(36, 5'10, 200, out of shape, not lifting)

Just discovered MRP as a newbie and find a lot of the themes do seem on point. Respect to the community for helping men out there. I did some searching through archetypes but I have no clue how to characterize my situation.

Background: Married 4 years and strongly considering divorce. We filed last year and then recovered and put it on pause. We have two children (2 and 3 months). I make good money and am a "career alpha."

Sex Life: My wife is more physically attractive(she's like an 8.5 and I'm a 6). We basically got married because I ran game on her and turned her out in bed. Now our sex life has gone to shit. The thing that confuses me is when we do do rarely it it's always great for both of us and she does everything I want in bed. Some real filthy things.

Home Life: From reading MRP I see I've become a beta cuck nice guy. I just smile smile smile take her shit hold it in and blow up every now and then. She is very high strung/high maintenance so this has just exacerbated her obnoxious qualities.

One of the things that makes me believe in your methods is during our separation (before reading MRP) I started flunking all her shit tests and flirting with a bunch of women and it's like wives have a sixth sense. I can sense she is now curious/concerned and trying to reconcile.

Habits: I've progressively grown more out of shape in my 30's. This is now my top priority but I've been a lazy fuck. I'm also much messier/carefree than my wife and I value my time and hourly more than chores and housework. This has led to her sonning me in a way and disrespecting me as a man which is understandable. These two are big black marks against me and things I want to start working on fixing for sure.

Questions:
1. Even though I've been a beta cuck and letting a bunch of shit slide, now that the separation and MRP has woken me up, I'm actually not that interested in making the marriage work.

I don't want to deal with her shit and I actually want to be single again and out there. I find her very restrictive/controlling at her best and kind of a buzzkill. She's just constantly moaning about household chores and time spent with the kids. Context: she is a hands on neat freak who mops the floor multiple times per day, breaks laundry machines from overuse, and owns 4 air purifiers.

I'm pretty sure my happiness is capped with this woman. I was kind of pressured into marriage and having kids wasn't my first choice either. Now I'm financially free and in my prime (other than this belly fat). I want to get out there and smash. But I don't want to fuck my kids up. I don't see a lot about the kids being mentioned on here.

Q1: Would you try to make it work for the kids? Do I fit some archetype here?

2. Question about chores/housework type things. I do think not being physically fit makes me a lazy cunt and weak piece of shit. But is not wanting to do dishes and all that an extension of this? I work very hard, long hours, and excel in what I set my mind to. Would rather just make a lot of $ and hire a maid and nanny instead for the little things. Are you the type of people that like chopping your own wood and riding bicycles and growing beards and all that self sufficient mountain man stuff?

Q2: Is me not wanting to do chores (I consider a waste of time) and focus on making money + pleasure an extension of the laziness that led me to being a fat piece of shit? I've always been this way and fit/motivated for all of my life.

3. You're definitely doing a great service empowering so many lost men out there.

Q3: But isn't it super beta weak for MRPers to define their success by how bad their wife wants to have sex now? I've read so many posts where people come glowing with their "success stories" while defining success off their wife (who is probably frumpy and not even worth the hassle).

I definitely fucked up my relationship in many ways. But at the end of this road I'm more like "I'm successful. Fine women like successful men who practice game. Fuck it on to the next" instead of "Let's salvage this marriage please have sex with me and respect me." And I do need to work on my fitness and some suboptimal habits that crept in but I'm mostly happy with my approach and situation.

Maybe I'm just a selfish cunt considering I am a father of two. But I'm pretty sure my wife realizes all this and is looking for a way to work her way back in.