30 things to stop doing to yourself

adriens · 2011-12-13T04:07:53+00:00

Stop hitting yourself. Stop hitting yourself. Stop hitting yourself.

AceroInoxidable · 2011-12-13T04:09:29+00:00

I'm not sure about a bunch of them. While most things in the list seem correct (stop being scared, stop thinking you're not ready, stop lying to yourself, etc.) there are some that I don't like.

For example, "Stop trying to be someone you're not". Well, being someone you're not is the whole point in trying to improve yourself, practice, get skills, etc., isn't it? It's about becoming a better person, that is, trying to be someone you're not... yet.

But it is a false assertion under other perspective too: the image of ourselves that we provide to others around. I think we must offer, always, the best aspect of our personality and, sometimes, the aspect of the person we want to be, we wanna become. Because every now and them we are going to see ourselves reflected in the mirror of other people's eyes, and if people around us believe we are great, then they are going to treat us as such, and we are going to believe what other people see -that is, the image we consciously projected before. And I'm not talking about something as idiot as bragging here, I'm talking about self-awareness and the image we show when interacting with peers.

I don't know neither about sentences like "If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you." Well, life many times doesn't work that way. Don't giving a fuck is fantastic, do it, but be careful about not caring, not wanting, not trying. What I've learn is that sometimes you have to fight and actively seek the room you want, because if you don't no magical fairy is going to open an imaginary door for you so you can enjoy the room someone all of a sudden is giving you in his/her life. I mean, come on. We have to know what we want, and accomplish it dedicating to it the necessary effort and time.

"Stop berating yourself for old mistakes." While this is generally true, and the past should be forgotten in order to look forward, I honestly think that we must pay as much attention to the mistakes as to the wins. The only way to learn from errors is to accept a fail and remember it, and analyze it, and improve yourself from it so you don't repeat it again. Denying the mistakes we made in the past, or refusing to remember them, is far worst mistake itself.

There are a few other sentences that I didn't like, but I'm done writing.

joculator · 2011-12-13T02:53:30+00:00

I feel depressed after reading this list.

linga115 · 2011-12-12T23:58:13+00:00

this came up on my facebook news feed. pretty good summary of inner game without the terms that we use here.

illusiveab · 2011-12-13T17:18:36+00:00

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eatmyshit · 2011-12-13T07:41:33+00:00

Stop telling me how to live.

Estefanop · 2011-12-13T03:00:13+00:00

This made my day. Thanx OP

2011-12-13T17:48:06+00:00

site is not working for me. copypasta?

lingual_panda · 2011-12-13T19:26:04+00:00

Stop spending time with the wrong people.

Ok, my parents.

Stop running from your problems.

Uh, my parents.

Well which one do you want me to do?

Edit: Besides those, I think I'm doing pretty well.

TheR-Dog · 2011-12-13T02:20:13+00:00

this is awesome.

ahyl · 2011-12-13T03:16:22+00:00

i'd like a poster version of this...

and why doesn't it say stop fapping?

shivalry · 2011-12-13T07:17:55+00:00

31. Stop making unorganized lists of more than ten items and not marking them as "beginner" when they are, and then sitting down too quickly and squishing your balls.

jesusandhisbeard · 2011-12-13T20:16:05+00:00

stop telling me what to be.

aeoz · 2011-12-13T00:26:36+00:00

While I feel like there is some definite value to a lot of this inner game stuff, I also think Seddit is being kind of taken over by it. Many of us are pretty much past this stuff and need techniques, not self-motivation. Let's find more of that! :)

roxxe · 2011-12-13T08:34:31+00:00

what kind of hippy bullshit is infesting seddit?

Spurnout · 2011-12-13T03:14:22+00:00

I've always had plenty of girl friends...friend zone....but I've been doing the majority of these lately and my life has vastly improved! Talking to more girls in a non-friend way and I have a lil hiking date on Saturday that I'm really stoked about! I can't upvote this enough! Great post!

drgonx · 2011-12-13T03:23:36+00:00

M&A have a great site, updates every Monday.

2011-12-13T04:53:48+00:00

I didn't see 'bating on the list. Woo hoo!

2011-12-13T07:10:45+00:00

I had frisson all throughout reading this post. Thanks for posting.

RocketEngineer · 2011-12-13T17:15:41+00:00

Yawn.

Juggernath · 2011-12-13T22:32:05+00:00

Feeling ungrateful about life in general? Work an industrial job and look around at how many things can kill you. I promise you'll wake up the next day pretty damn grateful. Life was always "meh, whatever" to me until I started my job in a cement plant. With the age of the plant and knowing something can break and maim me makes me prettu damn grateful for the life I have and I look back and laugh. It makes you fit too which can really boost your self esteem. My whole rant is kind of off topic but I felt I'd share anyways.

Linlea · 2011-12-13T22:46:01+00:00

It doesn't work for me, so...

Mirror: http://neotraditionalidealism.blogspot.com/2011/12/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself.html

Mirror: http://pastebin.com/GquiRp8u

Kanquered · 2011-12-13T12:32:29+00:00

This is a surprisingly well written article.

pandatits · 2011-12-13T09:24:52+00:00

Fukken saved.

Title	30 things to stop doing to yourself
Author	linga115
Upvotes	349
Comments	59
Date	December 12, 2011 11:57 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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31. Stop making unorganized lists of more than ten items and not marking them as "beginner" when they are, and then sitting down too quickly and squishing your balls.