GF going to Vegas?

verify_account · 2016-05-11T20:10:55+00:00

Reposting this:

You: "Hmph."

Her: "What?"

You: "I just didn't think you were that kind of girl."

Her: "You asshole... blah blah cunty blah" - Next her with no drama supplied.

Her: "No, it's not going to be like that... blah blah whiney blah" - Soft next her when she comes back from her trip.

Her: "Well, if you don't think I should go, I won't... blah blah blah luring you into unintended commitment blah" - Mentally demote her to plate status, and go "radio silent" for three days.

Her: "I know, right? Those girls are crazy. I'd rather go to Vegas with you instead." - Test passed. Don't take her to Vegas; take her to Napa Valley.

nastynickdr · 2016-05-11T20:44:56+00:00

change title to "Plate going to Vegas"

bmer92 · 2016-05-11T19:49:56+00:00

Tolerating an off girls night once every few months to a bar. Yeah thats cool (with me atleast) Idc if dudes hit on my girl we make a game of it. Sometimes I give them pointers if shes out with me. But vegas. alone. With a slut friend. Yeah that aint girls night bro shes gonna get fucked gurantee it. Prob gonna hit up a strip club with her girl get trashed and gamble. Women are like water and since shes with a trashy friend shes gonna take on her form. Sorry this isnt what you wanted to hear. Best of luck

flat6turbo · 2016-05-11T22:40:52+00:00

i've got 10 bucks saying OP isn't going to do the right thing, despite all the good advice he gets.

gantgui · 2016-05-11T20:09:08+00:00

She might be lying just to see how you will react.
If its true immediately downgrade to plate. Rmember ''what happens in vegas stays in vegas''.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-05-11T20:51:41+00:00

If she is not taking you along then it's almost certain she is going to do shit that you wouldn't be OK with. That's what girls do whether it be a girls trip to Vegas or just a girls night out on the town.

drqxx · 2016-05-12T02:01:17+00:00

I fucked a girl in Vegas who later on told me she was engaged.

Drop that bitch bro. Vegas isn't called Sincity for nothing!

bonekeeper · 2016-05-12T00:12:56+00:00

Birds of a feather fuck together.

TomFoo · 2016-05-11T20:18:36+00:00

OP, you are the prize. You also sound young. Take this as an opportunity to break up with LTR, meet new chicks, and just enjoy life. Or rather, allow girls to enjoy you, the prize. Being mindful of this LTR/baggage and her travel plans is a monstrous waste of precious time and energy.

RickJamesBeyach · 2016-05-11T23:40:59+00:00

Great opportunity for you to test her.

You say, "Cool. I've always wanted to go to Vegas (or I'd like to visit Vegas again)"

If she stutters, stammers or gives you a blank look, explain "It'll be like a 2 for 1 vacation. She pays for you, I pay for myself. Should be fun."

Her answer will show you how serious she is about the relationship and how much she values your commitment. If she gives the wrong answer, you ghost.

flatox · 2016-05-11T20:28:46+00:00

Don't question your gut feeling.

EvilNando · 2016-05-11T21:16:11+00:00

shes getting fucked , act accordingly

harkrank · 2016-05-11T21:24:02+00:00

Even the idea is completely unacceptable and I am surprised you are even entertaining the idea of keeping her as your girlfriend if she wants to go to Vegas. Be happy she showed her true colors now and not later when you were more invested in her.

Adderallabuse · 2016-05-12T00:20:42+00:00

If it were me and I wanted to maintain the LTR I would tell her she is welcome to go but thats the end of our exclusivity. She will say its not fair, and that you are a controlling asshole, and that you need to trust her.

Hold frame. The fact that you wrote this to a forum shows you are uncomfortable with her going so just say no and control what you can

Your commitment

You have every right to a girl who wont put herself and you in bad situations

covertpenguin3390 · 2016-05-11T21:46:01+00:00

So a few years ago, I would've said "well I would want to go to Vegas with my friends if they invited me for FREE, so I guess I can't really expect her to deny the trip either", more mature and experienced me has actually had this talk with my current LTR about the topic in general and she was actually the one to bring up that there just are situations you don't put yourself in if you're in a relationship. You seem pretty young and I'm sure she is too, so naturally she's going to want to go with and you can't really blame her, sounds like a bad ass trip. But an unacceptable trip for your relationship which she obviously doesn't value as much as going out to have fun. She'll try and rationalize it that it's not one of those trips and her hamster probably span so fast she actually believes it but let's be real, if I let you run wild in Vegas for free with one of your pussy slayer bros, while you may not fuck, you damn well know at the very least you'd be pushing the boundaries and at least making out with some drunk skanks at the clubs. And when girls go they're even worse since young girls generally rely on finding guys to hang out with to have fun since they don't gamble and stuff like we do. Use the advice from everyone above, if she goes, just cut her off. Will save you so much heart ache in the future. And btw this is coming from a guy who always tries to give the "take TRP with a grain of salt" advice and likes to give the other perspective, but this situation is just too black and white. If you weren't so attached (I don't mean that in a negative way) I would say just demote to plate but you already have jealousy issues so that won't work for you. Good luck.

shaclad · 2016-05-12T03:58:51+00:00

If she wanted to fuck around, she would have lied to you. She is getting a free trip to Vegas, if the tables were turned you would jump at the chance to go too.

Let her go, you aren't her father, you don't dictate her life. But make her aware that you are not happy about it, and if you don't want her to go, man up and fucking tell her.

I hate guys that pussy around and won't just be honest with their LTR, its practically the only person you can be honest with. So what if you are jealous, most women actually like that as long as you aren't embarrassing them in public with it.

introspect2314 · 2016-05-12T06:49:16+00:00

Unlike 50+ people who responded here, I don't see this as a power play or anything to get upset about. I would be totally okay with this, so long as I retain the freedom to do the same -- not go to Vegas per se, but go on a guys' trip to wherever.

If anything, it's a shit test. If you show indifference to the situation, she's going to wonder why you don't care. Only a beta would freak out and break up with her before she even gets there. If you are truly uncaring, she may even change her mind and choose to stay home. Then you can ask her with fake curiosity "Why didn't you want to go?" and mentally translate whatever she comes back with as "Because you passed my shit test."

Instead of thinking the worst, think outside the box. In the worst case scenario, she gos to Vegas, cheats on you, and you move on to other women. If you're so invested in this chick to the point where her cheating would cause you serious emotional trauma, you're doing something wrong.

PBRistasty · 2016-05-12T03:49:34+00:00

Simply state " I wouldnt be comfortable with it." and thats it. Don't give or deny her your approval, put the whole thing back on her.

mrpCamper · 2016-05-12T00:25:54+00:00

Setting boundaries. She hasn't done anything wrong yet. You must set the boundary. If you do not want her to go, you say so. Something like "That is for single women, if you want to be single go ahead. I do not think it is acceptable for a girlfriend. A girl friend of mine wouldn't do something like that."

You are setting your boundaries. If she goes outside of that boundary demote her to plate or break up with her.

Titan_Coeus · 2016-05-11T21:52:56+00:00

"Go to Vegas enjoy yourself, my girlfriend doesn't go to Vegas though"

what do you mean?

"I'm just saying my girlfriend doesn't go to Vegas by herself".

-walk away

Remember girlfriend is a title that anyone can fill.

kingloaf · 2016-05-12T03:09:35+00:00

"might be invited" = she knows she's going. Next

citizenkane66 · 2016-05-12T05:52:30+00:00

why can't you go to?

Thenextprince · 2016-05-12T13:41:48+00:00

Drop her like a bad habit.

paperlion60 · 2016-05-12T02:47:43+00:00

She is so getting AT LEAST two dicks in all her orifices(maybe not her nose).

Ballem · 2016-05-12T12:19:09+00:00

Keep us up to date OP. It'll be a good field report to discuss. Stay manly.

HandsomelyYours · 2016-05-12T09:05:58+00:00

What's your move here?

"You are not going to Vegas alone. If you do, immediately consider our relationship over. Have fun making the right decision."

reddily1 · 2016-05-12T02:21:08+00:00

Another important boundary that you have to set when obedience training her is the "what is ok for me, is not ok for thee" rule. It goes without saying that her social engagements and plans need to be run past you for permission, but under no fucking circumstance is the opposite true for you. You need to set up a short weekender out of town with you and your boys very shortly after putting the kabosh on her plans. The more you hold yourself to an untouchable standard above her the more respect you can exact from her. Show her you can get away with anything because you're above the rules. This drives home the point that she's with a powerful man who answers to no one.

Sir_Distic · 2016-05-12T09:12:28+00:00

The hamsters in this thread...

End your relationship now. She's getting dick in Vegas. Her friend is a slut, so is she when she's with her. Trust me.

She WILL fuck a dude there. you just won't ever know about it. But they'll all laugh at you about it.

SirSquirrels · 2016-05-11T23:29:26+00:00

How far from Vegas do you live?

yomo86 · 2016-05-12T08:20:12+00:00

I am an avid trustee in the old vengeful god. What I mean is you lay down the law on her hard.

You: Yes honey go to Vegas; but if you so much as make-out with another guy we are done; mark my words we are done.

But soft next her anyway. Vegas is for the average women the equivalent to the ripped 30 yr old dude going to Cancun.

The__Tren__Train · 2016-05-11T23:45:44+00:00

Why do you care? She's not yours, it's just your turn. Let her go to Vegas lol, so what if she fucks other guys?

Just make sure she's up to date on her tests and if you get bored with her, find a new one.

I don't understand this whole commitment and mate guarding thing

Title	GF going to Vegas?
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Date	May 11, 2016 7:45 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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I fucked a girl in Vegas who later on told me she was engaged.