Hi, I am a 28 year old childless female and I would like your brutal, honest advice. I do not know if this is against the rules of the subreddit, but I think that you men (and some women) would be the best people to ask for a reality check. Background: My mother and I do not have a good relationship at all, but my relationship with my father is the best that I have in my family. They have been divorced for 26 years, and they met when my mother paged my father's beeper and told him that his girlfriend, who was her roommate, was direly sick and needed him to come over asap. When my father arrived he did not find his sick girlfriend there, but instead found my mother naked in the living room and proceeded to hit it. That would be the start to a failed marriage. As my father says, "I was young and dumb and she was 10 years older than me. I didn't know any better." That's right, my father was 24 and my mother was 34- She saw an opportunity and she snatched it. I was raised by my mother who instilled in me that men were only good for one thing: money. If they didn't have money then they were worthless to her, and she would often bring back many men who I witnessed physically abuse her once they realized they were being used. Finally she found someone extremely stupid but who was also a hard worker and she never let go, even when he would come home and beat her in a drunken stupor. I was also raised to believe that having a child and being a single mother made you worthless to men, and my mother put me on birth control as soon as I started having my period so that I wouldnt produce any 'mistakes'. PRESENT: I am addicted to 'fixing' men. I go for the sob story, and the more he owes in child support the better. The less he has the better. I know subconsciously that these men cannot provide for me or any children because they cant even take care of themselves, and I guess I use that as a form of 'Well, we can't have children because he's not responsible. One day he might be though.' The problem is that doesnt happen, and I know it wont happen. But I am getting older now and I am starting to fear living with 7 cats and dying alone. I have ridden the cock carousel like the best of them, using my pussy as a soup kitchen to feed the poor and the needy. My fear is becoming my mother, and using men and being abused by them, so I have done the absolute opposite and have become the financially and educationally dominant person in every relationship. I am also very, very easy. I recently met a man through Tinder and of course we fucked on the first first date, because its Tinder. But, we have continued to talk to each other and we are becoming friends. He is an engineer and is also a dom in the bedroom which I have never, ever experienced before. I want it to go further but I don't know if I've already fucked it up by hooking up with him so early. I didn't think that it was going to progress past a one night hook up- my fault for being easy and short-sighted I guess. So, I would like your views on all of this. I know you guys will be straight with me and I am prepared for it. I'll be checking back to answer any questions as well, if they come up. Thanks for the reality check.

​

https://imgur.com/a/dui6GwL