So I read a r/dating submission some hours ago, about a girl making her "boyfriend"?? wait 5 dates, ~ more specifically SLEEPOVERS !!!! ~ at her place, before they did anything.

Now she is squealing, because he has become sexually withdrawn, and forcing her to become more aggressive. Personally, I think they are playing power struggle with one another. He's a spineless pussy for letting it get to 5 dates, and she's a power-trip asshole for seeing how far she could press his patience. Now it appears he's doing to it back to her.

Guys, don't do this. 3 DATE MAX, for something beyond kissing to happen, or move on to another woman. And do not fall for a woman saying "Oh, I need to take my time so I can be comfortable. It's not you, it's me....". Believe it, if the right guy crossed her path, she would get comfortable really fast. This has been Q&A'd here on the seduction sub, many, many times.

I suggest the "men" here, go find YouTube vids of a Los Angeles shock jock named TOM LEYKIS, where you will learn in vast detail, why you don't let it go beyond 3 dates.

Am I saying ignore boundaries? NO, of course not. Be reasonably respectful. A kiss or even a hug (shudder-cringe) is acceptable for date 1. A hug is not acceptable on date 2.

Go beyond 3 dates without some serious action, and you are squaring up for male girlfriend status.

The other possibility, of "more than 3 dates with no action", is that you are being sized up for some sort of usage. Beware. Women have no problems keeping "lesser men" in their stable for menial things" Paying for her or her friends food & drinks, using you to mow her yard, fix her washing machine, do her homework, give her a ride when she has no car.... etc.... I call it "monkey".... "Handyman Monkey", "Chauffeur Monkey", etc....

BE A MAN. Make your intent clear by date 3.

Be prepared to cold walk away from any one, any thing, any time.