I approach a girl awkwardly with 0 confidence, I radiate awkwardness and defeat, she feels this and I get rejected.

I approach a girl with 100% confidence, I feel amazing, I feel free and awesome, she picks up this emotion and feels it too. I must be the shit and later we fuck.

What is the difference between I?

The first I used tinder for 3 months, got 0 likes and concluded that women only like 6ft, 100k, handsome 10/10 chads. The first I did 3 cold approaches and had no luck and believed I must be too ugly. The first I read Pareto’s principal that states 20% of the men get 80% of the females and again reaffirmed I need to be that 6ft handsome 10/10 chad.

The second I. The second I never used tinder. The second I did 1 awkward cold approach but the girl was desperate and insecure and we fucked. The second I had that ugly ass friend that went to bars and scored all the chicks and made me believe I could also do it.

So what is the difference really. I look absolutely the same, my work ethic is the same, my bank balance is the same, I’m dressed the same, the human approaching the woman is identical in all regards yet the outcome is totally different. The outcome, based off confidence, a total bullshit illusion, an assumption. And the second I will grow more confidence as he succeeded while the first I will grow feeling even worse. Yet at the end of the day they both go home watch the same movie, hit the same workout etc. But the first I feels like a God and the second I feels like the worlds biggest loser. And this will create a vicious circle of more success or defeat.

Meanwhile, the female also has the same mental illusions to deal with. Perhaps her parents abused her and made her feel shitty all her life. On the other hand perhaps they made her feel beautiful and loved. But both girls look the fucking same.

So this is all a big bullshit illusion.

Imagine the successful man paired with the woman that was abused as opposed to the unsuccessful man versus the woman that was loved. Both scenarios have the same humans, the difference is the mindset. Who will be chasing who? Who will feel who is the prize. Who will be working and serving who. Who will develop the oneitis.

This whole fucking thing is a big mental bullshit. Its all a lie.

Imagine a girl who was raised in feminism and the land whale believes she is beautiful and amazing and the prize, versus a woman who had it drilled in her head from her parents that men only like skinny women and made her insecure even though she was decently fit. Who will act more “alpha” regardless of actual value.

Why is Kanye West an extremely successful man simping, could have any woman in the world, simping over Kim. Why is Will Smith an incredibly successful man simping over a woman who I don’t even know why the fuck she is famous for. Why are beautiful girls chasing low life drug dealers. Absolute nobodies.

Its all a fucking mind-game, a game of poker, a game of incomplete information.

At the end of the day, the moral is.

You must feel something, so you might as well feel like the greatest to ever do it. And if you must have an opinion of others around you, have the opinion that they are not on your level.

Because your self esteem, the confidence you have, the value you place on yourself is just a guess. Really, it is a guess. And the value you place on others is also just a guess. No one really knows anyone.