Compassion Or BS

Red-Nerd13 · 2018-10-18T02:47:09+00:00

Alright man, let me share my experience in regards to a painful sex for your girl. My wife has Endometriosis, which can cause extreme pain, specifically in that area of the body. On top of that, she's also has polycystic ovarian syndrome, same issue. Used to be a huge excuse from years 2-4 of marriage.

I started to get my shit together and just forget about dwelling on my woes of un-laid-ness. Found red Pill and lurked for a while and followed the advice. Read some books, got in shape (still a work in progress), and took control of my life again.

Guess what happened, we started having sex, a lot. She rarely turns me down, anymore. There are flair ups where she says it's to painful, but that always come with a blow job/hand job offer. So, I'll take it on those occasions.

When we first got together, those things weren't an issue. When she got bored and I became unattractive, they became the whole issue. When I started getting my shit together, issue is gone again.

"Hand Pain" is just an excuse, and when the surgery is complete, she'll find another one. So you need to evaluate whether or not the situation can be improved, or if it's time to call it quits. Only you can make that decision.

BobbyPeru · 2018-10-18T05:09:30+00:00

She's miserable to you because of her hands

Do you think hand pain is a valid reason to not have sex?

Yes, with you

Do you think she would have let her hand pain hold her back from fucking you during the early passionate days of your your relationship?

Also, you said she’s magically cured when the dread is increased.

So, up the dread, and keep your foot on the gas

What type of dread are you applying other than leaving for the night? That’s called active dread, and it’s just a band-aid. Passive dread is where you will see your real long term gains.

Sepean · 2018-10-18T04:35:48+00:00

My wife had a complicated birth requiring surgery and blew me the day after. But she’s a tough ex-athlete.

It sounds like she’s good to you when she’s healthy, so if this is a temporary thing I wouldn’t make any sort of deal out of it. If it’s chronic, she’ll obviously have to learn to function with it (read: you have to stop being a pussy).

johneyapocalypse · 2018-10-17T23:55:04+00:00

Pain is not a valid reason to avoid sex.

Hand pain? No.

Head pain? Hell no.

Full-on body pain? For fuck's sake no.

Death? Maybe. But push on through.

Tell her to butch up.

simbarlion · 2018-10-18T00:27:55+00:00

. Do you think hand pain is a valid reason to not have sex?

Yes. For a short period. But let's be honest it is clearly an excuse. Follow the formula, you already know reduced time together improves things

gettingmymojoback · 2018-10-17T23:53:59+00:00

If you actually have multiple plates, why do you care?

Also, it’s BS. She’s clearly not attracted to you. Won’t fuck because of carpal tunnel pain? I didn’t realize her pussy was connected to her wrist joint. That’s a strange woman you got there.

Mine is going through some serious issues as well right now....hasn’t slowed our sex life down one bit.

You’re obviously creating zero dread and have zero game.

RedPill-BlackLotus · 2018-10-18T00:01:42+00:00

in an LTR right now

been together for 2 years.

The last few months the sex has dried up. sj It's maybe twice a month.

Have you tried talking to her about it?

I'll spell it out for you because your new.

What does the T stand for in LTR?

Hint: it's not testosterone

RedPillCoach · 2018-10-18T00:43:02+00:00

Is hand pain a valid reason to not have sex?

What the Hell kind of question is that? Is pain a reason to lose your sexual desire? Umm, I am going with yes for $500 Alex.

If you want to save this failing relationship I would wait for at least a brief time after she is cleared to return to normal activities before you even begin the evaluation and the options/demands. If you want to dump her then pull a Newt Gingrich and drop it all on her when she is laying in her hospital bed.

Redpillbrigade17 · 2018-10-18T00:01:53+00:00

Why are you in this relationship ?

Title	Compassion Or BS
Author	Musicgoon
Upvotes	11
Comments	21
Date	October 17, 2018 11:16 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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