pedophiles seek out situations like that, where they can take over the family unit and then abuse the kids.

Having fathers in the house not genetically linked to the kids increases the probability of abuse dramatically.

Evileddie13 · 2015-10-28T02:58:13+00:00

I always ask about stretch marks as in, "Two daughters! The stretch marks must be insane." If she defends herself with a 'I don't get stretch marks' Speech, give her a whirl. If she gets insecure about it, ditch.

irish_smithwick · 2015-10-28T06:15:52+00:00

I hide all single moms I see on OKCupid.

Bad choices in life turning into yet more bad choices in life.

GRL_PM_ME_UR_FANTASY · 2015-10-28T02:02:25+00:00

Then we have a great conversation in a local bistro for over two hours

There's your problem. Tinder first dates should never be at a place you can't leave quickly. I've met my share of crazies too.

pcadrian · 2015-10-28T11:42:48+00:00

I hear ya. I made an OkCupid profile, and in my area every single woman that's remotely attractive has already been knocked up before the age of 20.

Why didn't you fuck her?

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TonyB79 · 2015-10-29T00:07:04+00:00

How old is she? ANY unmarried woman over 25 is going to have at least one kid hanging around from a previous marriage/relationship.

ktchong · 2015-11-01T02:17:07+00:00

I have never used Tinder or any online dating, but if I used it, I would take the initiative and clearly state in my profile, "no single moms, thanks." Which would have saved you a whole lot of troubles.

vicious_armbar · 2015-10-28T13:44:48+00:00

I'm not interested in raising some other guy's child either. But this was some chick off of tinder, so obviously you were just looking to bang. So use a condom to bang then bail.

I agree with other commentators to avoid single moms if your young, inexperienced, and don't yet have a strong frame. If your frame is weak they'll eat you alive.

prodigy2throw · 2015-10-28T15:34:10+00:00

Single moms are good fucks. Why would you burn that bridge?

BetterBadIdeas · 2015-10-28T18:37:23+00:00

Dude. Single mom's are fine plates, and who's on tinder for an LTR?

bbidabbong · 2015-10-28T22:07:33+00:00

What's so wrong with single moms?

Not for a relationship or marriage. But for weekend railing yes. If she's good looking and in shape, plus they are more experienced and will definitely show you some things which young chicks aka starfishes won't.

GreenTomatoSauce · 2015-10-28T11:27:27+00:00

Iirc 40% of the mothers are single these days. It's a very big and growing demographic, unfortunately. Not to mention that a big portion of them has the "strong and independent woman" mentality,that's why they are looking for casual or semi serious stuff on tinder.

Sir_Distic · 2015-10-28T16:29:48+00:00

I currently live in a small rural town in the belt buckle of the bible belt.

Very country. (Camo, Trucks, Guns, Muddin' etc) which causes women to get knocked up at 14-16 like it's no big deal. Plus the guys are expected to be tough and yet respectful of women (see also "betabux").

Something like 75% of the women on Tinder, OkC, and POF in my area are single mothers. 60% of those are at least 20-40 lbs overweight.

It's just disgusting to see all these "my kids are my life!!!!omg! If you can't deal with that get lost!" women. Also the amount saying "I'm not a ons so don't even try" etc is hilarious. Or would be if these women weren't the saddest things ever. No intelligence, no prospects besides marriage, kids, family, god, country, 'Murica! Nothing to offer anyone of value. At all. And guys are looked down upon for standing up to women.

Stormhammer · 2015-10-28T16:45:22+00:00

Dude, single moms are the best. More often than not they have a "don't need a father for them, they already have one" mentality, and depending on how you play it, you can easily keep it them as a plate as a result of their situation. They absolutely crave that sexual attention.

It's why when you see them going out with their girlfriends when they have a baby sitter they are some of the sluttiest/most seductively dressed women out there. They may still want a LTR/husband again one day, but for the moment, they just want to feel wanted.

That and they're kinky as hell.

[deleted] · 2015-10-28T17:04:44+00:00

Single moms need love, too. Just fuck them and forget them. Damn...she probably hasn't been fucked in weeks/months. Would have been a freak, too. Not like you have to be the new baby daddy. She is slut on Tinder. I have hooked up with many single mothers and they are always some of the best lays because they no longer are shy about things.

yo_radical_one · 2015-10-28T17:15:06+00:00

This is how I know twerps are pussies

OP can blame the woman, blame feminism, blame anything, ultimately he is the one who went on tinder looking to find a wife.

Title	Single moms on Tinder
Author	onehonesttruth
Upvotes	61
Comments	134
Date	October 28, 2015 12:28 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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