Shit test don't ever stop do they?

rocknrollchuck · 2019-05-07T18:53:03+00:00

From WOTSM:

Stop Hoping for Your Woman to Get Easier

She wants to feel you are uncollapsable, so she pokes you in your weak spot. So she will test you. She might not be fully conscious of why she is doing it, but she will poke your weak spots, especially in moments of your superficial success, in order to feel your strength. If you collapse, you've flunked the test. You have let your woman deflate you. You have demonstrated your dependence on her for external validation. Even if you just made a million dollars, you are a weak man. Your woman cannot trust you fully.

If you remain full and strong, humorous and happy, your truth unperturbed by her testing, then you pass the test. "Honey, I'll get you some milk, all right," you say as you sweep her off the ground and lay her on the couch, laughing, kissing, looking deeply into her eyes, and "milking" her happiness with the confident loving of your caresses.

She can relax and trust your Shiva core. She can surrender the tensions around her heart. You are trustable. You don't need her validation in order for you to be loving. You simply are loving.

Your woman is testing you because she loves you. She wants to feel your truth. She wants to feel your love. And she wants to feel that your truth and love are stronger than the barbs she can throw at you. Then she can relax and surrender into the polarity of man and woman. Then she can trust you.

The most loving women are the women who will test you the most.

This is certainly more difficult when you're sick, but with practice it can be done.

Sepean · 2019-05-07T18:53:47+00:00

My wife brings me icecream and painkillers when I’m sick.

SBIII · 2019-05-07T19:12:27+00:00

If you stop your gaming, masturbating, smoking weed and taking LSD, then maybe she'll shit test you less.

I mean, she Just had a kid - looking after a newborn and an adult kid at the same time can't be easy.

resolutions316 · 2019-05-07T18:47:00+00:00

Why do you care?

This is her frame. You’re worried about “passing.”

The more you care, the less you pass.

SeamusAwl · 2019-05-07T18:46:24+00:00

Stop? No. They will still reduce in number and frequency as she accepts your role as her alpha. However, she will still throw a test to make sure evey now and then. Kinda like a “Crazy Ivan” from the “Hunt for the Res October” novel.

[deleted] · 2019-05-07T18:52:38+00:00

This is a known phenomenon.

But, no, they never go away.

And it's not that you are sick (well, maybe a little). It's how you act when sick.

I think the default is a lot of beta guys want to be mommied when they start feeling ill.

Then there are those that kick illness in the face and tell it to fuck off .

You wont always be able to , but in those instances the more you can isolate to recoup the less of her added testing you will have to deal with.

BobbyPeru · 2019-05-07T19:17:23+00:00

Don’t complain about how you feel. If you feel like crap, lay there, but stay stoic. I suspect you bitched about how you felt at some point. That opens the door for her to see how strong you are under pressure. STFU,, and feel free to feel like shit. Give way less fucks about what she thinks about you feeling like shit.

coinbaserep · 2019-05-07T22:37:56+00:00

Clearly you are not the captain running a tight ship 360 (5 sick days) days a year.

If you were, Then when you do get sick your first mate would step up and control the ship until you got better and bring you soup and take care of you. Instead of feeling like she’s taking care of a sick kid

When I am sick my wife brings Tylenol and a cold cloth and draws the curtains and makes it completely dark and cool for me to get some rest while she takes care of the family and continues without me

And I do the same for her

You should work on being so awesome that the moment you get sick she can think to herself

“Wow I guess even Superman needs a break once in a while”

mountainbiker178 · 2019-05-07T21:30:31+00:00

That's why LTR is redpill on hard mode. I broke up with my 3yr LTR because I got sick of her giving me shit. Eventually, in some circumstances, it's just better to find a new one.

red-sfpplus · 2019-05-07T18:57:57+00:00

If a man is not confident enough to be a pussy at the right time (eg when sick) then he is not a strong man the rest of the time.

Only thing I want when I am sick is my big fat feet rubbed and someone to give me chicken noodle soup.

And if my kids were not old enuf to feed themselves, they would probably die of starvation. That is literally how much I care when I am sick.

FoxShitNasty83 · 2019-05-07T20:06:50+00:00

"wants to be cuddled and cared for" - Gay

"she's even given me shit for not cleaning up after myself" - Double Gay

"Anyhow I've been pissed off quite a bit as I don't have the energy for that shit and has snapped a couple times" - Triple Gay

STFU and act like a man not a sniveling snot nosed prick!

here are some alternatives:

care for yourself, take a day off lifting or eat a bit more and shut the fuck up about being poorly... weak.
clean up after yourself she isn't your mummy.
STFU be aware of your anger and shut your mouth.

LongRoad_518 · 2019-05-07T18:53:15+00:00

the BP part of me wants to be cuddled and cared for, to some degree she does this, but the shit tests have increased a lot,

I've found the weaker / sicker I am the more she shit tests... especially if it's more than a day. One day of feeling crappier = comfort from her. More than one and she'll still try to help but starts resenting the fact that you're weakened. Found it best to always just assume I need to take care of myself and to ignore / STFU / AA shit tests. It's a hard thing to do when you're feeling shitty.

sometimes even straight out ignored her, yup the retard STFU.

Better than apologizing or reaching out being needy. Ignoring is one I use a lot when my mental state is not as strong as it's the easiest to pull off.

MrChad_Thundercock · 2019-05-07T21:56:50+00:00

Women are bitches. But you better hope she frame tests you, it’s her initiating.

She’ll be as shitty as you let her.

eddielovett · 2019-05-07T22:00:22+00:00

When my wife is sick I take care of her and she reciprocates which only makes sense right? She is my wife after all and that’s what we do, take care of each other. If I’m supposed to take care of myself why be married? I could do that on my own while also banging chicks.

Shit tests are a never ending part of marriage but a good woman will hold off when necessary. Not being there for your partner is not a shit test that’s called being an asshole. And she doesn’t get a pass just because she has a vagina. I know my woman is fully capable of being a decent human being and I hold her to that standard regardless of her gender.

What I would do in this situation is cry out sarcastically about being treated so poorly by my own beloved wife when I’m practically dying of illness. Then ignore her and rest. This communicates that she is being insensitive in a non needy and humorous way. Always try to find the humor in your wife’s poor behavior and never criticize it. Judging and criticizing will make her defensive and she will just double down on her shitty attitude.

Daddy_ThunderCock · 2019-05-08T02:06:32+00:00

I love shit tests. When you are a good captain it just means she wants to fuck. Pass them and fuck her brains out. Fail and go lift until you can pass without being an emotional faggot.

When the shit tests stop, you should be worried.

twiskirano · 2019-05-08T02:10:19+00:00

When she's sick, I nurse her and provide comfort When I was sick once, she tried testing me and I just shrugged it off; she let me rot in peace that time and every other since lol.

I find they never stop, but the more I'm on top of shit I am, and the more I apply STFU, AA, etc., the less frequent they occur.

RPeed · 2019-05-08T08:00:07+00:00

Oh I typed all this for you my dude but these dastardly bullies caused you to delete it.

Hope it benefits you or another ENTP stoner:

What caught my eye was the Myers-Briggs test: I also (usually) test ENTP. Just wanted to say I think the Reddit subs seem to do it a serious disservice:

A) It is a management tool. It is not meant to enable some rando's life as a lovable eccentric. You should be shoring up the weaknesses it shows, not jerking off to how creative you think you are (not that you can stop yourself amirite? Ha!), and

B) It is not a tarot card reading of your soul. I get profiled regularly, by professionals, using whatever method is in vogue at that moment and while I absolutely see the value in the tests, it is limited, it is contextual and it will vary over time.

It is not so much "revealing" your personality as a prediction of how your behavior will manifest in a given context. MB being particularly general. For example, all my ENTP result tells me is that RIGHT NOW, I likely have too many projects going on and/or am managing my time poorly.

So based on your results, I would recommend you get out of your comfort zone and focus on active productivity exercises. Far from being something unsuited to you: they are likely just what you need. Anytime I dial this in tight, my life has a night and day improvement.

7 Habits is the granddaddy of course.

Unchained Man has a great time management system. Actually he refers back to Covey's 7 habits and explains why and how he updated the principle for a digital era. The rest isn't "bad" but its pretty standard 4HWW/TRP/Digital nomad type stuff. You could literally read Chapters 8-11 and get a great deal of benefit.

4HWW fuck I hate this book. And it's probably dangerous for lazy fucks. But Ferriss has nuggets of good advice on productivity and time management.

Title	Shit test don't ever stop do they?
Author	Tjommas
Upvotes	7
Comments	34
Date	May 7, 2019 6:39 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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