Anyone know how to focus on thinking logically instead of emotionally when things you don’t like happen?

Terdmuffin · 2019-05-22T02:00:19+00:00

You have to realize when you're being governed by emotion. The more emotional you're being, the less foresight you put in and you react quickly. Take a step back, even just a couple seconds and think about where your thoughts and motivations are coming from.

cyphrrr · 2019-05-22T02:46:58+00:00

STOICISM

garyvdm · 2019-05-22T03:54:22+00:00

Quick fix: breathe

Stronger, more effective fix, but to will take much more effort: practice meditation. It's lifting for your brain.

I recommend the Waking Up app for guidance. I've been practicing for 7 months, and already I have much better control over my emotions.

rendezvous199 · 2019-05-22T01:48:50+00:00

Watch the 2nd presidential debate from 2016 and pay close attention to Trump's body language and notice how he breathes during the debate.

mojokabobo · 2019-05-22T04:56:47+00:00

I combat negative emotional states with positive ones. If something happens that could make me sad, I dig deep within my heart/soul to find SOMETHING happy or positive that can be taken from the whole experience. If someone says something that I ought to react angrily to.. I openly, gleefully, and sometimes mockingly laugh outrightly in their face about it. Why would I sacrifice the power of my freedom of choice to someone else, by allowing them be able to make me mad!?

It's much more delightful to see a stunned look of confusion on someone's face when you burst into laughter where most people would crumble. I live for that look of confusion.

Davidskylarkk · 2019-05-22T02:44:32+00:00

It's not that you want to make decisions without emotions, that is actually impossible...

You want to make decisions without an overwhelming emotion one way or the other.

Take a couple breaths and go with your gut unless you have the time to make a list of pros and cons...

beachbbqlover · 2019-05-22T03:45:01+00:00

Atheist morals:

You are a bald monkey on a wet rock in space. Your problems, your opinions, and your situation are merely a minor inconvenience in your 80 year journey so you can learn to fucking deal with your problems better.
Yelling makes you a belligerent asshole of a bald monkey.
Other bald monkeys are also unimportant, stupid, and need to hear nice things to make them happy. Don't have high expectations, and try to be nice. When you die, what you did and their memory of you will be the only part of you left.
You have two ears and one mouth.

fds_1 · 2019-05-22T05:07:20+00:00

"Actions don't upset me. My beliefs do." The problem isn't that bad shit happens and you react badly, the problem is you assume life will be perfect.

boy_named_su · 2019-05-22T05:14:08+00:00

Read some Epictetus bro

goomerall3 · 2019-05-22T07:48:55+00:00

Increase testosterone

abratoki · 2019-05-22T09:27:22+00:00

Hey,

I am completely can relate to this. I know myself being over emotional at times in the past where emotions controlled my actions and I felt like there was nothing I could do about it.

One thing that really helped me was meditation. Not only it helped me regain emotional balance but in time I was able to separate myself from the emotion itself and observe what I am feeling and why I am feeling in a certain way in a given situation.

I have been using headspace and it helped me tremendously - specifically targetting issues with a series of guided meditations.

scarbowx · 2019-05-22T02:01:26+00:00

Take a deep breath and think about the word discipline

furcryingoutloud · 2019-05-22T05:47:00+00:00

Teach yourself not to react, ever. Obviously, I am not talking about instances like a truck barreling towards you at 100 or medical or other emergencies that need swift action.

Give yourself some time to analyze whatever this problem is. First question to ask yourself is whether this specific problem has an immediate solution. Problems that many people label as an emergency are usually never true emergencies. Don't make any of them an emergency.

Is it something that needs a call to 911? No? then you have time to think about it.

What are the possible solutions that my actions could give this problem? And what is the best one of them. For this, you need time to think about it.

Never, ever answer or respond or otherwise do something about a problem while you're emotional. Give yourself at least a few hours and as much as 3 days to decide what the best response would be to this specific problem.

Realize that the problem's repercussions are not going to be immediate and you always have time to react in a better way than running around like a chicken with your head cutoff.

Soon_As_I_Nut · 2019-05-22T07:04:54+00:00

Learn to understand your emotions deeply in all situations, not just in situations which you deem undesirable. Even if you can think logically in those situations this is a great skill to have.

Sin-Silver · 2019-05-22T08:34:20+00:00

Sit down and write out your thought process. Do graphs, images, flow carts whatever. The act of physically putting it to paper will help your logical side take over.

bigdaddypapadad · 2019-05-22T01:45:26+00:00

What makes you think emotionally? I can pretty much naturally switch, I used to be a little more emotional but now I just kind of shut it down. You should be able to control your reactions to things.

momomotorboat · 2019-05-22T07:10:55+00:00

Doing lots of things that require discipline and delayed gratification can help. It's not everything, but it def makes a difference.

umizumiz · 2019-05-22T13:52:01+00:00

The Untethered Soul

Read it.

escapethesolarsystem · 2019-05-22T15:52:32+00:00

Don't try to suppress your emotions, just let them be (they are normal). Just develop the ability to look outside your emotion and see the big picture. Treat the emotional part of you kind of like Bruce Banner treats the hulk - let it out when it's useful and keep it down when it's going to cause a problem.

jm51 · 2019-05-22T16:43:20+00:00

WISNIFG

awkwardtouching · 2019-05-22T17:24:48+00:00

Learn to process emotions instead of letting them overpower you. As the emotions fly by, try to grab hold of specific ones and the thoughts they're associated with. Use logic/reason to begin to tease each one apart until you fully understand your emotional response. Compare/contrast that to what you would like to happen from a situation...work backwards.

Your emotions are useful, and you shouldn't ignore them. They are instinctual repsonses that alternatively tell you a lot about yourself, but also about the situation you are in.

I can't tell you how many bad situations I've avoided by listening to my instincts

Title	Anyone know how to focus on thinking logically instead of emotionally when things you don’t like happen?
Author	JyoungPNG
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Date	May 22, 2019 1:37 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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