Walked Out On Her!

ceilingsky95 · 2019-12-11T02:09:25+00:00

You showed abundance by leaving, you showed strength by not being desperate and you earned my respect for not being emotional about it.

If you can do this, you can fuck an "easier" chick. Go get them.

smirk_addict · 2019-12-11T05:15:03+00:00

She only did that because you flipped the power dynamic by leaving. She was teasing you because she didn’t know what she wanted until you left. I guarantee if you stayed in that room and tried to follow her into the shower she would’ve gave you shit. You should’ve been well beyond this BS by the time you guys got back to her room. She took the whole thing for granted and changed her tune when you ejected. I think you made the right call. I’m annoyed just from reading that. I wouldn’t even respond to the text.

66pisstrooperorder66 · 2019-12-11T02:24:35+00:00

You handled it well bro

orishasinc2 · 2019-12-11T03:03:49+00:00

Stop dealing with that little child of a woman. She was obviously unsure of what she wanted and the whole thing could have led to a hard knock on your door and handcuffs. If a woman is playing game, you fucking walk away! This is 2019, you either know what you want or I am done. You had obviously shown to that clown what you were all about, she did not perceive you as attractive as she might have for someone else. Let her go. A woman should 'jump' at the opportunity of sucking your dick the same way an hyena runs after a meaty carcass. If she hesitate, you hesitate too. It ain't worth it.

Good move by you not to push it.

athrowaway-9001 · 2019-12-11T02:27:55+00:00

You held your convictions and held frame. A lot better than most people can admit.

One thing you could've done is try to act uninterested in her and let her work for your attention back instead of full out leaving.

MisfitPL9 · 2019-12-11T01:58:24+00:00

You didnt push past her LMR

mrbill1234 · 2019-12-11T12:08:55+00:00

In the meetoo era, any form of rejection pretty much means 'no'. You did the right thing by walking away. You could have just as well been another statistic. Be sure to save all the messages she sent you.

MattyAnon · 2019-12-11T15:47:16+00:00

and before you know it was balls deep into her

NICE.

Lesson learned: at some point you have to pull away to put a stop to the bullshit.

naroadi · 2019-12-11T12:14:54+00:00

Too much work and she clearly wasn't that hot to deserve it. I feel like you taught her a lesson, dont play hard to get bullshit games. You could've pushed more and actually fuck her but was she really worth the effort?

TigerXtrm · 2019-12-11T15:04:03+00:00

she was hoping I'd get in the shower with her

Following her to the shower in that situation is like sexual Russian roulette, except with all but one chamber loaded.

psychotropy · 2019-12-11T16:47:04+00:00

My man lol

smirk_addict · 2019-12-11T13:37:08+00:00

I just read your update. I really think this all worked in your favor because you were man enough to walk out the first time. She now sees you as high value because you didn’t just jump through her hoops or play into her frame. Sort of reminds me of those girls that don’t want you until they see you can get other girls.

I’m curious though. Did she apologize, hamster some BS, or just pretend it didn’t happen and simply invited you back?

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-12-11T21:10:12+00:00

Another way of defining frame is saying it's sort of like who's game you're playing at the time.

She was trying to assert that if the game is going to be played it would be played her way..

He walked, showing her that he'd rather not play at all than to play in her game. basically exactly what she was doing to him except whenever he did it to her he was serious.

This is a great example on maintenance of frame

smartfunction30 · 2019-12-11T08:38:34+00:00

Nothing here was ASD. She wasn't into you. Following her into the shower would have been an erroneous move.

But your honor, I thought she wanted me to get in the shower with her, I thought it was ASD!

Beside that, everything here sounds like game playing. Leaving was how you should have proceeded, and you did. Her reason for wanting you was because you left.

30dirtyfingers · 2019-12-11T06:11:51+00:00

Good shit. Thanx for the great example.

strongsovereign · 2019-12-11T13:21:35+00:00

If I were in your position, I would have done the same move.

If she was merely teasing out of seeking validation, you have counteracted that situation in the most optimal way as possible from my experience.

You know what to do when her behaviour becomes intolerable and furthermore ingenuine, the medium is the message. Walk away. Done.

unnatural_by_nature · 2019-12-11T02:48:59+00:00

She was totally baiting you into the shower, dude.

No stress, though. This shit can be hard to pick up on if you don’t know what to look for and it can be reeeeeally risky. Some chicks just like to get you worked up so you can “take it”.

Others are fucking crazy: they will bait you and then flip on the victim switch afterwards when they wake up feeling like a regretful slut.

I’m not saying to never take the bait. It’s a blast when it’s done properly. What I AM saying is never take the bait during the first encounter. The juice is not worth the squeeze.

YouWannaPutMoneyOnIt · 2019-12-11T15:26:31+00:00

This is hilarious

casemodz · 2019-12-11T18:16:59+00:00

Not sure if this is related - it sounds like it might be.

Anyways, I met this girl on tinder and changed her brake pads and she gave me $20... and I bought some liquor with that. We are in my room and start to kiss a bit. It gets to the point where she says she has to go, etc. I decided to be alpha and picked her up by her arm pits threw her on my bed and fucked her. Normally I would "respect" a woman's decision but I decided to change and be a "douche" and it worked. I think some girls like to be manhandled, told what to do, forced, dominated. I felt a little bad when I did this with my ex once. She was doing exactly what you described. So I said fuck it and just told her what to do. You just need to stop if they really dont like it... (Crying, genuine scared look, mad, etc)

Women are so used to nice guys that they want a guy who takes what he wants. Many women are submissive and don't be fooled by an innocent judgment. Odds are she's a closet freak.

praguetologist · 2019-12-12T01:09:06+00:00

Atta boy

prince0verit · 2019-12-11T04:14:54+00:00

Don't shit where you eat

Backthatpassup451 · 2019-12-11T02:35:00+00:00

Well maybe you should have gotten in the shower with her, it would be a porn scenario.

But it’s your call mate, do what you want in the end. Don’t be scared to walk out on a bitch. Maybe she’ll be more direct next time.

Sweetdreams18 · 2019-12-11T11:04:24+00:00

She‘s going to fuck somebody else and make it sure that you know it, and you are going to feel big big burn feels

2019-12-11T11:29:48+00:00

Your pride got in the way of you getting laid when you couldn't get past her anti slut defense. I draw that up as a loss.

PillUpAss · 2019-12-11T02:39:23+00:00

No, you suck and have no ability to navigate ASD and LMR. This is a fail.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-12-11T02:50:56+00:00

"When ever I'd get close she'd get up and move away then eventually going to have a shower."

You were supposed to get in that shower, retard.

"went to sleep only to wake up this morning with messages from her to go back to her room, that it was unlocked, excuses that she was hoping I'd get in the shower with her and etc."

Sigh

Title	Walked Out On Her!
Author	TBronze
Upvotes	90
Comments	58
Date	December 11, 2019 1:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"When ever I'd get close she'd get up and move away then eventually going to have a shower."

"went to sleep only to wake up this morning with messages from her to go back to her room, that it was unlocked, excuses that she was hoping I'd get in the shower with her and etc."