Life just went into hard mode.

cholomite · 2016-06-10T20:02:42+00:00

Sounds like your dad and his husband are more female than male. My advice would be to treat them as such. Next time his little gay lover tries to boss you around, pat him on his cute little product covered head and try some amused mastery.

You're making this harder than it needs to be. Yea, it sucks you're stuck there while your house gets built but use it as a learning experience on how to let shit roll off your back and straight into your frame, right where you want it.

Also, why the fuck did you think it was a good idea to ask your wife if she thinks you're a leader?

Pro tip: real leaders don't ask their followers if they think they are leaders, they just lead.

Scurvemuch · 2016-06-10T21:50:37+00:00

is there anything here about you?

I know your wife and your dad and his bitch pretty well.

I just don't know your wife's bitch.

Welcome to life, Nut the fuck up and own your shit. there is a whole fucking sidebar for you to digest.

Next time, blow your step-bitch a kiss when he gets all PMS'y

You sir, are A Pussy, Mcfaggot

over60_stupid_loner · 2016-06-10T22:08:28+00:00

Two fags (sorry I know ones Dad) two dogs, a woman, and an infant all in one house?

Whatever you're saving, it ain't enough.

Sepean · 2016-06-10T19:18:57+00:00

Yeah, you're digging yourself into a hole. Read the sidebar, bro. Your frame sucks. Get a grip, assert yourself, and stop arguing about who is the leader. Just fucking lead.

PurpleVeteran · 2016-06-10T20:57:06+00:00

His husband looks at me and in front of my wife says sorry hunny but your wife is the leader you are not a leader.

Time to establish dominance. Unzip and piss on the carpet without breaking eye contact.

mrpCamper · 2016-06-10T20:14:16+00:00

I feel like I just keep digging myself further into a hole of emasculation.

The first thing to do when stuck in a hole is stop digging!

You need to smile and not talk for the next week. While doing this, read the sidebar. Hopefully, you will be in a better place to start making some honest accurate assessments of yourself.

If I had to give you one piece of advice for you to hear it would be to look at your situation but in a way where you were not the victim.

Countpudyoola · 2016-06-10T20:22:36+00:00

Paragraph breaks, muthafuckers....paragraphs!

We are staying at my dads right now

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When me and my wife get into a little scuffle in front of him he takes up for her.

So right now I'd have to sit down with dear old dad and ask him if a condition of you living there is having his husband interfere in your marriage.

If so your only choice is to move the fuck out or nut up and make them through you out.

If he answers "no-of course not", then tell him and his man you're going to hold them to it.

Don't hang around them while drinking if you can't handle them.

It's hard to lead a pack when you're holed up at the old alphas den.

Try making your exit a reality as soon as you can.

HerrBrain · 2016-06-10T21:09:05+00:00

I ask her if she sees me as the leader and she says we are 50/50.

This was your wife being polite. She can't tell you that she is the leader, if she did it would emasculate you, and kill any bit of respect that she may still have for you. A leader doesn't need to ask.

This MRP stuff isn't easy. If you were blue pill all your life, trying to become red pill overnight isn't going to happen. Becoming red pill takes everything you grew up thinking was right and turns it on its head; that's one heck of a paradigm shift and it's going to take some time.

Read the sidebar and get yourself to the gym, oh yeah, and STFU!

Griever114 · 2016-06-10T19:27:27+00:00

You weren't handling shit and your frame is garbage you sad sack of crap. You are whining like a little child. Everyone is calling you out for being a bitch because YOU ARE BEING A BITCH. You are LITERALLY a drunk captain. Your wife is crying because she, your father and his "bitch" know and treat you like the low quality man you are.

Read the fucking sidebar, lift and unfuck your pussy ass beta bitch life.

nastynickdr · 2016-06-10T20:55:00+00:00

Rent a place while your house is built. Also your frame sucks and you sound like a woman. Read the sidebar.

redpillnobody · 2016-06-11T00:08:12+00:00

Please use line breaks and make paragraphs

BluepillProfessor · 2016-06-11T15:40:37+00:00

Love they you need to be a leader while undercutting you at every opportunity. Your life is a microcosm of all our lives in this feminist society.

Definitely assume your faggots are women. Agree amplify, don't take seriously.

Women are subverters and disruptors. They undermine, nag, destroy your confidence, trick you into relying on them and then resent you and treat you terribly.

They do this after the kid not because they are the experts on child care. They do this because society has destroyed men so completely we just back off after the baby is cuz she has the feed bags. So disrespect sets in immediately.

cj_aubrey · 2016-06-11T16:42:34+00:00

This is how people treat non-dominant, beta men. I know, I know, it's not supposed to be like that. When you were little someone told you that if you were just nice to everyone, you would get what you needed and be alright. Let me guess, that speech was followed by that person (teacher, parent?) giving you a list of things you needed to do for them (not demand things? be quiet?) as part of your new generosity. This was a trick and a lie. In the adult world how people treat you will be determined by how much dominance you command. Lets look at this so that you understand the real game that's being played here.

Things were ok for the first 2, and then we had a daughter. She is seven months old and it's all becoming pretty difficult.

Suddenly dominance got really important because there is a bunch of work that needs to be done and you can be pushed into it.

Also my dad thinks he's alpha but is blue pill in a lot of ways. When me and my wife get into a little scuffle in front of him he takes up for her.

They both perceive you as beta, that means they get to make the decisions and you need to take it.

His husband is very feminist and takes her side on everything. So the other night they got drunk on their little bitch drinks and decided to come at me.

When you're this beta, people will attack you because the rules of human interaction say that dominant people are allowed to attack and push around beta people.

My wife was out side and they said our dogs rule my wife.

This is accusing you of being beta.

Then they proceeded to say that I need to be the daddy and alpha leader of my family lol.

I think they have a point here OP. They probably don't really understand whats going on here but they see you're fucking up.

His husband looks at me and in front of my wife says sorry hunny but your wife is the leader you are not a leader. I just kind of smiled and said ok.

Would your wife have reacted to this insult like a pussy? If not, if she would have stood up for herself, then she probably is the leader.

I asked why and he looks at my wife smiles and looks back at me and says because I said so.

Straight up asserting dominance there. Doesn't even have to explain himself.

At that point my blood pressure went through the roof and I was ready to kill this little faggot. I don't want to lose frame though and show they got to me. So I got up and went to the bedroom to cool off.

OK. so you did nothing but swallow it? He can insult you with zero consequences - dominance established.

Now I've been taking this shit out on my wife. I ask her if she sees me as the leader and she says we are 50/50.

This is the beta approach to this situation. Talk and ask nicely with no action. Your wife is very kind woman who is trying to help you.

She gets pissed off at me and says they follow her cause she has the food.

I'm not a dog expert but I think she's probably right about that.

I tell her yeah but I was handling this and she completely undercut me.

The fact that you blamed her for your failure to control your pets is pretty fucking beta, if we had any doubts at this point.

I feel like I just keep digging myself further into a hole of emasculation.

My comment is an attempt to show you how you are shoveling so that you can stop. Read the sidebar. Learn how to respond to shit tests. After you have done both of those things, if someone insults/disrespects/attacks you, laugh and counterattack. Make them sorry they insulted you. Get a book on how to manage your dogs, I feel that's an easily solveable problem.

Persaeus · 2016-06-12T00:58:08+00:00

When dealing with openly disrespectful MEN, IMO the rules of the sandbox apply. Set your boundaries with your parents. Next time the open disrespect occurs, jump on and don't stop until one or both are lying on the floor.

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-06-12T14:41:34+00:00

Read the side bar.
Lift.
Try to practice holding frame. Everyone in that place knows you're not running things, even the two dogs.

bogeyd6 · 2016-06-13T12:49:15+00:00

You are pretty fucking far down the respect ladder when they can break your frame with who the dogs follow. Also you are calling them faggots, so I am guessing you do not respect them either. Probably your first course of action is to show some respect and stop taking everything so personal. They tease you because you let them get to you. Start laughing it off and A&A. The situation is temporary but you could easily live somewhere else.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-06-10T21:44:15+00:00

Lol, cant handle an old gay guy eh?

Just fight him and earn some respect

Title	Life just went into hard mode.
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Date	June 10, 2016 7:14 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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