I was her beta buck.

OneTouchHowMuch · 2014-06-11T17:49:58+00:00

Every day, for the next little while try really hard to do any of the following:

1) Go outside for at least 1 hour

2) Take a nap in a park

3) Watch stand up comedy i.e. LAUGH

4) Walk/run/exercise/ play soccer, etc..

5) Make a homemade meal

6) Do some pushups

7) Call an old friend and ask them how THEY are doing

8) Volunteer somewhere for an hour or a day.

9) Take a hot shower then switch to cold for a minute then back to hot, keep alternating until you feel giddy.

10) Clean your room.

Try really hard to do one or some of these until you do them.

If you can't do it today, try again tomorrow. Rinse, repeat.

Dakenfr · 2014-06-11T17:12:42+00:00

4-5 month is nothing dude
You know the rules, thank the red pill, now you fight for what you want.
And seriously, if she behaves that way, you have not lost much in that relationship lol.
Every post here has the same answer, there is nothing to discuss about, just go and focus on making you the best person possible. The rest does not matter.

trajanconquers89 · 2014-06-11T17:38:13+00:00

Why are you keeping up with what she's doing? As far as you're concerned, she's dead to you. Wipe her out of your life, block her on your phone, and delete her on Facebook or any other site.

She's dead to you. Move on.

raceAround126 · 2014-06-11T19:07:56+00:00

Whatever you do, get the fuck back into the college stuff! No girl is worth sacrificing that for! This is your Mother talking, get back upstairs to those books!

OK, in reality, first thing's first.

Start running. Light at first, maybe 20 minute jog in the morning. Ideally wake up half an hour earlier than you used to (and by that I mean 7am latest) and get out for a run. No need for a gym or a personal trainer, just a set of running shoes and whatever fast music you like. And you're not trying to win a marathon, just go at your own steady pace!

This does various things. For one, it gets you outside. Secondly, it gets your body into the idea that you're going to start getting in shape. Third, when you come back and shower, you're ready to start the day!

After you've showered up, hit the books. Are you studying correctly? How are your notes, your cheat sheets (revision lists so to speak)? Any practice tests or questions? Any assignments coming up? Get a handle on all of it. Buy binders if you have to! Get this shit sorted out. And sort out a proper study regime.

If like me you can't study at home, go find a library. I use my local university's library and love it! Peace, quiet, the occasionally well dressed chick wandering by, it's awesome!

Get an interest outside all of this. Play guitar? Want to learn? How about sax or flute? Everyone plays guitar, hardly anyone plays a good sax anymore! EVery party I've ever been to, at least a few people demand I bring my Saxamaphone! And chicks dig it too. Don't be afraid to go get lessons, everyone starts somewhere and we all suck at first!
Socialise in new circles. Your old friends sound like wankers seeing as you've come onto an internet forum. There are various places to do this. Go take an extra-curricular class, go see a band playing music you like (and go on your own, it's really not that sad).
Leave the alcohol alone. You don't need it, it tastes like shit and it's expensive

Do all that, in no time at all you'll wonder how you ever managed to sit around for the whole day straight feeling sorry for yourself.

Manuel_S · 2014-06-11T18:14:09+00:00

Look fella, "unrequited love" or whatever you think it is + rejection causes the symptoms of a depression. It can last for a while, but it does pass.

Go against your instincts. Want to lie down and wait? Go out into the sun. Its the fucking summer man. Eat properly, see chicks and bums and remember there's a lot better out there. Start working on making that guy you see on the mirror look better.

[deleted] · 2014-06-11T18:13:03+00:00

Okay now that we all know you are a pathetic loser (I've been there), the first bit of advice is to realize how low you stooped. What really woke me up was when I realized I wouldn't even want myself. Small increments, go to the gym because that should be the easiest step. You should have a free gym since you go to school.

pleasedontknowme30 · 2014-06-11T18:38:09+00:00

DUDE, she did you a FUCKING FAVOR! I know that is a horrible way to possibily look at it, but what if you had found out 1 year further into the relationship? What if you had spent $5k more on her during that time. You know what you have going for you...YOU ARE YOUNG! You have so much time to not only improve yourself, but improve your outlook on life and relationships. Not all women are evil. Don't let a single woman ruin your life or cause you to be depressed.

Do what /u/OneTouchHowMuch said, and on top of that...watch this video 5x / day for the next month.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mgmVOuLgFB0

deptii · 2014-06-11T17:18:34+00:00

Write in a journal. Putting my thoughts on paper helped me to (mostly) expel them from my head. Make sure you are exercising too. It doesn't have to be lifting. Just anything to get the blood circulating and get you releasing physical energy. Feel free to PM me if you want.

CarpeDiem807 · 2014-06-11T19:50:05+00:00

Maybe my story will bring a little perspective.

I was married for 9 years, took her back after her first affair, cleaned up after countless financial and social failures, and in return got stuck with a bill for child support.

You are young and unobligated. This is your time. There are better women out there, and more importantly, there is a better you. Stop moping and go strangle the shit out of life until what you want IS YOURS.

[deleted] · 2014-06-11T20:24:17+00:00

I was in a similar situation and it didn't really pass until I fell in love with someone else. It doesnt have to be reciprocal. The adoration of another girl that you chase will reset that first-love switch. You will start to see the former girl as a skank.

Aerobus · 2014-06-11T22:42:07+00:00

TRP is about self-improvement. You've found the red pill, now you need to swallow it

1) Start focusing on your grades. Wake up and have a goal for the day. What subject in school are you going to focus on today?

2) Start working out. When you exercise, your body releases chemicals that actually make you feel better. On top of that, you will feel good knowing that you have been losing weight.

3) Learn how to cook. Start simple, then work your way up to more complex foods. Eat healthy and don't spend ridiculous amounts on food.

If you go your own way, improve your life, learn a bit of game/other seduction tactics, and start giving off this aura that you don't care about women because you're so focused on improving yourself, the women will come, and they won't be looking for beta bux--they'll be looking for alpha fucks.

The_CEO_of_Beta · 2014-06-12T07:28:21+00:00

This level of cruelty is what made me realize how destructive being a nice guy can be.

To the very fucking end she was flirting like crazy with other guys in front of my face. I called her out and she said she's just playing around and it's nothing serious.

When you are a beta, you get double fucked. Other women will shame you for stepping out of your role of being a nice guy provider and the woman you are trying to provide for will just step all over you and not even give a fuck you ever existed.

I'm so sorry, and I am currently in the same boat in which I am so depressed about being a fucking nice guy for so many damn years of my life. The only thing that gives me more hope to keep living is that I'll eventually learn how to win against these kind of women and be 100% manipulation proof so that this shit doesn't happen to me again.

alreadyredschool · 2014-06-12T14:35:31+00:00

Fuck 10 other girls, if you still have problems with this one ask again.

captainbloodd · 2014-06-11T17:53:43+00:00

It's a good thing that this awful relationship is now over. I was in a similar situation like yours years ago and I was a fucking mess when it happened. Took me a long time to get over it too.

Now, years later, I can honestly say that her breaking up with me was one of the BEST fucking things that has happened to me in my adult life. I thank the Lord above that I didn't marry that stupid piece of shit.

I know you probably won't feel like doing this, but get it together and go out and fuck at least 5 chicks. I didn't truly start feeling better until I stuck my dick into another woman's pussy. That's the real chicken soup for the soul.

Sturmgeist781 · 2014-06-11T23:11:29+00:00

Go fuck ten other women.

MattAmoroso · 2014-06-11T19:55:59+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pI0Kwutugeg

kick6 · 2014-06-11T20:14:19+00:00

Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop blaming her for your current situation. You're in college, I'm 99% sure you've been pining for her longer than the relationship actually lasted. That's pathetic. Be a man, pick yourself up, and get back into the world. No amount of "talking" - even to dudes that are going to understand - is going to make this go away. YOU have to take action.

[deleted] · 2014-06-11T21:17:32+00:00

Now it's time to reflect on the warning signs you should have noticed. Improve yourself, and try again. She wasn't the first in your life and she won't be the last.

Jkobzen · 2014-06-11T21:45:57+00:00

First of all realize that she was not special, she was really not that different from the other 3,386,509,865 other women on earth, there are a lot more interesting women out there to meet. Realize that she doesn't really matter, since you are the source of your own happiness.

Take it as a learning experience and a wakeup-call.

machimus · 2014-06-11T22:05:39+00:00

I know it hurts, but pain can be a great motivator. And the furnace of hate will burn a lot of calories while you're getting back on your feet.

(By that I mean hate for her, not hate for women.)

willtopower2014 · 2014-06-11T22:23:05+00:00

Right now, you need some shock therapy. You need to feel LIFE. Go to the nearest mall or bar or wherever a lot of women are and walk up to them and ask, "Want to get fucked?" Repeat until you're successful or get kicked out or get arrested.

You need to throw yourself into the fire to get out of this rut you're in.

It's good that you're already on Nofap and exercising, btw.

niczar · 2014-06-12T08:40:12+00:00

As someone who's struggled with mental health issues ... take whatever willpower left you have to go get medical help. People will tell you to go exercise ... which is really important but simply a non-starter if you don't have the energy.

dai_xinyi_boxer · 2014-06-13T03:06:22+00:00

set off of your sorry ass. Take up improv comedy. Go running and hit an MMA gym.

caxica · 2014-06-13T13:12:13+00:00

Well you've learned your lesson, right? We all make mistakes. In the grand scheme of things your mistake was very minor. Forget about her, work on yourself and Go Fuck Ten Other Bitches.

Movonnow · 2014-06-14T11:51:19+00:00

So.

Basically, I've decided to whine. Depression is not the problem.

The problem is that I may get kicked out of my college.

I've been reacting like a pussy after my break-up and I've decided to sabotage myself in order to get attention.

"Look at me, I'm miserable, sad and depressed, give me some attention".

I am NOT depressed. I chose to be.

The real issue is my college situation so I've decided to stop whining, take responsability, stop posting on the net or getting on the computer in general and FIX MY DAMN LIFE.

logically_ · 2014-06-11T17:35:08+00:00

Here's the thing that hurts, but can also help..

You've met lots of other women. You thought this one was different, special even. Maybe you treated her different.. maybe she treated you differently (for a while). Now you must come to realize that she isn't any different or special. She's just another bitch. Other dudes will have their time with her, just like you did. And on and on she goes, fucking dudes, using them, etc.

If you look at it, you've been done a huge favor. Now you KNOW she isn't special; that she's just some regular random hoe. This knowledge is a gift, my friend. Because now you can move forward knowing that this bitch wasn't worth your time in the first place.

You should be glad she's gone, dawg.

SouthwellR · 2014-06-11T18:42:38+00:00

Man up

Title	I was her beta buck.
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Date	June 11, 2014 5:10 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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