LTR cheats. She doesn't know I know. Is there something wrong with continuing using her for sex, while looking for next?

FatGirlsInPartyHats · 2015-12-27T12:14:17+00:00

I think you're using mental gymnastics by saying you'll "use" her for sex. Why do you need her for that? I think even best case scenario it's a crutch and will slow your progress to new pussy. If you want to plate her and it isn't an emotionally charged situation then cut her loose, bang two other women and then plate her.

dabayer · 2015-12-27T12:06:37+00:00

Dude she fking cheated on you. The highest disrespect possible and you consider being intimate with her again? Cut her out of your life. A cheating woman has no place in your life and I would gtfo. If she asks why you answer 'you know why'

rebuildingMyself · 2015-12-27T13:52:19+00:00

You can dump her ass and if she still wants to come around for attention you set the frame of sex only. Either she agrees or she doesn't.

MyLittleAtomBomb · 2015-12-27T16:48:14+00:00

That's a good way to get a rape accusation. If she finds out you intended to cut off her access to commitment while still extracting sex it might send her inner hamster into panic mode and interpret it as rape.

Just bail and fuck one of her sluttier friends to send a message.

3rt41 · 2015-12-27T11:31:05+00:00

I don't think is worth the hassle or the risk. Cut her out and invest the time that you would spend inside her to make yourself better and reach out to better people.

Don't tell me this is the only girl you can bang right now. Heck, meditating is way better than fucking a lying cheating bitch. Don't waste a second of your time.

look_good · 2015-12-27T13:48:01+00:00

Your choices don't require validation, do what you want to do. Don't be a bitch.

slickdevil1 · 2015-12-27T16:19:57+00:00

Fuck her the way you want, then tell her you're going on a date with a new girl you just met. She'll go crazy - then tell her that you know she cheated on you. After that, just stay calm and leave.

Dr_Shakalu22 · 2015-12-27T17:51:11+00:00

How did you find out?

Gawernator · 2015-12-27T11:29:14+00:00

Always wear a condom. Use her just for sex like a plate and don't catch a STD

clint_bronson · 2015-12-27T11:23:11+00:00

Do it, with a fucking condom, always. Don't be stupid and get attached to a cheating whore. Wrong for who? you or her? Who gives a fuck? I really do hope you keep "looking for next".

Coolbeans024ptf · 2015-12-27T13:15:58+00:00

Do what serves you best. Just don't be a bitch.

Overzealous_BlackGuy · 2015-12-27T19:06:45+00:00

What are you going to do when you execute this plan and she withholds sex from you? Its different when youre fucking a plate, because there are no obligations. You still have to deal with her as a girlfriend, and if you don't, then she probably wont want to fuck you, and shell just move along to her side fuck. If you still haven't found anything yet, (which is likely since you want to keep your hands on home base.) you will be tempted to play suit, and eventually get caught up.

First its "im just here for sex"

Then its "im just doing this , so she doesnt suspect me of anything"

....getting caught up happens in steps like these.

If anything , have sex 1 more time and leave.

vengefully_yours · 2015-12-27T19:12:01+00:00

I've done exactly that. Once she cheated any emotional attachment was gone. Some I never cared about, I simply fucked only her for a while out of convenience. That happened often in the military and my younger days.

However, I am a heartless sociopathic bastard, you probably aren't. It takes a lot to get me to care about someone. Probably impossible at this point in my life.

If you can go get more pussy, do it. Don't give a fuck about this bitch, but I see no problem with using her as a warm moist place to jack off.

SheepKing · 2015-12-27T19:21:05+00:00

Yes. Shes cheating why would it be "incorrect"? Fuck her and dumb her when you found a new one. Spank her ass 1 time for me.

ben0wn4g3 · 2015-12-27T12:55:29+00:00

Do it. As long as you're not lying to yourself.

empatheticapathetic · 2015-12-27T15:43:52+00:00

Next her. You don't need negative and disrespectful people in your life. Don't let her think she can disrespect you like that.

Dr_D1amond · 2015-12-27T18:00:37+00:00

i made the mistake of still shagging someone for a few weeks, after she rolled over on the bed above me and fucked a guy right infront of me in the same room, less than a minute after we had been talking and cuddling together.

biggest disrespect possible. cheating is outrageous. never again am i going to tolerate it. Do the same dude. It is NOT worth the heartache.

caius_iulius_caesar · 2015-12-27T17:01:28+00:00

On what planet could there be?

mudra311 · 2015-12-27T18:22:03+00:00

Sounds like y'all don't live together.

This is pretty easy then. Completely check out. Go to her place to bang then leave. Make it abundantly clear she is no more than a plate. If you can do this without staying attached, you probably can't, then you're good.

For me, I couldn't stomach having sex someone who committed worst sin anyone can commit: betrayal. I probably couldn't even get it up. Best to just walk away from this and never speak to her again.

ser0402 · 2015-12-27T20:46:11+00:00

Cheating is a one way automatic NEXT ticket

RickJamesBeyach · 2015-12-27T21:10:54+00:00

If you had any self respect you would dump her without telling her why and completely cut her out of your life.

EntitledShitHead · 2015-12-27T21:26:38+00:00

No. There isn't. She cheated on you and betrayed your trust. She only had one shot and she blew it. Text/call her: "hey I don't think this is working. Best of luck." If she keeps pushing say you have a date with another girl.

jcrpta · 2015-12-27T22:23:53+00:00

Yes, everything.

The whole point of RP is you have some dignity.

You are a man with needs, that's true, but you're also a man with standards. Think of the unspoken message you are sending while you fuck your LTR: "I'm a fucking chump who has no idea you're getting cock elsewhere".

Dump her, and make it absolutely clear that it's because she can't keep her knickers on.

disposable_pants · 2015-12-27T22:59:03+00:00

It all depends on how connected she is to your friends/family.

If she's met a couple of your friends a few times, do whatever you want. The amount of damage she could do to your reputation is minimal; people that know you are going to believe you over some random woman named, uh, Mary, or Maggie, or... what was it again?

But if she's good friends/in regular contact with many people you know, just cut her loose and move on immediately. Don't try to smear her for cheating -- if you don't let people save face they get desperate, and desperate people do crazy things. You don't want a crazy person who holds sway with your in-group fucking up your life, you want to preserve that in-group with minimal damage. Any appearance of impropriety on your part (telling people she cheated on you, cheating on her in response, etc.) will likely harm you more than her, so don't try it.

GunnarX · 2015-12-28T00:24:54+00:00

Please just have sex with her one more time (at her place or a neutral location), and when she wants to cuddle after, just say "we're over". Make sure you have your stuff, and head out. Block her on all social media. Up to you if you decide to say why, but I wouldn't even listen to her side of the story. It really doesn't matter at this point.

Edit - Embrace it. I promise it will feel liberating.

MattyAnon · 2015-12-28T01:52:02+00:00

Tell her you know she cheated and she's just a FWB now. She behaved as if not in an exclusive relationship, so now she isn't.

FrameWalker · 2015-12-28T03:28:55+00:00

Its much easier to be happy and pick up girls without shifty cheating girlfriend in your life

nastynickdr · 2015-12-28T06:25:07+00:00

Yes, staying in a relationship with a cheater means you dont value your commitment, thus lowering your value.

If you still want to fuck her, plate her. And plating an ex most of the times is not worth the drama, but its up to you.

soadaa · 2015-12-27T13:07:10+00:00

I don't think it's 'wrong' to use her for sex while you search for the next girl, If you can handle it.

However, wouldn't it be better to next her now? I would imagine she would want to cuddle and hang out beside just fuck and I would be too disgusted to do such things, knowing she's cheating.

Title	LTR cheats. She doesn't know I know. Is there something wrong with continuing using her for sex, while looking for next?
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Date	December 27, 2015 11:06 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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