Hey Seddit, I have lurked around here forever and I want to finally contribute.

I recently challenged myself to step my game up. I graduated college in the spring and haven't had a whole lot of success since. I realized I have been afraid to put in the work to learn bar game. College was so easy I got lazy. With this in mind, I challenged myself to go out for thirty days in a row. I am half way through and wanted to share some thoughts.

On logistics:

  • If you are going to drink, take out cash and leave your card at home. You will save money and bartenders appreciate cash.

  • Use yelp and search (the night of the week you want to go out) + night + the city you want to go out in. You can get some really excellent information on what the dynamics of certain venues are and most importantly, whether or not people are going to show up. You can also use meetup.com to a similar effect.

  • Mix up venues as much as possible from night to night. This way you can't get into a funk with one particular type.

On gaming:

  • Don't be a PUA robot. Be genuinely charming and for god's sake listen. It sounds simple and it is, but sometimes you get so focused on game that you forget you are talking to a human being with the same wants and needs of any of us.

  • Learn to dance even just a little. It gives you something to do with a girl and it can be one of the easiest places to close.

  • Don't move around too much. Relax grab a drink and look for a warm up.

  • Don't worry about the first set. It is only a warm up. This is not your main target for the night.

  • Phone numbers don't not mean anything, but any given phone number doesn't quite mean as much as I thought it did. Flaking and logistics can be such a problem that you really need to have an awesome interaction to have a realistic expectation of getting this girl to come out with you. My solution is just to invite the numbers from the night before to the next night. I am not about to stop everything and invest in a date after only one night of hanging out.

  • Dress well. Get over to r/malefashionadvice and read the stickies.

On framing:

  • You already know about the abundance mindset, but you might not realize how desperate girls are. Not all of them, but if you look around you will find someone who genuinely is dying for it.

  • No single set matters. This is easier said then done. If you really blow it one night it can be hard to shake, but with practice it gets easier.

  • The 'reps' mentality. Think of going out like exercise. Each night is a workout, and each set you open is a rep.

This is just one young man's experience and by no means a comprehensive guide or even good guide. However, I am K-closing nearly every night at this point so something is definitely working. I am also working into some seriously bitchin' social circles.

Keep gamin' kids.

edit: So I wrote an ebook on text game while I was in college, I sold some copies, but I am willing to give it out for free. I am not going to force it on you, but if you sedditors want it I will throw it up.