Does she actually enjoy giving BJs?

Sepean · 2016-03-27T18:22:00+00:00

Well I'm sure she wouldn't do it on her own with a dildo. She likes that you like it. You never did some hard work that was well worth it because it made someone you liked happy?

irateMD · 2016-03-27T17:12:16+00:00

Quit overanalyzing it and enjoy the BJ.

Right now you've got the same mentality that people in deadbedrooms have after having "the talk."

Is she just fucking me because of the talk, or because she wants to?

It's a no-win scenario.

Are you having frequent, enthusiastic, mutually enjoyable sexual activity? Yes? Then keep improving yourself and enjoy your happier life and emptier balls.

ClubLowlow · 2016-03-27T22:20:02+00:00

This post brings up an interesting point. Remember when you were a sniveling beta and did something you didn't want to do just to try to impress your Oneitis, and it made you feel bad?

I think OP is wondering if the same thing could be happening inside her, and that would be a bad thing.

Maybe it only feels bad for the beta because he is a man and therefore shouldn't be engaging in that kind of activity. Maybe women actually enjoy it, due to their more caretaking/nurturing nature?

cj_aubrey · 2016-03-28T02:12:32+00:00

You remember when you were 16 and you looked at the hottest girl in high school and you were like "I'd totally lick her until she screamed, even if we didn't do anything else, it would still be awesome cause she's so hot." That's cause that hot girl had a much higher SMV than you. MRP should help you to be the man your wife feels the same way about, and when that's the case, performing sexual acts just to please you will then be natural and enjoyable for your wife.

6TimesDown7TimesUp · 2016-03-27T17:14:13+00:00

Not being snarky but who cares?

Watch what they do, not what they say. If you're getting the behaviors you want then you're probably doing the right things on some level.

Chad wouldn't be worried about whether on not she wanted to give him a blowie or was just doing it because feelz or whatever. He'd just be enjoying it.

il-est-ressuscite · 2016-03-28T12:49:49+00:00

You know what fakefalse? I've been following your posts since you put up the one about your 16 year old daughter saying something mean about you when you took away her phone.

Now your wife is, literally, gagging for it and you're still not satisfied.

You should consider getting a pencil and a piece of paper to take some notes on while you re-read everything you've posted. Your way forward will be immediately clear.

Good luck dude, you need it.

SOAADDICT · 2016-03-28T01:22:19+00:00

Your real question here is does this woman just like a dick in her mouth, or have I inspired her to like my dick in her mouth?

You didn't ask the question you really wanted to because you probably recognize that it's a stupid, insecure question. It sounds like she enjoys BJs a lot more than you do, because she's focused on slobbering on lil falsefake while you're lamenting over how she might hypothetically treat imaginary other dicks.

the_Zambony · 2016-03-28T12:07:22+00:00

My chick sheepishly explained (unsolicited) it this way,

"It is something I know you like and it's fun."

stonepimpletilists · 2016-03-28T13:19:02+00:00

This is like the free will conversation.

You have no choice in what you do, so just assume free will and keep going. If there is no free will, nothing will matter anyways

Whether it causes a psychological, or physical pleasure doesn't matter.

Countpudyoola · 2016-03-28T14:18:39+00:00

The thing to ponder : do you like receiving them?

And if one must rationalize (why lord, why): There are a billion and a half things we do back and forth for our spouses that are for their benefit only. So even if she doesn't there's some equivalent or combined equivalent gestures you do that come out in the wash.

Once you stop thinking about these things as occurring in an isolated vacuum: the easier it is to jettison a lot of the ingrained queasiness you may encounter if you think too much with your big brain while receiving an act only your little brain has reason to be invested in.

If you like them and she likes giving them : great.

If you like them and she doesn't care: great.

If you like them and she doesn't like giving them...well I'm sure it balances out with going to see that Romcom + hanging out with her parents + adding a trip to Bed Bath and Beyond when you really just needed to go to Lowes.

Mate retention comes with wanting to be a mate.

And for fuck's sake, if you give her oral, then this shouldn't EVEN be a question unless somehow you've let a blue haired sjw convince you somehow one act is different than the other. No.

AndrewsGirl · 2016-03-28T16:04:30+00:00

I am a woman who likes making my guy happy like this. But then, he's never accused me of not being capable of empathy. That's just ridiculous.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-03-28T16:58:06+00:00

Who cares if she "enjoys" it. Grab her by the ears and throat fuck her. Do you really "enjoy" swabbing a sweaty gash with your tongue? Not really, but the way it makes her moan makes it worth it.

You can be sure of one thing: SHE is not thinking about whether you enjoy eating pussy while moaning. She is just feeling.

Trekneck · 2016-03-28T18:40:23+00:00

You're getting enthusiastic blowjobs... why in the world are you hamstering about it?

TheRedStoic · 2016-03-29T18:16:27+00:00

Couldn't care less.

If it's enthusiastic and often, you're doing it right and she's trusting you as a captain.

That alone says she's happy overall, regardless of the mechanical minutia.

For example, do you have to enjoy doing your oil change and alignment to enjoy your ride?

No.

But you enjoy your fucking ride. (also, I still use spontaneous enthusiastic blowjobs as a measurement for how much she's into me) hasnt failed me yet!

Title	Does she actually enjoy giving BJs?
Author	fakefalse
Upvotes	14
Comments	26
Date	March 27, 2016 4:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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