What do you speak about with your plates?

Vouch33r · 2019-05-02T11:10:09+00:00

As Vandaleen said. Let them do 85% of the talking. Check out How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie, a good and timeless book. If you want to talk about topics like you menioned - intraparameters of movies like pacing etc - I think you need to show true enthusiasm doing this.

So to summarize, either : a) Let them talk vastly more than you b) Be passionate about you're talking about

Challenge for you: talk to somebody about cooking pasta and make it the most fucking entertaining monologue ever

bluefingerblue · 2019-05-02T14:14:32+00:00

Dude talking about the pacing of movies is totally fine as long as you seem passionate about it. If Quentin Tarantino was talking to some chick about the pacing of movies, she’d be eating it up.

My guess is you think it’s boring them, so it comes off as boring to them. I’m guessing you have to adjust your mentality. Who gives a fuck if it interests them. If it interests you, go for it and be passionate about it.

Also, you don’t have to carry conversations. Next time you’re with a girl just try to sit in silence and let her carry the conversation. It might get awkward, but let her fill the void instead of feeling like you need to. Then just sit there and listen and play off what she’s saying.

vandaalen · 2019-05-02T10:36:30+00:00

Plates: schedule, meet, fuck, leave within twenty minutes, repeat next week

How much can you talk in 20 minutes?

Other than that, just let them do the talk. They enjoy their voice much more than yours.

ReturnsOver · 2019-05-02T16:22:16+00:00

Man ignore half the bullshit you're hearing here

If you've already fucked her, talk away about whatever interests you as if you're talking to yourself

Obviously don't start yammering about your childhood issues or current problems, but if you start yapping away about your opinions about movies and current issues and whatever who gives a fuck if it causes "the plate to break"

RP is supposed to be about being uncompromising and yet here we see people saying you should just be quiet and shut up to keep the girl, implying the value of keeping the girl around is greater than expressing yourself and doing what you want to do

What a joke this place has become

Wolveryn · 2019-05-02T14:04:17+00:00

A lot of the girls I have around I watch Netflix and chill with, I don’t mind them sticking around.., if the relationship is NSA there’s a fairly clear cut understanding that the chat is gonna be easy going... the younger ladies I tend to prefer to just quieten them down with my cock in their mouth. The girls in their early 20’s tend to want to talk about relationships, sex or show off their Instagram pics and ask me if I think her or her friends pics are ‘hawt’...

I had a 23 yo Vietnamese/Australian girl come over tonight just to play PlayStation, I said you’re welcome to, but I have a no pants or top allowed policy... I massaged her while she played cod black ops in her gstring and bra... we pretty much chatted about our sex lives for an hour... comparing who had the best sexcapade stories before I lifted her to the bedroom and pulled that gstring to the side... soon as we were done she Ubered home. Low stress, high pleasure

Orfeu_da_Conceicao · 2019-05-02T15:44:28+00:00

1) Her

2) Teasing. Her.

SilenceOnTheWire · 2019-05-02T13:04:42+00:00

There's only 2 reasons for you to be doing what you are doing. One is that you know they most likely don't understand what you are saying so it makes you feel smarter than them which shows your lack of self esteem, second you are trying to turn them into conversation buddies when they just want sex because... I dunno. Why don't you have that kind of conversations with male friends?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2019-05-02T18:14:58+00:00

How she might pleasure me better.

Upon occasion I give advice, but I make clear that if they just want to bitch abt things, that’s what their girlfriends are for and thennin I pack their mouths with cock.

Actually I prefer dating introverts, so there isn’t a lot of talking.

Psychological_Radish · 2019-05-02T16:13:17+00:00

The idea that you should get a girl who wants to have deep, meaningful conversations is a Blue Pill delusion. The only deepness that should concern you is how deep your cock is going into her pussy. Save the philosophical shit for your friends. Smart girls want to get plowed by the hot dumb trainer from the gym, not the skinny guy with the dorky glasses in her calculus class.

Whisper · 2019-05-02T16:04:23+00:00

If you're spending significant social time with them outside the seduction process, they are FWBs, not plates.

ghosts_of_me · 2019-05-02T14:08:21+00:00

Dont talk, do. Create activities, be a leader. Put on a movie you want to watch, draw an alien city together, invent a new cocktail, make a sculpture out of tree bark, go for a walk to the river and spot a duck, play a card game, you can do anything.

beachbbqlover · 2019-05-02T15:29:59+00:00

I mostly talk with people from the internet. The locals are all coal miners, and have the intellectual capacity of coal miners. I mean some run the mine, some run a business, some clean shovels, but nobody here is about to change the world, and while I'm not either I do find people who are to be more engaging.

So the people immediately around me get conversations about work, cars, making a house, weather, fitness, and perspective choices.

Aesthetik_1 · 2019-05-02T14:56:08+00:00

I found that, provided they’re into you, you can talk about pretty much anything and they will try to assert themselves / impress you with what they know about something you talk about / keep the conversation alive and try to mirror your interests which is hardy ever genuine, but fun nonetheless

Ridabewa · 2019-05-02T18:42:53+00:00

I was bored reading your post, so I can only imagine how your plates feel. Stop fucking talking. They don’t care about your movie theories. I’m a filmmaker and I don’t even talk about that shite. The only thing coming out of your mouth should be penetrating questions.

mikayla_rivera · 2019-05-02T19:21:53+00:00

If they are just fuck buddies then they are not going to be your best friends. That’s what a non sexual friend is for or a girlfriend, I would recommend either leaving shortly after hooking up or asking them more questions to get them involved in the conversation if you really want to talk to them. People like to talk about themselves and very few will actually give a shit about what you have to say besides close friends, family, and your gf which are all still maybes.

tefllifestyle · 2019-05-02T20:35:43+00:00

Everybody loves to talk about themselves, just let them do the talking...its funny its the lazy approach, but they will like you more in the end

jollycompanion · 2019-05-03T04:08:31+00:00

Tomassi not to give away too much information and to keep it all a bit mysterious on that end. Besides this idk what the hell other people discuss.

Ah I see you're a man of culture as well.

Elihad15 · 2019-05-02T17:24:12+00:00

Find male friends to talk to about these things. I also have a hard time not getting to deep (mentally) and it ends the same way. You can’t talk about things with women the way you do with males. And avengers is for twelve years is my go to response when people mention those movies.

BumblingBeta · 2019-05-02T19:32:14+00:00

Most people here have probably never had "plates". You've got to remember that 1 in 3 men below 30 aren't having sex at all, according to statistics published this year. No sex in the last year. That statistic is probably under-stated, because it was self-reported and men always over-state the amount of sex they're getting. That number is probably closer to 1 in 2. This isn't even counting the men who pay for sex. So already you're asking a bunch of people who have probably never been in the situation of having plates in the first place (although they constantly fantasise about it no doubt).

As for advice on your particular issue, talk about whatever you want. If she loses attraction, so be it. Abundance mentality, you've got plenty of other options.

To be honest, it sounds like you want to turn plates into meaningful girlfriends. I suggest if you want deep and meaningful conversations, find some male friends instead. Nothing stopping you talking with plates, but why bother? Talking is a very "female" trait. Real men either fall asleep or get up and leave after sex. Sounds like you're very feminised in your thinking.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2019-05-02T13:11:47+00:00

You should be able to calibrate, generally speaking, whether someone is understanding and or interested in your conversation or not. I’m 28 years old and I’ve NEVER heard someone talk about the pacing of films. I can fully understand talking about the acting or the writing or the casting but pacing?

Title	What do you speak about with your plates?
Author	BorosPauper
Upvotes	88
Comments	41
Date	May 2, 2019 10:28 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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