This is the only subreddit that can help me - need advice...

RedPillD · 2021-03-03T00:37:22+00:00

You need to automate your business. I guarantee you are spending a lot of time doing things that a computer can do for you, or less ideally that an employee can do.

You need to figure out how to take you, out of the business model. That way you can still collect revenue and grow the business without it taking up all your time.

Have you read Unscripted by MJ DeMarco? This is one of things he addresses specifically.

asabasa · 2021-03-03T00:43:49+00:00

Passion is bs. You gotta do a lot of hard shit you hate to get where you're goin, that's why being goal oriented is so important. You think MJ liked running sprints? No, but he went through it because he loved the game and wanted to be the best at it.

sicrm · 2021-03-03T02:15:42+00:00

you’re focusing on what you lost instead of what you gained

PhaedrusHunt · 2021-03-03T01:04:49+00:00

Welcome to the grind kid.

If you figure out the magic formula send it my way.

Good luck. It's a jungle.

ItalianStallion4545 · 2021-03-03T02:15:50+00:00

You’re doing fine man. I’m the same age as you and doing the same thing. Make money, level up, etc. Don’t worry about other people. Most people are clueless and absolutely lost in life. You only need a couple really good friends. You’re on the right path. Just start lifting weights if you aren’t already, and maybe find a hobby you like. Eventually you’ll meet people of like mind, especially once these BS covid restrictions lighten up. Keep raking in the dough man. The girls and all that other stuff will come eventually. People will eventually notice the work you’ve been putting in. Don’t fall into the “work, sleep, pay bills, get drunk” routine that everyone else does. You’re already ahead in life. Don’t take your foot off the gas pedal. The only caveat I would add is make sure that you’re regularly facing your fears. Purposefully put yourself into uncomfortable situations, and then you will reach a new level of fulfillment that money can’t buy.

jjj2576 · 2021-03-03T00:17:25+00:00

Why did you cut out your old friends?

You answered your question in your Victim Puke— you need to make friends of value, and find hobbies of value.

Men bond over hobbies and activities. Went shooting with my best mate over the weekend. Lots of solid male bonding.

ForeverKarlMalone · 2021-03-03T01:25:59+00:00

Been there done that. You’re never too busy to go out and meet new people.

When I was grinding on my business I always made time to go out every Friday and Saturday to make sure my social skills don’t atrophy

Highly recommend doing cold approach at your local train station or mall so you don’t come out if your business grind as a weird antisocial loner that has to rely on money to get laid

Just 2 fucking days a week where you go out and spend a couple hours approaching women. It’s not that hard

SamEatsChicken · 2021-03-03T01:09:38+00:00

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ScholarLad · 2021-03-03T01:09:33+00:00

Delayed gratification is the number one quality of successful people. Too many “alphas” spend their 20s in the gym all day working shitty low value jobs. They’re betas in life. Better to grind early, then coast later. Chin up, and keep your eye on the prize brotha!

davidfosford21 · 2021-03-03T02:28:38+00:00

what business do you have?

the advice varies depending on what industry you're in

linkofinsanity19 · 2021-03-03T15:04:27+00:00

In the 4 Hour Work Week, Tim Ferriss mentions some principles that will affect time allocation. Basically, you should look to:

First eliminate anything that isn't producing enough. IF you can cut out 2 hours of something that makes you an average of $75/hr to replace it with something that is making you more per hour, then you can do that to either 1. increase income or 2. reduce total time spent working to achieve the same income. In your case you could start at just making same money for less time, then later increase time on that if you so choose. This goes for clients too. Pareto Principle dictates that your clients are going to vary in quality. Some will require less time to deal with than others and some will be better money per hour than others based on this fact. Figure out what clients are your headache clients and drop them so that you can replace them with more clients that are higher return on time investment. This means you'll need to determine the qualities that make a good client for you and source more of them. Where do they come from? How good clients usually end up at your business, etc.

Second, if you can't eliminate it, then automate it. Be careful with automation though, because it acts as a magnifying glass and if your system is inefficient, then it will become a real problem so you want to make sure all the cogs are lined up right first.

Third is delegate. Check to see if you are wasting your time doing tasks that you could pay some virtual assistant in some third world country to do for you. Vet any VA's before giving them large tasks by seeing how they do on smaller tasks first. You might end up needing to get a part-time employee even depending on what it is you're doing.

Fourth, determine what tasks are truly important in order for your business to run and grow. Chances are you might be doing some things that aren't worth the time spent on them, where that time could be spent free, or making more money in other areas.

Lastly, determine how much YOUR time specifically needs to be tied to the buisness for it to run. How much per hour is your time worth to your business? This would be a helpful number to know, though it's likely changing as time goes on, it will help you be able to make quicker decisions on when to outsource work to someone who charges less than your own hourly value, so that you have more time to do what you want, whether that be have more social time or make more money.

minbooz · 2021-03-03T06:39:09+00:00

Work on your kingdom and don’t give up. Don’t worry about chicks rn, they’ll only waste your time. When the time is right and your business is more successful, they’ll be all over you.

CasaDeFranco · 2021-03-03T03:28:01+00:00

What are the metrics of your business? When I started out I also farmed out work to interns / lower staff and that helped with balance and allowing me to invest time in what mattered.

If you can't afford interns, Handshake is a good place to pick up talent for free.

onenightstanduhoes · 2021-03-03T06:23:51+00:00

I own a business too and the big change for me was to go at the bar/party to network and find new clients. I started to have fun and met new girls.

Spartawolf · 2021-03-03T07:10:07+00:00

I don't know what field you're in so my advice may not be applicable, but it sounds like you're at the stage where you need to delegate some tasks. Work out what tasks can be delegated to others and utilize virtual assistants from somewhere like the Philippines (rather cheap to hire and they speak good English). It'll cost you a little but you get back some of your time.

As for the pandemic you're not the only one in isolation. What time I'd have spent on dates I now spend lifting or scheming to level up my living situation. The pandemic won't last forever. You should aim to do the same and move to a new place once it's over and use what you've built to live your life.

Razorsn44ke · 2021-03-03T07:51:11+00:00

Firstly congrats on the effort so far mate especially at your age. You need to understand that everyone is feeling isolated right now due to the pandemic. I’d suggest using your one friend as a gateway to meet new people if possible, that’s how I entered a new friend group when I moved to a new city. Just ask him what he’s got going on and to tag along etc, then be friendly and funny at a couple of events and you’ll start being invited to things. I know people here will say you don’t need friends etc and to focus on your goals but it’s nice being invited to shit and also helps with social proof. I’d also suggest networking events especially for entrepreneurs. I’ve had great success meeting people at inter-company networking things so I’m sure entrepreneur ones will be even better for people trying to make connections.

TheRedApostle · 2021-03-03T11:52:26+00:00

I'll say this: entrepreneurs often think that they'll hire a team when they're successful.

Truth is, you become successful when you hire a team.

yoitsericc · 2021-03-03T14:15:10+00:00

Just do it another 1-2 years and then buy an expensive car.

dtyler86 · 2021-03-03T14:55:18+00:00

If your business is successful, and you can afford it, move the fuck out. Especially if you can move to an apartment building with young professionals. Life will improve immediately. Also, where do you live that is still so shut down?

trv22 · 2021-03-03T15:01:48+00:00

You’re doing fine my bro just keep it up. You’ll definitely meet like minded people.

Itchy_Cartographer78 · 2021-03-03T15:17:49+00:00

If you’re worried about passion, don’t be, and read “so good they can’t ignore you” by cal newport

throwitdownman · 2021-03-03T16:20:56+00:00

Perhaps I’m the only realist in this sub. Chances are when you start socialising, your company will take a hit. And chances are when you begin to socialise, you’ll feel incredibly uncomfortable.

You will get recognized by someone from the past and you’ll have to go through the uncomfortable situation of explaining answering ‘omg where were you’. If you’re honest, they’ll no doubt become jealous. If you’re vague about it, they might be receptive. They might even start inviting you out again, much more than you like. Which you then have to reject, bringing you back to square one.

The reality is a gain in one area often comes at the cost of a loss in another area. Ask yourself if you really value what you lost more than what you gained? Be mature, you cannot have your cake and eat it.

You can join a gym, join a sport, and have something to do. But in reality most of your time will be your job if it’s your passion, and the other stuff is just filler. The days of working, then partying, like in college isn’t realistic as a young entrepreneur (or any young person trying to make generational wealth).

Snowboard18 · 2021-03-03T19:12:48+00:00

Sounds like you are one of those guys who can’t balance their life that well. I have a few buddies that are that way along with my brother.

What I would suggest is keeping a notebook to plan out your days and keep your life balanced out. Make sure you add time in there to meet up with old friends or make new ones.

BrilliantProof865 · 2021-03-07T06:08:18+00:00

Pay the Eight Dollars And Buy Efficiency By The Wall Street Playboys It was A written for this exact situation in Money Making Endeavours in Life I think they the boys even call it how to get rich without giving up Your Life

PCMRworsethanRgaming · 2021-03-03T05:16:15+00:00

This whole post is about how you spend less time behind a computer than normal people who do 9-5 jobs and you want us think you've got a special situation on your hands when it comes to a social life?

2021-03-03T04:16:13+00:00

Most of us are behind a computer several hours a day, but that doesn't mean we can't have friends. If you are just a workaholic, then you really don't have a life.

Arcade_ace · 2021-03-03T22:24:35+00:00

OP you need to automate some of your computer stuff.

Tbh most of the things can be automated on computer from automatically posting on social media to chat with clients and much more.

If you are comfortable i can hrlp/share how you can automate your stuff.

If you yourself are not technical hire someone. If you can't hire then learn on weekends.

2021-03-03T12:34:27+00:00

lol - kid lives with mom and runs an Ebay business. "Help me with my tough business life"

Title	This is the only subreddit that can help me - need advice...
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Date	March 3, 2021 12:05 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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