Losing My Inner Fire

bertansd · 2017-07-24T17:34:35+00:00

you're ready to move on to spirituality, you've satisfied most worldly pleasures you wanted and you've realized it's just the same shit over and over, and in the end we all die having not accomplished much in terms of finding universal answers.

aigamithite · 2017-07-24T20:42:02+00:00

Answer the following questions please:

How much of the world have you seen?
How much of the world do you want to see?
You bench 350 lbs. Where do you use your chest apart from holding yourself above your girlfriend?
You deadlift 500 lbs. Where do you use your legs apart from walking?
Your girlfriend just dumped you and took the dog. Who do you call to go out for a drink?
When iquinsooacha78 was 6 years old, what did he want to do? Live the American dream of "settle down, get married, have kids, give a fuck about making it to watch my kids' soccer practice, buy a house and make small talk with neighbors" or did he aspire to something else? Is what he aspired to doable?

Don't say you don't have time. If you get all the sex you want and you go to the gym, you have enough time. So my recommendations:

Answer the above questions
Create a social circle of non 9-5ers or 9-5ers with active interests that are not walking corpses bound to their work and wives
Do that comedy show somehow. I don't know how; go to a small pub and ask them to do it

You are not losing your inner fire; you are extinguishing it yourself, by getting isolated socially and not pursuing other activities. This is a recipe for disaster. You ask what's the point. If there is no point in doing anything, why are you here asking for guidance? Do you feel good now? Wanna feel good and alive again? That's the point. One part of you obviously realizes there is a problem and it's trying to rectify it. That's why you feel underwhelmed. Don't silence that voice or you're in for worse.

Deep down you know what you have to do. Go do it.

BinaryResult · 2017-07-24T17:43:25+00:00

Dont get married. Dont have kids unless you REALLY want to and are prepared for all the freedom sacrifices that come with it. I would say transition to being able to work remotely and then explore the world.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-07-24T17:48:06+00:00

I'm trying to put myself in your shoes and think what I would be compelled to do. Congrats. You're at a points where I'd say most people want to be. You have looks and wealth secured. You have options. So what now? Do you have any hobbies you want to pursue to the next level? Any interests investing in new technology? Maybe run a marathon just for kicks; or better, a triathlon.

Having reached that point, you could start thinking about giving back in some way to those who may look up to you or want to reach similar goals in life. You could teach or be some kind of instructor. It would be fulfilling and you would meet new people. It would go along with your feelings of settling down in a way, if you didnt want to get married and have your own kids.

Or maybe you don't feel an impulse for any of those things. I can't relate. But these are some things I might consider once I reach the long term goals and vision I have for myself. It's your choice.

lord-denning · 2017-07-24T18:29:45+00:00

It's time to bask in all that you've accomplished...then set new, deeper goals. The philosophical outlook that has made the most sense for me is to realize that we must make meaning for ourselves by learning, being and then communicating our best selves to the world. Good luck.

Mescuzzi · 2017-07-24T18:45:19+00:00

Dude, I felt this same way last year before I found TRP. I've lost 100 lbs, I get asked occasionally if I'm an actor or model (live in LA), tall, etc etc. I'll occasionally feel the same way you do in regards to hobbies and such. Have you looked into learning something new? Like taking an interest in investing? Now that you have some disposable income, you can start learning how to invest that extra money. What other things do you like? I found for me, playing volleyball in a couple leagues and open gym has been great. I'm working on my vertical in the gym, and tailoring my workouts to be a beast on the court. Maybe there's a sport that you can play that you'll re-ignite that passion with. It'll be another good way to get to know more people, maybe make some friends that can be more than "small talk"

For me, I'm just constantly trying to learn new things, which keeps me pretty occupied. I think you need to sit down and re-evaluate what your next set of goals are. If you're not setting goals, then you're going to feel stagnant. Also, maybe its the relationship your in? Loss of passion?

[deleted] · 2017-07-24T21:39:12+00:00

Have children, you goon.

randarrow · 2017-07-25T03:08:40+00:00

Starting to sound like you are dopamine saturated. You're going to have to start looking at monk mode as a part of your daily life. IE, cut back on some pleasurable activities so you enjoy others more.

iquinsooacha78 · 2017-07-24T16:59:52+00:00

Join a local fascist organization. Read everything you can about Julius Evola and Augosto Pinochet.

chocolatex · 2017-07-24T17:38:46+00:00

Volunteer? Find some new hobbies? Find something where you can create like art or music.

Red-Curious · 2017-07-24T17:46:01+00:00

I'm guessing you're not religious, but there's still wisdom to be found in spiritual texts. Try this one on for size:

I became great and surpassed all who were before me in Jerusalem.

Also my wisdom remained with me.

And whatever my eyes desired I did not keep from them.

I kept my heart from no pleasure, for my heart found pleasure in all my toil, and this was the reward for my toil.

Then I considered all that my hands had done and the toil I had expended in doing it, and behold

All was vanity and a striving after wind, and there was nothing to be gained under the sun.

Like /u/bertansd said, "you're ready to move on to spirituality." That quote comes from Ecclesiastes 2. The very next chapter says, "He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man's heart, yet he cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end."

To reword that, you're designed for more than just reaching "the top of the mountain." Hebrews chapters 8 and 9 talk about how the things you've been pursuing (i.e. physical stuff) is just a "copy" or "shadow" of the real "heavenly things." We're meant for the real thing, not the silhouette that you've been settling for. Re-post this in r/RPChristians, if you'd like to travel more down this particular rabbit hole.

LaRedPill · 2017-07-24T17:59:36+00:00

Can you live from your investments? that's my goal, not having to work (mind, you, i will work, but when and how i want to)...

Still far (very very far) from being 100% autonomous, but meanwhile i keep increasing all my stats.

Why get more jacked? - Because more attractive guys earn more
Why change to a higher paying job? - Because that will make me save and invest more, shortening the time for me to not have to work.
If your girlfriend is boring, change it, why not try with a girl with an open mind? I have a friend who swooped a bi girl, they both get to fuck other girls, no other males allowed (mind you, his finger is over the nuke button all the time and she knows it, so far 2 years in, she is behaving)

Etc.

jurguenklomiken · 2017-07-24T18:06:18+00:00

Something similar happened to me when I hit 30, I was making money, liked my job but was not motivated anymore. I quit and took a sabbatical. I took a new job in another country working on different stuff that I used to. Starting in a couple months. I'm looking forward to it, but I know the high won't last long. I'm senior enough to know I will get up to speed quickly and kick everyone's asses in no time.

What I'm more excited about actually is: - travel the fuck out of this planet - start investing money for real (real state, stocks, etc.) - start a side hustle. whatever I feel like doing and throw it out there (blog, writing, consulting, etc.) - starting a new life. New friends. New girls. A new me. - keep improving me social skills - keep building muscle

In your case you may want: - travel - build a safety net through savings and investments (LTR breaks up, parents get sick) - start doing your thing on the side, build a business

Frigzy · 2017-07-24T19:01:52+00:00

So you're confident with what you've achieved for yourself. Good, but not great. Human beings usually find the most meaning in being of service to others. Obviously your job allows you to do that to a certain extent. However, there's no purpose in it from what I can tell. At least not yet.

What purpose do you have helping others? What change do you want to help grow in the world? What do you want others to become?

I think your sense of meaning and purpose is going to be along the lines of altruistic actions. Keep in mind however, they should always be rooted in 'egoistic' reasons, such as fulfilling a personal need.

JackGetsIt · 2017-07-24T22:06:33+00:00

You might like this book.

https://www.amazon.com/10-Happier-Self-Help-Actually-Works/dp/0062265431

This film has a protagonist you might relate too.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087980/

Bear-With-Bit · 2017-07-25T00:49:06+00:00

I've, more or less, reached many of my long term goals

Congrats. Seriously, give yourself a big pat on your back. So few a men actually accompolish their own long term goals.

This also means you need new ones.

Don't rush. Take at least a year or two to figure out your next ten to twenty year plan. Explore and discovery, and enjoy that while you're figuring it all out.

Should I get a life coach?

Fuck that. You're your own teacher from here on out. It's valleys like this where you have to struggle, observe, experiment, fail plenty of times, and ultimately learn. You'll have guys like us here to share our two cents and maybe some cool dudes out there (like podcasters Joe Rogan, Tim Ferriss) but it's all on you.

Suggestion: By age ____ be in the positiom where you can call the shots, money isn't a big deal anymore, you are outcome independent, and you can travel, learn, create, converse and play how much and with whomever you please.

What's the point?

The point is you.

rp_nc · 2017-07-25T09:15:16+00:00

Read books about happiness and stoicism. I'm reading Solve for Happy. Our current culture has trained us into believing that financial security, making big money, .. will bring us happiness, but it doesn't. Note: it also doesn't bring us unhappiness, so I'm not advising you to stop doing that. Plenty of people are rich, famous, .. but eventually that doesn't cut it anymore (hedonic adaptation) and deep within they are unhappy. Solve for happy is a book writtin by a very rich guy working at Google, who defined a 'mathematical solution' for happiness, and it works. He also reached his goals, made big money, .. but felt unhappy.

TRP teaches us to have goals because it's attractive (keeps your SMV higher, prevents you from getting oneitis, your mission isn't women, you're not needy, ..), but remember TRP still is a sexual strategy.

[deleted] · 2017-07-25T14:38:49+00:00

Reboot your life. Ditch the girl. Ditch the job. Ditch the location.

Your environment heavily influences well-being. Get new challenges. Most importantly, think less and do more.

Title	Losing My Inner Fire
Author	iquinsooacha78
Upvotes	35
Comments	53
Date	July 24, 2017 4:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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