I used to make every conversation mistake in the book.

As a result, I consistently landed in the friendzone and people also thought I was kind of a dick.

The crazy thing is, though, I didn’t even realize I was making the conversation mistakes.

It turns out, you really don’t know what you don’t know. That’s the point of this post: To show you the possible conversation mistakes you may be making…

…Mistakes that will definitely turn women off.

So, as you read, be honest and open with yourself. If you can remember making mistakes like these, start working to improve yourself.

I’ve also listed solutions below each mistake – so start implementing those as well.

Ready?

Here are 3 conversation mistakes that put you in the friendzone…

Mistake #1: Coming Off Too Platonic or Friendly

This is basically when you don’t come across with a sexy vibe in your conversations.

It’s the quickest thing that’ll land you in the friendzone. It makes it nearly impossible to escalate and make a move on a girl because you’re not coming from that “man-to-woman” dynamic.

And we’ve all been there. You’re in the conversation and you realize it’s going nowhere. You can’t seem to bridge that gap between friendly and sexual.

Solution: Get physical from the start.

Touch her arm while talking, or even give her a hug (you should always hug her at the beginning of a date).

Study after study has shown that women prefer men who touch them early on in the conversation, and are also much more likely to give their phone numbers to those men who touch them. You can see one of those studies here: http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15534510701316177

Mistake #2: Talking Too Much About Yourself

A friend told me she went on a Tinder date the other day with a doctor. He was handsome, successful, and rich.

Everything a woman wants, right? But within an hour, she had her friend call her and give the “sick grandma excuse” so she could escape this terrible date. (The “sick grandma excuse” is when a girl has her friend call her 30 minutes to an hour into a date. If she’s having fun, she’ll hang up and stay on the date. If she’s not, she’ll say, “My mom just called. My grandma is sick and I have to go see her.”)

So, what happened? The guy ranted and raved about himself, his success, and his importance.

She felt like she couldn’t be herself around him, like he was constantly judging her. He positioned himself as unrelatable right from the beginning and it killed any attraction and hope for a connection.

Solution: Focus the conversation on her. You don’t have to say that much about yourself, especially in your first conversation. In fact, you can tell her very little while having her open up and tell her almost everything about herself.

Remember: Talking about ourselves activates the same pleasure centers of the brain that are associated with food and money. The more she talks about herself, the more connected she’ll feel to you.

Mistake #3: Getting Married to a Conversation Topic

You know that feeling when you’re done talking about something, but your conversation counterpart keeps bringing it back up? It’s like, “Bro, I know you like working out, but I don’t want to talk about the nuances of deadlifts for 3 hours.”

Every conversation topic has a lifespan, and if you try to milk the topic past its lifespan, you’ll annoy people (and turn women off). You may be tempted to do this because you’ll naturally be more comfortable with certain conversation topics. For example, if you enjoy working out, you’ll be comfortable talking about lifting weights. But you can’t allow yourself to keep falling back to this topic – you must keep the conversation flowing…

Solution: Weave in multiple topics.

A rich conversation weaves through multiple topics. It’s okay to change the subject, even if you haven’t said everything you feel like you need to say about a topic. But when you keep reverting back to a conversation topic, it signals to women that you have low social intelligence and also that you’re not a very well rounded man.

If you feel like you want to keep coming back to a “dead” topic, stop yourself, and ask a good question to push the conversation forward (like, “What are you passionate about?”). It’s also important to keep the conversation focused on more emotional topics like these (this way, she’ll feel good around you).

Alright guys, if you can avoid these conversation mistakes, you’ll have a lot better luck in your conversations. You’ll be more likely to make things sexual instead of land in the friendzone.

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