Guy makes it clear he isn't interested in a relationship. Casual sex proceeds. Guy starts a relationship with someone else.. Cue the meltdown.

Ultramegasaurus · 2018-06-26T12:25:58+00:00

Of course, when a man is in a similar situation and frustrated about it, he's told to stuff it and is accused of being a fedora misogynist neckbeard. But a woman deserves sympathy.

Overkillengine · 2018-06-26T12:49:41+00:00

Why would he tell me he is not looking for a relationship?

With you

Too bad lady, this is what happens when women as a whole refuse to see 80% of men as sexual beings. You and your sisters all try to chase the same 20% of men remaining, whom then figure out they can just use you as cum-rags if they want since you decided to limit your options to just them.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-26T11:41:11+00:00

Ohh shit! She got played hard.

Yet, it bothers me that you refer to casual sex like sth i gave him.

for him to be able to get casual sex from you.

We both got it, i didn't give it to him! We both had a nice time and we both decided to have that kind of relationship.

You found a hot guy, a guy that has options, he used you and spun you good. You thought it was just what young people do, but it doesn't feel right.. something is off.

Dude pegged her from a mile a way. Then pegged her from 6 inches in.

AllahHatesFags · 2018-06-26T15:25:36+00:00

Bitch, you are not entitled to any man's commitment.

Curthurley · 2018-06-26T11:41:38+00:00

The hamster is working overtime in those comments

moorekom · 2018-06-26T11:46:37+00:00

Ok, let's break this down.

//Yesterday my friend told me that a girl from 'our' circle who is also an exchange student but from a different university than K, is now in a relationship with him! I learned the details. They went on a few dates and decided to start a relationship. I don't understand! Why would he tell me he is not looking for a relationship? On our first dates he looked excited to see me. He also knew that girl before he met me, but they were not friends or close in any way. They were bearly talking a few weeks ago.//

//Can someone explain to me what happened here? Am i not good enough for him to get serious with me? She is a very pretty girl, but he said he liked me a lot. I don't get it!//

So, they went on a date. He was excited. Then went on another date and he springs the not ready for relationship excuse. What is the fucking mystery here? It's apparent either she fucked up or his prospects got better. Maybe she was bitchy to him/ got too comfortable too early/ was showing too much interest to him that he thought he can just pump and dump her. The other girl seems to be prettier. Maybe you were the girl he used to lure her. Ever think of that sweetheart? You were the bait for that other girl. You are not good enough for a relationship. But you're good enough to be used for casual sex and instill preselection and dread in another girl.

houseoftolstoy · 2018-06-26T14:06:51+00:00

Women never say "I am not looking for a relationship right now" to the emotionally supportive guys that get put on the back burner until she is ready to "settle down" in her late 20s/early 30s, while getting into a relationship a week later with a different guy. Nope. Never happens.

Those guys that provide the boyfriend role without receiving the girlfriend treatment have been told many wrong things on how to get a relationship. Many of those men are waking up. Meanwhile, women like the OP in the link are getting the inverse scenarios. Women like her need to have their own wake up moment and figure out how to be better women to get what they want, just like the men had to do. Will that happen? We'll see.

PhotosyntheticChad · 2018-06-26T13:55:25+00:00

Sounds like the other girl is prettier, and less of a slut.

Ghustgan · 2018-06-26T12:49:37+00:00

She only has herself to blame here. I seriously have no idea how the guy even got her to fuck him with his behavior. Oh who am I kidding. She went after chad and decided to fuck him anyway because she thinks with her pussy.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-27T01:34:23+00:00

It seems as though this needs to be said again. We don't invite OPs to defend their post. We don't want them here because they feel the need to defend their post and their actions. They take what we are saying personally, rather than seeing our points as objective statements to their behavior.

Inviting OPs here adds unnecessary drama and work on the moderators to ensure this place remains open to the public to come and laugh/learn from. We like this place because we get to take publicly available posts/profiles/strategies and dissect them on our turf.

If you absolutely feel the need to debate OPs and the merits of their strategies or dating rituals, then please private message them or feel free to add a comment in their post. Do not bring them here to debate us on why they said or narrated that part of their life. They are just going to defend themselves, take it personally, and not add anything productive to our conversations.

We must be able to do this, collectively, to ensure that this place remains open. Calling OPs to our corner of the Internet is damaging to our ability to carry on unabated.

LewisCross · 2018-06-26T16:45:26+00:00

What's even more interesting is the OP's inability/unwillingness to accept the truth about the situation.

--he wanted a relationship; he just didn't want a relationship with the OP.

--for this guy, OP was good enough only for casual sex, not for a relationship. He judged her as good for casual only, not for a relationship.

EDIT: And keep in mind: The man was well within his rights to judge her this way. He had and has every right to judge her against any criteria he wants. What OP is pissed about is that he judged her unworthy of more than casual. And that frosts women to NO END.

The fuck of it is, he was honest with her - he told her flat out he didn't want anything serious. She went ahead and had casual sex with him anyway. Then she gets mad that he gets into a relationship with someone else. Well, so what? He was honest with her, as honest as he needed to be - he didn't want anything serious, he wanted NSA only, she was down with that, and so that's what they both got. He wasn't required to tell her the unstated thing men always mean when they say "I'm not looking for anything serious":

"I'm not looking for anything serious with you, at this moment, and without the benefit of knowing more about you. But if you are high value enough and add enough value to my life, I might be interested in something serious with you.

WorkingNail · 2018-06-26T17:43:01+00:00

They were bearly talking a few weeks ago.

Well, dear, perhaps this is your answer. Maybe, just maybe, he wanted someone literate to hang out with. Some guys really dig chicks that can read and write. Call it a fetish thing if you have to.

After that, we haven't been on any other real dates, we would just have casual sex from time to time

However, I suspect that this sentence explains what really happened. You gave it up to him, he knew he could get it whenever he wanted, but he also knew something else. He knew that if you gave it up to him that easily, you'd give it up to others just as easily, and he wasn't looking for that.

Value yourself a little more and don't give sex away to any guy that shows interest. Give it to the man you love and make sure he knows that what you are giving him is his, and only his. Use your love for him to genuinely make him know that you have set him apart from all the other men, and that you find him special enough to give him the most intimate parts of yourself. Let him know during your lovemaking that you desire him and only him, by your gentle touch and saying his name. Having sex should be an intimate time between you and the man you love, and it is the perfect time to show him that his presence matters in your life, that you desire him in your life, and you want him above all others. Achieving true intimacy and love is not possible when you give it to any man that you are attracted to. That is why you are being used, because it comes across clear as day to this guy that you don't love yourself and you don't value what you have to offer a man. If you don't value it, why should he?

ContradictFate · 2018-06-26T15:45:58+00:00

Hahahahahaha! Yes! Women getting a taste of what they do with impunity to men. Lady, this is what it feels like when a guy is having a great conversation with you only to have you disappear into mist because you have 20+ other choices on the side and 0 ethics.

Now take that knowledge like a stone tablet on your back across the land and spread the word to all your wahmens that being played doesn't feel very fucking good. 0 remorse, you got your just desserts. Use this story as pity signalling to the other 19 guys you're talking up though.

Zefirez · 2018-06-26T14:35:01+00:00

Don't we know this story...oh yes! That's about every poor beta simp getting the "I'm not ready for relationship" talk from a hot chick, except unlike the poor sod she got some orgasms outta it.

Got strung along, used (though at least she liked that part) and then watched superior model get what she couldn't.

Welcome to man's world baby!

freckledfox01 · 2018-06-26T12:53:26+00:00

All I needed to read was her title. How could she be this unaware ?! He told her what he wanted and she gave it to him ! End of transaction.

He just not that into you

RealDW · 2018-06-26T17:45:48+00:00

STEAK PLEASE

BachelorInc · 2018-06-26T21:06:39+00:00

we would just have casual sex from time to time

i started having feelings for him and i was getting sadder and sadder

WAATGM sees this quite often. Women thinking they can completely compartnentalize sex and feelings in a relationship. Doesn't. Work. That. Way.

The phrase 'casual sex' is an oxymoron. There's nothing casual about it. People refer to it like they just sat down and shared a greasy order of carne asada nachos from the local taco joint...Stripping down naked, rubbing and grinding my COCK inside your pussy, tongue, mouth and shooting baby batter inside your pipes and across your skin is just about THE single most intimate encounter I can think of. In fact, it is THE most intimnate encounter one can share.

Yeah, it's 2018 and most of us - if not all of us - have had our share of casual sex. But the idea that no-one is going to catch feelings for someone else is fucking stupid.

A girl doesn't have to be special at all to get fucked . So we have these modern THOTs proclaiming how liberated and empowered they are by hopping from cock, to cock, to cock. But, it takes a fucking toll. You can't have 50 or 100+ different cocks in you and tell me that doesn't alter you in anyway. Lack of ability to bond. Emotional baggage. Perceiving sex as just some meaningless act, which will make cheating on someone you care about that much easier.

So this chick (OP) decided to just have fun and let this guy lube her pipes up for a few weeks. Dude, decides he's going to get in a relationship. If it was just casual sex why would she give a fuck? As a matter of fact, why don't they continue fucking. It shouldn't mean anything anyway.

C'mon hop back on that pony! The CC is still bobbing!

BachelorInc · 2018-06-26T20:43:49+00:00

Yet, it bothers me that you refer to casual sex like sth i gave him.

I thought this was a typo.

Urban Dictionary: Sexually Transmitted Humiliation (STH) STH occurs when you have sex with someone who will cause you to be humiliated by your peers .

lol. This generation is so fucked.

BiggusDickus- · 2018-06-26T13:53:16+00:00

That response from "Ritzen" is straight up awesome. Keeping it real!

ransay3277 · 2018-06-26T18:54:52+00:00

The lady who wrote the original post forgot two words. "He told me he is not looking for a relationship." She forgot the two words at the end.. "with me".

twayne-by-the-ocean · 2018-06-26T16:06:51+00:00

These ladies all think they special, they amazing, they princesses who need Prince Charming on horseback/motorcycle/sports car, but prince here wants to rival the ottoman sultans.

Lady failed to take stock of her situation. She got played the way Mozart plays piano.

Best of all, she probably did not learn her lesson. The saga of princess the foolish will continue!

Makes me happy cause it could lead to more material for this sub.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-26T20:46:17+00:00

I don't know if she accidentally forgot to log out before posting here, but she commented on here with this account: kalista5772. She has since deleted the comments.

In her post history, kalista5772 complains about not being able go attract a man, and complains about her asymmetrical face. Also she mentions her weight. Basically she's a fat homely girl with a smashing pair of breasts, who wonders why her plump fucktoy body isn't good for anything other than being a fucktoy.

TomahawkSuppository · 2018-06-26T23:56:47+00:00

Women have this idea that their vaginas are so powerful that it will cause a Chad to commit to them.

ififcanIhaveacoatplz · 2018-06-27T01:04:18+00:00

The user ritzen comment is perfect. I suggest everyone reads it

SirKolbath · 2018-06-26T17:06:06+00:00

Can somebody explain what happened here?

Yes. You weren't worthy. If you want to be gentle about it, maybe you weren't compatible, but the bottom line is that he simply didn't want you. Sucksbummertoobad.

The bigger question is why you're whining on social media instead of fixing your shit and moving on.

DebatesNotBans · 2018-06-27T02:41:25+00:00

\>explain on reddit that when a girl says "I'm not looking for a relationship" she means "I'm not looking for a relationship *with you*"

\>get mass downvoted and told that she doesnt owe him anything

\>girl gets told "I'm not looking for a relationship" by a guy

\>lots of "you go girl" supporting comments, and some polite-but-honest advice being downvoted

Really makes ya think.

The_Frown_Inverter · 2018-06-27T05:37:46+00:00

When will women learn:

Men are not vending machines you insert sex tokens into and get a relationship in return

Wow, the entitlement and toxic femininity!

Markes777 · 2018-06-27T08:12:40+00:00

anyone here can relate to this? lol

fun story i experienced on a dating app.

> message girl

> she tells me she fed up with guys and dont want to date any

> 6 week later see her online

> check her profile, she in relationship

> i message her to ask bout it

> she in love big time and pregnant 4 weeks

LOL

KingRobotPrince · 2018-06-28T10:43:39+00:00

On our third date, upon talking he told me that right now he is not looking for anything serious in general and especially because he would only stay here for a semester. Tbh i was a little disappointed to hear because i really liked him, but i totally agreed with him. Starting a relationship under these circumstances wouldn't be a smart move.

So you broke up and moved on to someone who was available?

After that, we haven't been on any other real dates, we would just have casual sex from time to time. Last time we met was a month ago.

Jesus. That's a terrible idea. You're going to catch feelings and he's getting some free sex with no strings. Do you even relationship? If anything, this will make the guy become less interested in you as he sees you as a seminal spittoon!

Something not related to my question here is that i started having feelings for him and i was getting sadder and sadder as time went by and despite really wanting to be with him i knew i couldn't. Since i felt this way i stopped seeing him.

That's because women generally find it harder to have just casual sex as it affects them emotionally more than men. I'm sorry that TV and feminism lied to you. It's a shame this didn't happen at the start. Hopefully you've learned your lesson and not damaged yourself too much emotionally.

I don't understand! Why would he tell me he is not looking for a relationship? On our first dates he looked excited to see me. He also knew that girl before he met me, but they were not friends or close in any way. They were bearly talking a few weeks ago.

He used you for easy free sex (without even lying). Then he met a girl that he actually wants to have more than just sex with.

This is why it is best to stick to a committed relationship. Date, get to know the guy. Then, when you are sure he is going to stick around (i.e. he doesn't tell you he's not interested in a relationship or isn't leaving the country shortly) you can get it on.

Can someone explain to me what happened here? Am i not good enough for him to get serious with me? She is a very pretty girl, but he said he liked me a lot. I don't get it!

Shockingly naive. Probably about to enter the alpha widow/all men are bastards phase.

And it could have been prevented so easily...

trevmon2 · 2018-06-28T16:04:33+00:00

"I don't understand! Why would he tell me he is not looking for a relationship?"

kek

Guy makes it clear he isn't interested in a relationship. Casual sex proceeds. Guy starts a relationship with someone else.. Cue the meltdown.

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Title	Guy makes it clear he isn't interested in a relationship. Casual sex proceeds. Guy starts a relationship with someone else.. Cue the meltdown.
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