6'3, 190 lbs, 15% body fat. Gym, yoga, running. NMMNG, WISNIFG, SGM.

The situation: We aren't married yet, but 3-year relationship. When I initiate, we pretty much always have sex. We can pretty much fuck whenever I want, any way I want.

The problem: I think she doesn't truly want it. I get the feeling she could take it or leave it. She's flat out told me sex isn't important to her (nice way of saying, "sex with YOU isn't important to me"?) Sex "never crosses her mind". She's also never seems to feel pleased the way I touch and fuck her. She doesn't moan, she doesn't writhe, she doesn't get very wet... she never initiates, never gives unprompted blowjobs, never begs for me to stuff her with my cock, and this is what I want. I've tried varying it up, changing the mechanics, doing what she mentioned... she never seems satisfied with penetration. The only thing she likes which is take a vibrator to her and do a domination roleplay shame fantasy. She wants me to do it every single time. I don't mind doing this for her, but it does nothing for me personally. She can't orgasm from penetration, which I feel like deep down I can't accept.

When we went on a break last year I fucked a woman 7 times in a night, then she stayed in my town an extra night just for a repeat the next night, and my last girlfriend was always sopping wet for me, so I don't -think- I suck at fucking, but this has taken a toll on my self-esteem. Maybe I do suck at sex though because I haven't felt every ex has craved it, in fact, I've felt most don't. Is it normal for most women to not be interested in sex the way I'm wishing for? Or do I actually probably suck at sex, or at gaming women long-term and keeping them engaged?

How should I tackle this problem? Should I chalk it up to sexual incompatibility on move on, a hopeless cause? Should I try to improve the mechanics of my fucking, or maybe the mechanics of my game? Just continue reading/internalizing red pill while building myself up and gaming her, or anything more specific?

According to red pill theory, is it wrong for me to want to feel she deeply craves my dick, and want her actions to show it, like her initiating? Is the man ALWAYS supposed to be the initiator? I want a sex life with with a woman who begs for my cock.

This is actually driving me nuts, and I'm on the verge of blowing up our 3-year relationship over it. I have a pretty good thing. Is something wrong with me?

More context: She's Asian. Not Asian-American, but Asian. She's told me from her culture it feels really weird to initiate. She's also told me she's submissive and likes to be dominated (which I do, but I want her to beg for my dick to penetrate her, which she doesn't, she only begs for me to command her with a vibrator). She knows well what I want but doesn't change and doesn't seem to crave sex with me...