Gf's ex called me...

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-02-09T21:46:44+00:00

So now you have a funny story to tell about your EX-girlfriend.

33 years old and doesn't know not to get sloppy drunk? Egad.

wantonton · 2017-02-09T21:33:58+00:00

No one has mentioned it so I will. She called her bf to raise the level of dread with you. She wanted you to know just how fast she can get another guy's attention should you ever pull shit like that in the future.

Wonder if everything was a power play meant to drive a wedge between you and your family in favor of her.

jttjt · 2017-02-09T19:42:41+00:00

Also thinks I cheated on her after I left her in the room.

Projection.

She's dropped. You handled it fairly well although ideally you probably would have just played it cool until getting home then ghosting her, but since you live together it's more complicated I suppose. Really though as long as you leave her and don't let it get too messy you did good

MarcusAureliano · 2017-02-09T19:42:04+00:00

I think you handled this correctly. Sloppy drunk is disgusting behavior, calling an ex even more so.

Walk away...

rez1984 · 2017-02-09T20:49:46+00:00

That's pretty messed up. Not only did she embarrass you in front of your parents, she had her ex on speed-dial to come save her by validating her feelings as if he had any context to the situation she was in with her actual boyfriend. She knows he's on stand-by and she doesn't care what you think about it. Plus she deflected by accusing you of cheating.

You handled it appropriately, no reason to think she won't dial her ex again when a problem comes up.

abdada · 2017-02-09T20:25:36+00:00

You are judged by the company you keep.

tepper2 · 2017-02-09T22:48:25+00:00

Locked out of the room, but had her phone? She had that guy on speed dial.

You did fine. Move out and ghost. You probably shouldn't sign a lease with a woman anytime in the near future.

savagedealer · 2017-02-09T19:53:19+00:00

Don't doubt yourself this type of behavior is no coincidence your saving yourself from years of torment only thing I see troubling here is you being so mad at finding out AWALT . Look into yourself and do some searching you hooking up with her and falling for this type of girl is completely your fault . Scan your memories and learn to spot the red flags much sooner man . Good luck brother

SpinPlates · 2017-02-09T23:52:33+00:00

You did well mate.

Calling her ex is bad. But giving him your number to call and talk to you? That's insane. And her ex is a phaggot.

PeopleHateThisGuy · 2017-02-09T22:39:13+00:00

"Ya, we're done. Pick up your stuff... Etc etc"

Elaborate: Abundance mentality. This is the kind of bullshit no one should put up with. If you have Abundance Mentality, you won't either.

dendsm111 · 2017-02-10T00:14:11+00:00

You did right bro. Although I may have held back until you got her home. What a cunt to pull that in front of your family.

huge_gap · 2017-02-09T20:20:17+00:00

Why you dating a post-wall woman?

UnluckyPenguin · 2017-02-10T00:21:49+00:00

Did I handle this right? Could've been better?

You handled this perfectly. Not suggesting getting married ever, but if you want kids eventually, then that is bad mother material.

I wish I followed your path on more than one occasion in my younger years. However, life is great now.

Tell her that when we get home in two days I'm moving out (yeah I fucked up by getting on a lease with her prior redpill)

The majority of guys have been there. For future reference, moving in together is practically the same as getting married. Do not move in together under any circumstances (financial, convenience, etc.) unless you seriously (and I mean dead serious) plan on marrying that person, like in the near future.

I've been there before. Luckily it only had to happen once for me to understand. Just remember when she's tugging at your heart-strings, manipulating you (and the other guys she's talking to) like a puppet - Just remember: what did/does she bring to the table? She wants you back because you're the best she can do, not because she's hopelessly in love with you. She can flip to another guy like changing underwear.

Regardless, you'll probably have one last drunk hook-up to realize that you feel disgusted with yourself because she is beneath you.

Sorry for the rant, but I felt I should share.

Auvergnat · 2017-02-10T00:22:29+00:00

http://archive.is/iYXcR

Level 3. Unintentional offense, demote by one level. She's now level 2: friend with benefit. Can't ever be your gf anymore

bpjsdrp · 2017-02-10T03:56:01+00:00

I was just in a similar boat recently.

Ex showed she was a nasty and violent drunk when went on a double date few months ago. Last month we go on vacation and she ends up in the same boat.

This time, I had suspicions about her previous behavior and went through her phone (she never hides her phone and always lets me use it). Find texting with her ex and they met up at the airport when he was back in town for holidays.

Asked her when we got back if she crossed that boundary. She admitted to it and said she lied + being a coward. Told her that I wished her the best of luck and take care.

What's funny is she said it was a "slap to the face" even though she was told about this boundary at the beginning of the relationship. Hold your ground and don't think twice about nexting.

0kool74 · 2017-02-10T15:29:41+00:00

Girl gets sloppy drunk....check! Girl calls ex because of feelz....check! Boy drops girl for screwing up.....PRICELESS!!!!!

Can't figure out a MasterCard tie-in here, but yeah you made the right move.

MrAnderzon · 2017-02-10T07:37:01+00:00

You handled it well. Ghost her. Onto the next one.

walawalawa · 2017-02-10T10:54:56+00:00

Bravo! This post totally made my day and inspired. You managed this perfectly. Drop her, leave. I wish I had done this in the past. It's a blind spot for me. Thanks for this.

bsutansalt · 2017-02-10T16:42:26+00:00

Fuck her rotten and IMO downgrade her to a plate. You've got the upper hand with mountains of dread. Whether or not you actually call it quits and move out is up to you.

ThisIsMyPotPie21 · 2017-02-10T16:58:58+00:00

I'd say the only thing you did wrong was give her an explanation, you don't owe her shit.

crew6dawg0 · 2017-02-10T20:55:29+00:00

You handled it flawlessly.

By the way, her accusations of being a cheater is a last ditch effort to throw mud at the wall and see what sticks. It's a desperation tactic to try and force blame on you, so you''ll feel guilty about taking a hard stance on a serious matter (Such as her calling her ex-bf). She was reaching out to her ex because she felt like punishing you and because she felt the branch she was holding onto was about to snap.

I like to call alcohol the truth serum.

ecosci · 2017-02-12T01:57:04+00:00

Are you asking is she still banging her ex?well yea,a drunken fool never lies she let the cat out the bag dont ask if you did the right thing of course you know that answer nobodys going to tell you to take her back.

verify_account · 2017-02-10T15:56:26+00:00

LTR'ing a 33 year old women

why? I'm 31 and I don't LTR over 25.

Blais_Of_Glory · 2017-02-10T02:24:41+00:00

People make mistakes. If this is the first major mistake after a year of dating and living together, you should at least see if you can work it out. Relationships are work and if you expect a relationship to never have mistakes, you're crazy. If you care about her, you should at least talk about the situation. If she does this frequently, it's a problem.

Title	Gf's ex called me...
Author	Kale8888
Upvotes	52
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Date	February 9, 2017 7:35 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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