Let's get some basic facts out of the way:

• Women say "It just happened" when they have sex. They don't say "I fucked someone."

• Women say "The patriarchy pressured me into sociology." They don't say "I chose a stupid major."

• Women say "Society stigmatizes women who prioritize jobs." They don't say "I took time off."

Is it any surprise that women say "I am objectified" instead of "I am an object" ?

Agency isn't something you get for free. Almost by definition, it's something that you need to take for yourself. There's no such thing as a person who's not getting pressure in all directions to do whatever people want them to. Moreover, it's NEVER going to be in anyone's interest, other than your own, for you to act like an agent so the pressure will always be towards the object life. Men have the same pressure to be objects as women do, probably more now that feminism's fucking with our boys. Men are just less likely to accept it.

Fact is, there is no objectification process that can turn agents into objects. The only people who can be objectified are the ones that were objects to begin with. Sometimes you can have the leverage over an agent to make them fake it for a little bit (ie parents controlling kids) but it always looks artificial and the agent always revolts. Agency is such a foreign concept to women that they don't even take credit for becoming objects. They don't realize they bend over for men, feminists, or to the prettier girl in their class. No, those people bent her over. They talk about agency from the object's point of view, treating agency like something that's given to an object or something that can be begged for.

My point here is not just to detail the ways in which women are kooky. I talk to way too damn many guys who make the same mistake about agency as women do. Just like women describe agency as something thrust onto an object, men describe objectification as something the object decides for themselves. They presume that women are active thinkers and active actors who control their own objectified destiny. That has to change. You cannot understand women unless you recognize them as objects instead of projecting your own nature onto them.

That's why you cannot take a woman's decisions or convictions seriously. Women don't want what they say to impact the world and they don't want the world impacted by what they believe. They don't want to have to give active consent. It's why they don't want to choose when the date is or where you'll go. They're not looking for input, agency, or any of that. They're being locked onto the nearest source of authority and being bent into whatever he says. You need to understand what an authority looks like, because you win women over with rightfully made commands and not with consideration of who they are.