Why you shouldn't be upset about not getting laid in your teens.

xray777 · 2016-11-28T13:04:11+00:00

Don't hear what I'm not saying...not trying to be weird. But, realtalk, I do feel for those guys who never got to experience an attractive naked high school chick.

Is it everything? Fuck no. But it is something.

LifeWithTRP · 2016-11-28T07:24:15+00:00

I think accepting regret as a real thing and earning to accept whatever you feel you messed up, is an important thing

If you pretend like you ever screwed up or never used out, but need to read posts about why you didn't miss out: you're hiding from mistakes and unfortunates realities of life.

Accepting reality will make you stronger

Strudel288 · 2016-11-28T17:12:28+00:00

I really needed this. I'm 19 and no girl has ever showed any interest, so naturally my depression is whipping my ass every day. But this gave me hope.

fuu969 · 2016-11-28T06:11:22+00:00

Some people discover TRP later in life and the effect of years of bitterness warp their point of view of life.

If they had had positive reinforcement If they had known TRP If they hadn't always meet low value girls ... If if if

You can't change the past. I know that if I had had some successes when I needed positive reinforcement, I would have raised the bar higher because I would have known it was possible. Instead I only found low value women, got screwed so much and so many times and I know that it was my fault for not being up to the task.

But now that I know the truth and have more opportunities with women, it feels weird somehow. I feel good with myself but way too weird about that inside to be motivated about pussy or act like the fun guy around women anymore.

When you go through a lot you end up on the dark side of the IDGAF realm of peace. I am not sure that's very attractive.

smokecheck1976 · 2016-11-28T09:03:03+00:00

My best friend growing up had crystal blue eyes and a sort of cockiness. He also had an older brother and a sister to observe and learn from. Girls flocked to him. He lost his virginity at 13. He had a girl or two on his arm seemingly at all times. He could get away with most anything, I got grounded for making a joke referencing marijuana. I could get away with things when I was hanging out with him. I helped him get through high school.

We drifted apart after I joined the Army because I couldn't find any real reason for me to stay in that town.

Years later, I ran into him when I was home visiting. He looked worn out. The difference seemed to be I had not had the constant maelstrom of drama surrounding me.

yomo86 · 2016-11-28T18:17:48+00:00

Looking back... flying under the SMV radar of our crazy high school girls was probably not the worst that could happen. No sudden babies because she thought at 16 you are the one; no personality fucking drama with a BPD chick. You get the drift.

TheLaughingRhino · 2016-11-28T06:44:11+00:00

Don't be upset about things you can't change.

If you don't learn from the things that happened to you that hurt you, then you've suffered for nothing.

If it's gonna cost you, make it worth it. Take the lesson or lessons, whatever they might be, and try to move forward.

StuttBuffer · 2016-11-28T12:02:21+00:00

The best reason to not get down on yourself for not having sex in high school/college is that most men have not had enough time and opportunity to attract women in the first place. Hell, a lot of guys aren't even done with puberty till after high school. Getting a bit more mentally and physically mature made all the difference for me.

broketsuu · 2016-11-28T12:12:18+00:00

It literally doesn't matter to me anymore. Granted I'm a 21yo virgin but I'm not even attracted to any girl below the age of 18-19 they're just more cute to me than sexy.

TRP_Lee_zard · 2016-11-29T05:55:58+00:00

Sounds to me as rationalizing. There is a time and place for everything.

Sure you dont have to lose virginity before 20, but if you wait til 40 you are screwd and the first experience would be shitty.

Gaming experience is rather weak, because you can select from hundreds of games (even 20-30 years ago) to suit you best. Yoi cannot check 20-30 girls right away, you need practice.

It is good to screw chicks in your teens/20s, but it definitely is not the peak of life.

VeganPirate · 2016-11-28T17:52:55+00:00

As someone who finished school just over a year ago with very few experiences (still a virgin) I really have to thank you for this rant, I never looked at the whole thing from this point of view! Thanks mate!

nonthaki · 2016-11-28T04:27:02+00:00

Dudes who kind of just had a smooth ride throughout highschool and college generally tend to stagnate pretty early on. Those who achieve real success, the top 1% of the 1%, are those who went to hell and back. Being successful not just with women but in life is all about how you deal with setbacks. It's just like Rocky Balboa said - "It's not how hard you hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward."

So if you're the type of guy that's suffered from a lack of friends/girls growing up, maybe you were a social outcast, maybe you suffered from some kind of depression, then you're basically primed for success.

This is wrong in the sense that having piss-poor friends , friends with no drive and even bullies in your childhood and also being beset by failures doesnt make you wise or make your latter-day (teenage and adult years) social status and power any better in the real sense . What years of failure and setbacks from being around or associating with low achievers; and having poor friends during your younger years does is reveal to you how unimportant these so called friends of you were and actually how uninterested they were in your self-improvement .

We learn how valuable our time is and its not to be spent on every Tom, Dick and Harry who pretends to be our real friends . Real friends are fewer and far in between , and we just need a handful of them to be real happy . Dont try to actively go after getting friends , even if you are an adult now and have money and power, as this wont lead to any significant improvement in your life .

kez88 · 2016-11-28T03:00:05+00:00

Having sex in your teens doesn't mean you also can't have a lot of sex later as well, missing out in your teens and getting a lot of sex later aren't correlated either. If you miss out then you miss out, end of story, work on yourself and make sure you don't miss out any longer. This just sounds like hamstering why you don't wanna be one of 'the cool kids'.

Teenage years are fantastic for doing all the shit you described, cauz you're only a young teen once. Enjoy that shit

quicklogaccount · 2016-11-28T10:50:41+00:00

Man, not having had sex until after college and seeing that guy who repeatedly creates new users and new posts about it, I can't help but wonder something...
Why is it that you people, even here, think of it as a trade?
Dude, all it takes to "go to a college club" is going to a fucking college club. You don't lose your career for doing that. You don't lose your soul. You spend a night.
Man, if you want to pick up a college chick, you go to a club and hit on one. Open a few, make out with one, get the number, and fucking game her. You won't lose your gym gains to do it, you won't lose your money, job, career. You'll "lose" a few hours you could have spend doing something else. My game sux, so it's like 20, I strive to make it in 5 by strengthening my game, but I hardly believe someone thinks that's an unworthy goal.

iamneptuno · 2016-11-28T10:33:15+00:00

It's also beneficial since the more you suffer the more you grow.

Insane, ridiculous bullshit. It's exactly like saying, "not exercising is beneficial, because the more fat you put on the more you grow". Just like what you said, it's kind of true in some sense, but in the wrong one.

What doesn't kill you severely injures you.

backdoorbum · 2016-11-29T01:06:00+00:00

Haha got laid when I was 15

u mad virgins?

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TheRedINTP · 2016-11-28T14:35:11+00:00

It's crazy how many of the most well-known influencers or leaders of this world either suffered from depression or had some other mental disorder.

I've never heard this before in my life. Every great biography I read is an impressive life from the start.

Title	Why you shouldn't be upset about not getting laid in your teens.
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Date	November 28, 2016 1:27 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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